Holding doors open...

[Angel of death]

Now it's one thing when somebody's right behind you and you give a door a little extra push as you walk through...but what is this holding the door when you see another person in your sight bullshit? its actually kinda awkward, im about a flight and a half of stairs below somebody today and i see him standing at the top by the door holding it open and looking at me. now i feel the need to hustle up the steps just so this idiot doesnt get offended while hes doing "such a great deed." THANK GOD YOU HELD THAT DOOR BRO...I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD HAVE DONE WITHOUT YOU. theres a fineline between holding the door for someone and just flatout creating an awkward scenario...some apparently dont know the difference

[Hazard]

Now it's one thing when somebody's right behind you and you give a door a little extra push as you walk through...but what is this holding the door when you see another person in your sight bullshit? its actually kinda awkward, im about a flight and a half of stairs below somebody today and i see him standing at the top by the door holding it open and looking at me. now i feel the need to hustle up the steps just so this idiot doesnt get offended while hes doing "such a great deed." THANK GOD YOU HELD THAT DOOR BRO...I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD HAVE DONE WITHOUT YOU. theres a fineline between holding the door for someone and just flatout creating an awkward scenario...some apparently dont know the difference

LMFAO!

While I do agree..... I think you might need to lower the test dosage a little..... or maybe drop the tren so hustling up the stairs wont be so bad

~Haz~

[stack_it]

Lmao we were talkin about this a few months ago on here and since then I've noticed it happening a lot more. I guess I never really thought anything of it before.

[auslifta]

Maybe he wanted to check your arse out

[Windex]

Maybe he wanted to check your arse out

My thoughts exactly. He was jealous of your aesthetics.

[songdog]

Hell just tell them you got it.But I know wat ur talkin about.

[buffgator]

Ha this is what bugs me. I will always hold the door for a girl in every situation that is reasonable (if they are to far away im not going to stand there though) THers been a few times recently though when im following a girl into a store or the gym etc and I assume because Im about 2 steps behind they will hold the door....but no they walk right in and let the door literaly slam right into me.

[DSM4Life]

I open the door for older women but as they walk through the doorway i push them over.

[lovbyts]

Maybe he wanted to check your arse out

x3, yup he probably wanted to check you out. I would feel more than akward holding it for a guy if he was not literally right behind me. As for women, if they are faily close and I dont think it will be an awkward long time I do every time. If I see them ahead of time and want to check them out better Ill slow down so they are closer so it's not to obvious.

As for women holding the door for me, actually I have had quite a few do it. Maybe they just think I am old and need the extra help?

[MASTER]

I put concrete block doorstops down to keep doors open, but only for blind folk

[Igifuno]

AOD.. you have my brain when it comes to this subject. WTF is with that? I HATE that.. that always happens to me.

[Tigershark]

I always hold doors open. Still even open the car door for my fiance from time to time. It never hurts to be nice.

[Hoggage_54]

Walk faster

[JohnnyVegas]

People that hold the door are helpful. People that hurry when they see others holding the door are polite. People that hold the door certainly shouldn't be scored, but if you don't feel like holding up your part of the social contract, just don't hurry. They will decide whether you were worth the effort. I read this recently:

ScienceDaily (Mar. 9, 2011) — A polite act shows respect. But a new study of a common etiquette -- holding a door for someone -- suggests that courtesy may have a more practical, though unconscious, shared motivation: to reduce the work for those involved. The research, by Joseph P. Santamaria and David A. Rosenbaum of Pennsylvania State University, is among the first to combine two fields of study ordinarily considered unrelated: altruism and motor control.

It is to be published in a forthcoming issue of Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science.

"The way etiquette has been viewed by Emily Post -- that you're being proper by following social codes -- is undoubtedly part of it," said psychology professor Rosenbaum. "Our insight is there is another contributor: the mental representation of other people's physical effort. Substantial research in the field of motor control shows that people are good at estimating how much effort they and others expend," Rosenbaum continued. "We realized that this concept could be extended to a shared-effort model of politeness."

The researchers videotaped people approaching and passing through the door of a university building. The tapes were analyzed for the relationships among several behaviors: Did the first person hold the door for a follower or followers and for how long? How did the likelihood of holding the door depend on the distance between the first person at the door and whomever followed?

"The most important result," Rosenbaum said, "was that when someone reached the door and two people followed, the first person at the door held the door longer than if only one person followed. The internal calculation on the part of the first arriver was, 'My altruism will benefit more people, so I'll hold the door longer.'"

Another finding: the followers who noticed the door-holder hastened their steps, helping to "fulfill the implicit pact" between themselves and the opener "to keep their joint effort below the sum of their individual door-opening efforts," the authors write.

A more common explanation of why we extend a physical gesture of courtesy is what the researchers term the "critical distance" model: we do something for someone if she is simply near enough. But the researchers found that model insufficient. "We need a way of describing why there is a change of probability" both of doing the task and of expending more time at it, said Rosenbaum. Is the critical distance 10 feet? Why not 50 feet? What is "near enough?" And why wait longer if more people are following? "You still come back to the question of what the individuals are trying to achieve."

Rosenbaum sees the shared-effort model as enhancing, not detracting from, our appreciation of good manners: "Here are people who will probably never see each other again," he says, "but in this fleeting interaction, they reduce each others' effort. This small gesture is uplifting for society."

[lovbyts]

To the author (ScienceDaily) above. Some people put to much thought into things. This study probably cost the tax payers $5+ mill.

[bd50]

i hate when i hold a door open for a couple seconds,,, the person (male or female) walk through,, and FAIL TO SAY ****IN THANKS!!

LOL

SOO i say in a loud sarcastic tone,,, THANK YOU FOR HOLDING THE DOOR, APPRECIATE IT!

then i get strange looks like I AM the ****ing asshole here....

go figure

[Times Roman]

Now it's one thing when somebody's right behind you and you give a door a little extra push as you walk through...but what is this holding the door when you see another person in your sight bullshit? its actually kinda awkward, im about a flight and a half of stairs below somebody today and i see him standing at the top by the door holding it open and looking at me. now i feel the need to hustle up the steps just so this idiot doesnt get offended while hes doing "such a great deed." THANK GOD YOU HELD THAT DOOR BRO...I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD HAVE DONE WITHOUT YOU. theres a fineline between holding the door for someone and just flatout creating an awkward scenario...some apparently dont know the difference

fuk dude! how do you know the door doesn't lock from the inside?

ya think about that?

[wmaousley]

fuk dude! how do you know the door doesn't lock from the inside?

ya think about that?

I love optimism

[Flier]

Love the cultural America politeness.
Holding doors, the frequent use of "Sir,Ma´m", and "sorry, excuse me".
And especially how the young use this to address the older.
The way you look into each others eyes with a nod, smile, a "how are you", basically acknowledging the other person is there.

It´s very pronounced when I travel back to Europe, and especially Northern Europe, where people are colder, ruder, and to a large degree basically ignore each others existence. The teens especially, should be slapped some respect into them.

[lovbyts]

Love the cultural America politeness.
Holding doors, the frequent use of "Sir,Ma´m", and "sorry, excuse me".
And especially how the young use this to address the older.
The way you look into each others eyes with a nod, smile, a "how are you", basically acknowledging the other person is there.

It´s very pronounced when I travel back to Europe, and especially Northern Europe, where people are colder, ruder, and to a large degree basically ignore each others existence. The teens especially, should be slapped some respect into them.

Really, they are worse than the US? I think it depends on what part of the US you are from. It seems the West coast is more self centered and rude. Most of the people here wont look at anyone, acknowledge anyone, when driving they think they are the only ones on the road and dont think 2x about holding up traffic if they are in the center lane and need to turn left or right but not smart enough to get in that lane before the light and will sit there while the center lane light is green waiting for the turn lane light to turn green so they can squeeze in. I NEVER do anything like that. If I missed my turn big deal, I go down and turn around instead of holding up traffic.

People here also walk through entry ways and STOP blocking everyone behind them oblivious to anything going on except to figure out what way to go but unwilling to move out of the way, only concerned about themselves.

Ive noticed in some other countries it's just the opposite. Thailand, Philippines although when I was in Taiwan again no one looked at each other or anything going on around them.