I broke up with my girl this morning....

[Mackn]

I know it was the right the thing to do and the relationship didn't have a future but I didnt expect to feel like such shit! I was single for so long then met her and we dated for 8 months but I know i had to end it and she isn't what I need. But this feeling sucks :/, its effecting my appetite and everything! I guess I just need to give it time to get my head back together.

[MACHINE5150]

If you need a rebound DSM is available

[Mackn]

If you need a rebound DSM is available

haha thats good to know lol

[Knockout_Power]

I had the same thing about 6 years ago... I was in my longest relationship (9 months) and I didnt want to be with her but it took a good month to forget about it after we split. Weird.... I think its more so the fact that you get in a routine and its the awkwardness of leaving it that screws with us, not always the fact the other is not around

[SlimmerMe]

Get a massage. I am serious. This will help. Because at the very beginning you will miss the human touch and a massage helps to fill this void. Then get busy doing something asap. Something new. A class or go somewhere you did not go with her. Any new experience.

Hope you feel better sooner than later.

[Mackn]

I had the same thing about 6 years ago... I was in my longest relationship (9 months) and I didnt want to be with her but it took a good month to forget about it after we split. Weird.... I think its more so the fact that you get in a routine and its the awkwardness of leaving it that screws with us, not always the fact the other is not around

I feel is more so about a routine/habit as well. I mean I have been with this girl everyday for 8 months straight literaly! We probably have only not seen each other for 1 maybe 2 days the whole time we have been dating. It such a shitty situation when you get close to her family and friends bro, this fn sucks. I know we dont belong together but in the back of my head I want to call her and say I made a mistake and hope she takes me back but I know that is only for selfish reasons to make me feel better if that makes since.....

[Mackn]

Get a massage. I am serious. This will help. Because at the very beginning you will miss the human touch and a massage helps to fill this void. Then get busy doing something asap. Something new. A class or go somewhere you did not go with her. Any new experience.

Hope you feel better sooner than later.

Thanks for the reply slimmer, il try and take your advice and get a massage 2maro. I was just about to start a cycle too but obviously that is getting delayed until my head is right.

[Standby]

I feel is more so about a routine/habit as well. I mean I have been with this girl everyday for 8 months straight literaly! We probably have only not seen each other for 1 maybe 2 days the whole time we have been dating. It such a shitty situation when you get close to her family and friends bro, this fn sucks. I know we dont belong together but in the back of my head I want to call her and say I made a mistake and hope she takes me back but I know that is only for selfish reasons to make me feel better if that makes since.....

theres your problem. next time dont be like that. have your own space

[SlimmerMe]

^^^ good! Glad you are. This will help. And if you like the massage then go ahead and book a few more in advance.

[songdog]

People need their space.Nexr time try that or you the type who needs someone around all the time?

[stack_it]

Give it some time and get out and have some fun. It'll take your mind off everything.


That being said.... Am I the only asshole that doesn't have this feeling after breakups? I ended a 7 year relationship and felt perfectly normal afterwards. I deal with change very easily so I guess that might be why.

[Standby]

Give it some time and get out and have some fun. It'll take your mind off everything.


That being said.... Am I the only asshole that doesn't have this feeling after breakups? I ended a 7 year relationship and felt perfectly normal afterwards. I deal with change very easily so I guess that might be why.

probably because you truely desire boys instead of women

[oI Overdue Io]

I know the feeling of wanting to call her and make up

i had the same feelings about this one girl. I knew there was no future with her
I was in the exact same boat as you but if you feel like there is no future then dont call her!!
it would make things worse when you want to break up with her for the second time


Time heals all

[stack_it]

probably because you truely desire boys instead of women

No... That may be a factor but I don't think it's the cause.

[big_ron]

No... That may be a factor but I don't think it's the cause.

Im with you stack, was upset for 4 days after ending it with my girl after 1 yr (not 7 but still longest for me) and just felt happy and relieved after it!

[Mackn]

People need their space.Nexr time try that or you the type who needs someone around all the time?

No I agree people need thier space for sure! i'm not the type that needs someone around all the time but thats just how this relationship ended up.

[Mackn]

^^^ good! Glad you are. This will help. And if you like the massage then go ahead and book a few more in advance.

A nice massage, good friends, keeping busy, and time should be the perfect cure for this! I'l pm you have I have any more questions about relationships !

[Mackn]

Im with you stack, was upset for 4 days after ending it with my girl after 1 yr (not 7 but still longest for me) and just felt happy and relieved after it!

After I toled her how unhappy I was and all of the problems our relationship had I felt so relieved and even smiled. But like stated above I think its just becomes a routine and something/someone you are use to seeing daily. it hasnt even been 12 hours yet so hopefully within a few days to a week or so im not acting like a little bi7ch still lol

[Mackn]

I know the feeling of wanting to call her and make up

i had the same feelings about this one girl. I knew there was no future with her
I was in the exact same boat as you but if you feel like there is no future then dont call her!!
it would make things worse when you want to break up with her for the second time

here is the funny thing, I have already broke up with here once a few months back but called her back and got her back... I knew then too that she wasnt what I wanted but had already gotten attached to her and I wanted to try and make it work. Same situation again, I will not make the same mistake twice!


Time heals all

here is the funny thing, I have already broke up with here once a few months back but called her back and got her back... I knew then too that she wasnt what I wanted but had already gotten attached to her and I wanted to try and make it work. Same situation again, I will not make the same mistake twice!

[Mackn]

Its just such a sh!tty situation, her b day is in 10 days, we already had a hotel booked for a vacation in 18 days and my b day is in 23 days...

[calgarian]

Give it some time and get out and have some fun. It'll take your mind off everything.


That being said.... Am I the only asshole that doesn't have this feeling after breakups? I ended a 7 year relationship and felt perfectly normal afterwards. I deal with change very easily so I guess that might be why.

no u r not....and since all the intelligent ppl have given advise I should put my 2 cents in...got out have cpl of drinks only cpl......go fvck a girl or two...that should increase the healing process

i know why u didnt feel anything cue bi-polars can do this for u...

[calgarian]

Its just such a sh!tty situation, her b day is in 10 days, we already had a hotel booked for a vacation in 18 days and my b day is in 23 days...

shouldnt be hard to find a broad to fill the room...DONOT give in i dont know what ur issues were but they were big enough for you to break up with her......

[Mackn]

shouldnt be hard to find a broad to fill the room...DONOT give in i dont know what ur issues were but they were big enough for you to break up with her......

I wont this time bro, I'm going to do everything I can to stay busy and not think of her.. This weekend I am going out having a few drinks and the rest is in the books lol!

[l2elapse]

Give it some time and get out and have some fun. It'll take your mind off everything.


That being said.... Am I the only asshole that doesn't have this feeling after breakups? I ended a 7 year relationship and felt perfectly normal afterwards. I deal with change very easily so I guess that might be why.

im hte same way just broke up w=ith a 4 yr gf and dont care at all

[Mackn]

im hte same way just broke up w=ith a 4 yr gf and dont care at all

Wish i was like you guys lol

[stevey_6t9]

Keep your head up bro, just always remember to disregard females and acquire aesthetics.

[DSM4Life]

Im here , shaved for you....

[Swifto]

When I split with my ex I was in a bad place. Lost close to 2 stone.

You must keep occupied and you will come through it eventually.

[paulzane]

Get a massage. I am serious. This will help. Because at the very beginning you will miss the human touch and a massage helps to fill this void. Then get busy doing something asap. Something new. A class or go somewhere you did not go with her. Any new experience.

Hope you feel better sooner than later.

Make sure it is a massage with a "Happy Ending!"

[calgarian]

I wont this time bro, I'm going to do everything I can to stay busy and not think of her.. This weekend I am going out having a few drinks and the rest is in the books lol!

We need details...start to finish

[jtuner77]

Get a massage. I am serious. This will help. Because at the very beginning you will miss the human touch and a massage helps to fill this void. Then get busy doing something asap. Something new. A class or go somewhere you did not go with her. Any new experience.

Hope you feel better sooner than later.

the guy busy doing thing is so very true. I ended a on and off 3 year relationship and what did I do? Started to work out again and dropped 70 lbs, went back to college and became a teacher, I still think about her but not nearly as much as I used to.

[zimmy]

Im here , shaved for you....

That is disgusting...that dude has NO build.

[RaginCajun]

Make sure it is a massage with a "Happy Ending!"

bingo! hahaha! go get with your friends and they should know what to do. go have a night or 3 out with them and cut loose! it will help get your mind off of her and maybe find a new hobby like slim said.

[JohnnyVegas]

I know "love" and hotness are considered to be the two important factors in a relationship, but they are not. Keep dating women until you find one that you are COMPATIBLE with. If after a while she is bitching about you not putting your clothes in the hamper...incompatible. You always want to stay in and wants to go out...incompatible. You are frugal and she likes to spend money...incompatible. Find a good fit and you will end up divorced few times.

Don't get back together with someone ever. If you are incompatible now, you will be incompatible later. The breakup is inevitable. Better to do it before you commingle funds or, God forbid, have a kid.

[calgarian]

I know "love" and hotness are considered to be the two important factors in a relationship, but they are not. Keep dating women until you find one that you are COMPATIBLE with. If after a while she is bitching about you not putting your clothes in the hamper...incompatible. You always want to stay in and wants to go out...incompatible. You are frugal and she likes to spend money...incompatible. Find a good fit and you will end up divorced few times.

Don't get back together with someone ever. If you are incompatible now, you will be incompatible later. The breakup is inevitable. Better to do it before you commingle funds or, God forbid, have a kid.

so in simple words.....fvck and forget?

[oI Overdue Io]

I know "love" and hotness are considered to be the two important factors in a relationship, but they are not. Keep dating women until you find one that you are COMPATIBLE with. If after a while she is bitching about you not putting your clothes in the hamper...incompatible. You always want to stay in and wants to go out...incompatible. You are frugal and she likes to spend money...incompatible. Find a good fit and you will end up divorced few times.

Don't get back together with someone ever. If you are incompatible now, you will be incompatible later. The breakup is inevitable. Better to do it before you commingle funds or, God forbid, have a kid.

I agree fully

i got back with my ex then I got married, 2 kids and had to file for bankrupcy

she completly screwed me over and deep down I always had the feeling she wasnt the one
and I learned my lesson the hard way and it sucked
Im still recovering from it all

[Mackn]

I know "love" and hotness are considered to be the two important factors in a relationship, but they are not. Keep dating women until you find one that you are COMPATIBLE with. If after a while she is bitching about you not putting your clothes in the hamper...incompatible. You always want to stay in and wants to go out...incompatible. You are frugal and she likes to spend money...incompatible. Find a good fit and you will end up divorced few times.

Don't get back together with someone ever. If you are incompatible now, you will be incompatible later. The breakup is inevitable. Better to do it before you commingle funds or, God forbid, have a kid.

Funny that you say that because the going out and staying in thing was always an issue and so was spending money...

[JohnnyVegas]

so in simple words.....fvck and forget?

Haha! No. You need to go some people to find a good fit, but the end goal should be to find someone you enjoy being with more than you enjoy being single.

[bjpennnn]

bro your 28 go tan....go hit the gym....go get a haircut call your friends and bang a bunch of chicks. Its amazing how you can turn negatives in to positives especially after break ups take the negative energy and use it to be a dominate beast in the gym. like slimmer said go get a deep tissue rub down. You hold a lot of emotion in your body as well it will help you on so many levels.

[oI Overdue Io]

bro your 28 go tan....go hit the gym....go get a haircut call your friends and bang a bunch of chicks. Its amazing how you can turn negatives in to positives especially after break ups take the negative energy and use it to be a dominate beast in the gym. like slimmer said go get a deep tissue rub down. You hold a lot of emotion in your body as well it will help you on so many levels.

haha ya giving other girls a throw will defenitly help

Just watch out for the herp itll get ya