
Originally Posted by
austinite
Doesn't sound like she is concerned about losing weight.
You need to find out what motivates her. Without motivation, you got nothing.
This is primary, does she TRULY want to lose weight, or is it something she's JUST doing for you?
Try taking her to the gym with you.
Remember, if she starts lifting the scale is no longer your barometer, use her clothing fit, the mirror, and your ever-discerning eyes instead.
Note: Although many women refuse to lift, it's actually the best thing they can do for both health and aesthetics...muscle (even a little) is very attractive.
Bring her here so she can learn how to eat, calculate her TDEE, break down macros.
This is the KEY, and you unwittingly gave it to us!
From what you describe she eats very little and it's therefore puzzling to you why she even needs to lose fat at all. The answer here is quite simple, she has progressively reduced her caloric consumption while training her body to subsist on less. These actions serve to suppress the metabolism to a point of inefficiency. In short, she's under-eating, which makes her body resistant to releasing stored fat. The solution is to start her on 5-6 small but calorically substantial meals a day...carbs and protein early, transitioning after midday to more protein dense w/vegetable meals. This will have a 3-pronged effect: 1) it will increase her overall caloric intake back to a level at which her fat cells (so to speak) are comfortable enough to release storage; 2) it will reset her metabolic set point at a higher level for more efficient fat burning; and 3) it will give her renewed energy that she'd adaptively forgotten even existed, with which will come a greater desire for use, i.e. to move, dance, get out, and with slight coaxing from you, go to the gym and train.
Best of luck to both of you.