Ok hold on everyone, this one is gonna be pretty long.
I met this girl in a random bar. She was 6'4 perfect height for me(i'm 6'6). Not that hot but,she was ok.My intentions were to get it in the first night(which i did) and then call her a friend with benefit. The next morning when I was about to leave her place,the girl starts telling me deep personal stories about herself, she opened up about her family stories, her dad passing away when she was 5,her mom loosing close relatives, her not being able to have friends in high school, because of her height, her eating in the washrooms during lunch breaks because people who used to say she was a tall freak, basically very sad stories. I was actually surprised that someone who barely knew me would open up like that.
I treated her like a gentleman the whole night (maybe that's why). So I felt very bad, and decided to stick around her. I was a positive person, there's always a solution to a problem, I would just cheer her up all the time.I would make her smile, and tell her that she should be thinking about the past, the future is what matters. I just felt like dr phil at some point.
So we spent more time together and I started developing feelings for this girl. The average girl became the girl of my dreams, we were getting along fine( well sometimes) .But at the same time, I discovered a different character. She was very insecure, self-conscience about her height, zero self esteem, unable to make decisions, gets made very easy, extremely pessimist. We would argue a lot, and she would come back saying sorry it's her fault that she needs to work on herself...
I don't like to argue or fight. Whenever that happens I would just walk away, wait until everything gets cold and then talk about it in a very calm tone. I think that's the best way to handle difficult situations.And if i did a mistake, being sorry is not enough, she has to punish me, by calling me names and saying hurtful things.
The worst is in the morning. If i said " good morning baby", wow that's it i'm dead! We would just start a fight. I actually have to wait until she finishes her coffee, takes a shower, then I can start talking.
Ok i understand we're all different, so I respected that. And honestly this is the first time in 29 years that I am dealing with this kind of person.
OK she comes from a dysfunctional family. Her mother is the same. She yells at people all the time (never at me), and she's never happy.The step father is always treated like shit, by the whole family (this guy has a very big heart).
When I started seing her, i didn't have much time to spend with her, I had gym, my online business, work, and friends. I was seeing her like 2-3 days a week. That was pissing her off, so I stop everything and hung out with her everyday.
Even though she had her problems I would still treat her like a queen. One day I gave her a rose at a restaurant, she started crying saying I was the first guy in her life giving her a rose. I always brought lunch to her work.I felt like god! lol
Now let's talk about the real problem.So about 6 months together, things started to change. One day she left her a computer at my spot and I decided to dig in her past. I couldn't get a reason as to know why this girl was always mad.If I asked her what really happened with her exes, she would cut the the discussion short and get upset.
boooooooy this whole time we were together, the girl was communicating with her ex.Acutally an ex who really didn't give a **** about her, who treated her like shit.
I felt insulted. why would you communicate with your ex when you're in a relationship? I think that's just disrespectful. I closed my eyes on that one, and told myself, " you know what? when the time is right, she will talk about it".
A month later, miss tall girl, started texting back and forth an ex **** buddy. I noticed that because, when she'd receive a text, she would just quickly hide her phone, right in front on me. So i was like, something is wrong here. I took her phone while she was sleeping and started reading the messages. They were basically sexting (wwwaaaaooooww). The guy perfectly knows she's in a relationship. How did he get so comfortable to talk about her ass, her lips etc etc....??? To me, it's really simple, she must have let him get to that stage.Cause I think it's really easy to say " hey i have a boyfriend, leave me alone !" to someone.
Couldn't take it anymore, I decided to confront her. First thing she said was that it wasn't cool to go in her stuff and that it's pushing her away. I was ok with that, so I told her that I was leaving.About 3 o'clock in the morning she texted me and dropped the bomb " I love you, I want you back).
She had never said that to me before, and neither did I. So I thought that it could be a new beginning, so we got back together.
Just about 3 weeks later, same thing happened. This time, I discovered that she had saved her ex **** friend's number under a girl's name. What the hell is wrong with this girl???
I clearly told her that I wasn't happy about that, and if she kept doing it, i will have to leave. I confronted her again, and this time she told me I was unsecured. How am I unsecured when, I know my gf is sexting an ex **** friend???? and hiding it from me?
I was going crazy, and so I confronted her again and I left.
I felt like shit, I always respect this girl. 2 days later I felt bad and came back, I knew she didn't know what she was doing,she needed help and plus I loved her to death. I think everyone deserve a second chance. I thought I could change her.
Things got worse and worse. I felt like she wasn't giving me attention. I started sensing that she didn't care about our relationship.
I really wanted our relationship to work.Whenever I would get her to seat and talk about what was happening, she would get really upset, veeryyy mad, so I always had to stop talking about us and move on. It was basically like " shut the **** up, this is how it is".
I turned to her best friend to seek some advice, that bitch pffffffff, that air head, laughed about the situation and said i was insecure.
what??????????????
I mean if my bestfriend's gf came to talk to me, about her relationship ,I would do the best I can to help her out. I'll try to be the mediator and make things better between them. So I couldn't any answers to my problems. I didn't want to leave because I had strong feelings for her, and plus I spent so much time making this relationship work.
It came to a point where I had to beg for sex ( woooaaawww maannnn). I'm a good looking guy, whenever I go out i get attention and compliments. I would feel sad about that because I'd rather get those compliments from my gf instead of strangers.
I couldn't understand why was this happening to me? Why is my gf so distant?
Ok she was getting ready to move overseas for med school, and that was stressing her out. So i thought that was the reason why she didn't have time for me...She would also blame me for not supporting her, when I always did.I even bought her a 300$ stethoscope with her name engraved on it, just to show her that I supported her dreams.
We would walk together, and if someone tall and buff walked by us, she would tell me " i really want you to be like that".
Stupid that I was was, i would just say " yeah babe, give me a couple of month". I used to be in shape when i just met her, but like i said, she took all my time and stopped going to the gym.
I wonder what she would have said, if i saw another another girl with big boobs, fine ass and told my gf the same thing....(isn't that disrespectful?)
It had some impact on my level of confidence. So time passed by and she started hanging out more with a random girl she met at her bestfriend's house party. Turned out she had a tall brother...
They exchanged numbers, and started secretly texting eachother.
So since she was spending less time with me, I decided to go out with my boys, and like I said started getting more attention from strangers. Just one night, I met this hoooottttt blonde (hotter than my gf), we kissed. I never believed in cheating, but that night I went against my principles.
We only kissed for about 20 secs, and it was strange. I felt good for that short period of time. I felt like someone was actually giving a damn about me.
My gf was home, while I was out. I came back home around 4 in the morning, and wanted to tell her i did something bad. The look in her eyes was scary i couldn't tell her right away what happened. I just told her I met someone and i was drunk.
2-3 days went by, and I was still feeling bad, I was looking for a way to tell her what had happened.( she would ask me what was wrong with me, and I would have tears and tell her that I was going to miss when she'll go overseas)
TURNS OUT the blond girl worked with her best friend, and she told her everything. The next day my gf broke up with me cold turkey.
I wanted to explain what happened, she didn't want to hear anything, she called me names, said hurtful things, and turned her back on me.
We were together for a year and half, I could at least have a closure. NOPE ZERO!!! she didn't want to communicate with me. My friends begged her to talk to me, ZERO RESPONSE!
I went to her house begged her to come back, asked her to forgive me, I was crying like a baby, she didn't want to hear anything.I was in pain, I even told her that i was going to cut a finger just to show her that i made a big mistake, and I really regretted that. ZERO response.
The whole word was coming to an end, I quit my job, didn't talk to anyone, couldn't sleep at night, i had to get drunk to be able to close my eyes. I kept doing it for 3 days until I found a bottle of morphine at home. I mixed it with strong vodka and drunk it all. I wanted to kill myself. I woke up the next day in a hospital bed, camera on top of my head, 3 walls, door closed, lights dimmed. I could hear people screaming.
(woooooooooooooooo i don't wish this to any human being)
Apparently my sister found me unconscious in my living room and called 911, I checked in as a suicidal patient. I had to convince the doctors that i wasn't going to kill myself and then they let me go.
My gf was leaving the next morning. Right about 20 min before a flight, she texted me saying " I will never forget you, have a great life".
And one my friends told me she slept with her friend's brother the same night we broke up. That just killed me.
Now if i wasn't with family, I would have jumped off the balcony.
Thank god now i'm ok,i'm starting to love life.I'm seeing a therapist every week. I can't date anyone, because I can't trust girls anymore. I don't even have the energy to start a new relationship. The girl just executed me. (my hands are shaking right now)
My question is how could a human being be so heartless like that? It doesn't make sens at all. I know I ****ed up by kissing someone else.
Don't we diserve a second chance?
I should have left a long time ago.
Good thing she's 1500 miles away from me, but she will come back every 3 months. I don't even know how I would feel if we crossed paths again.
Do i have to say hi or just walk passed her as if I never knew her?
Do you guys thing this kind of girl is going to regret one day? What type of human being is this? Why would you kill someone who has always been there for you? wooow unbelievable
I'm very mad at myself, I should have hit it and quit it a loooong time ago, and now it ****ed me up.
Why not telling me that the relationship wasn't going to work ahead of time? I got ****ed real bad wow.
How could you say i love you to someone on monday, and break up on tuesday??? wow lol
What do you guys think about this story? Is this related to her age? ( she's 23 and i'm 29..) Or is she just straight up crazy?
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