To get right down too it:
I've been seeing a girl for about 3 months now. We will do some things together with families at this point, and we get along pretty good. I've been open with her about everything from the start, I tend to carry very few inhibitions with life. I’ve always figured we are, what we experience.
Earlier this year, I was arraigned on charges of domestic assault against my ex. It’s probably the same story as everyone else tells on the internet. But the girl was a few screws short, and was drinking on antidepressants. Came home 2am, I was in bed, was throwing and breaking things around my house, because she lived with me, apparently I can’t throw her out. I did anyway, by physically carrying her drunk ass outside, and locking the door, it’s domestic violence.
The courts have been dragging it out, and my attorney has as well, somewhat of a strategy from what I understand, probably one against my check book.
But I’ve told my current girlfriend about it. I was expecting some back lash from her about it, but she graduated a year behind my ex, and was apparently aware of her mental state.
Something upsetting came up last night, and I just played it off like it did not bother me though.
Her mother knows and talked to her about it, was asking me about my dad. I’ve never met my dad, from that point on the conversation went about as her mom was physiologically analyzing me based off this domestic problem, and the lack of my biological father being around. My dad not being around is not something I tap dance around, or am shy about. I’m open about it, and if a man is not man enough to stick around, he should just leave instead of sticking around to be a bad influence on his son. I’ve turned out fine I would think. my mom cries some times when she tells me how proud she is of me, despite having it rough growing up.
In closing, her mother said: you have to be careful cause guys like that have attachment issues.
Her mom is a secretary, I see a doctor quarterly and I talk to a phycoligist 2-4 times a year because they both monitor me because I have ADHD and am on medication to help control it. My doctor has never considered anything negative about me, short of some narcissistic characteristics, which leads to trust issues. Mostly work related, that I feel I can’t trust anyone to take care of things for me, cause they may not do it as well.
I don’t really want to talk to my girlfriend about it, cause it’s not her fault. At the same time, it bothers me her mother jumps to conclusions about my character based off 1 bad thing that happened to me and my dad not being around.
Talk to the girl friend? Or I have no problems just bringing it up with her mother casually, but don’t want to over step my boundaries.
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Originally Posted by Hoggage_54
