I dont feel the emotion "Love".

[cherrydrpepper]

I realized this at some point and I know its sick. I don't feel "Love".

I don't care about anyone in this world more than I care about myself.

I uh. I feel bad at times. I dont' know how to really feel something. Other than a stick beating thread where you all whip the shit out of me I dont know what I can make this.

I guess what I am asking is what some of you feel inside if you are willing to share. Maybe towards your wife or your child. I dunno. Im concerned. I want to be a better person but I seem to only care about myself. At time I have wanted to go to church to feel something and at times I do feel something at church. But I am worried. I can't hurt people anymore. I know Im not alone I guess what is different about me is I dont want to be this way.

Can you guys open my eyes and make me change? I would appreciate it.

[Euroholic]

I feel you bra. I dont love either. All my mates have girfriends and family and such. I just much rather be a lone wolf and just prey on weak venerable women for sex then just move on to my next conquest. Love is over rated i loved once all it got me was a knife in my heart. Never again ay i wont trust women no more. All you can rely on in this world is your self. Love makes people weak and clouds there judgment. Correct me if im wrong but A girlfriend/wife is only good because its a substatute for masterbation??? I dont need a life companion when i can do everything for my self. Chin up mate love is for the weak headed.

[BlueWaffle21]

Cold heart here!!

[boz]

I feel you bra. I dont love either. All my mates have girfriends and family and such. I just much rather be a lone wolf and just prey on weak venerable women for sex then just move on to my next conquest. Love is over rated i loved once all it got me was a knife in my heart. Never again ay i wont trust women no more. All you can rely on in this world is your self. Love makes people weak and clouds there judgment. Correct me if im wrong but A girlfriend/wife is only good because its a substatute for masterbation??? I dont need a life companion when i can do everything for my self. Chin up mate love is for the weak headed.

Have to disagree mate and thats a bad way of looking at a life let alone your life, espically with the masturbation commentt you made also. I pity you honestly. Yes women give us pleasure but that is by far not the only reason why they exist. Yes i have been stabbed in the back to, but we cant go off that one woman that did that to us, not all women are like this. I would be living a very small minded life, with no progression of living my life, all i would be doing is just living. Love is a great feeling, and its one of the strongest bonds and emotions a human being can feel. You would be very surprised, how much of a better man you can become with the RIGHT woman by your side.

[GirlyGymRat]

I feel you bra. I dont love either. All my mates have girfriends and family and such. I just much rather be a lone wolf and just prey on weak venerable women for sex then just move on to my next conquest. Love is over rated i loved once all it got me was a knife in my heart. Never again ay i wont trust women no more. All you can rely on in this world is your self. Love makes people weak and clouds there judgment. Correct me if im wrong but A girlfriend/wife is only good because its a substatute for masterbation??? I dont need a life companion when i can do everything for my self. Chin up mate love is for the weak headed.

U need some time on dr loves couch!

[Honkey_Kong]

CDP, don't bother worrying about it. Loving somebody doesn't just happen over night, it takes a long time to build that kind of care for somebody.

You see those lovey-dovey types that are affectionate? They don't necessarily love each other, they just love to play grab-ass. And they're in lust too. Trust me on this, just live your everyday life and be happy with yourself, things like love will creep up when you aren't expecting them to and you'll never know you're experiencing it until long after you're already in it.

[diesel101]

Dont worry alot of poeple feel this way the only problem is most of them turn out to be serial killers!Just kidding Bro

[Ajc330]

I realized this at some point and I know its sick. I don't feel "Love".

I don't care about anyone in this world more than I care about myself.

I uh. I feel bad at times. I dont' know how to really feel something. Other than a stick beating thread where you all whip the shit out of me I dont know what I can make this.

I guess what I am asking is what some of you feel inside if you are willing to share. Maybe towards your wife or your child. I dunno. Im concerned. I want to be a better person but I seem to only care about myself. At time I have wanted to go to church to feel something and at times I do feel something at church. But I am worried. I can't hurt people anymore. I know Im not alone I guess what is different about me is I dont want to be this way.

Can you guys open my eyes and make me change? I would appreciate it.

This is a noble thing brother, perhaps you have walked away from God/Allah. The old saying is"God doesn't leave you, you leave God"

[Times Roman]

I realized this at some point and I know its sick. I don't feel "Love".

I don't care about anyone in this world more than I care about myself.

I uh. I feel bad at times. I dont' know how to really feel something. Other than a stick beating thread where you all whip the shit out of me I dont know what I can make this.

I guess what I am asking is what some of you feel inside if you are willing to share. Maybe towards your wife or your child. I dunno. Im concerned. I want to be a better person but I seem to only care about myself. At time I have wanted to go to church to feel something and at times I do feel something at church. But I am worried. I can't hurt people anymore. I know Im not alone I guess what is different about me is I dont want to be this way.

Can you guys open my eyes and make me change? I would appreciate it.

I'm glad I only believe half of what you say.......



If I believed 100% of everything you've written about, I'd think you to be a alchoholic sociopathic suicidal body builder that's funnier than shit one minute and makes you want to cry buckets the next..........

[Soar]

Calling Dr Lunk!!!

[Lunk1]

CDP....please see the receptionist at the front desk to fill out some paperwork and provide your credit card number!

Honestly...ppl who feel this way are normaly so self involved they do not allow for themselves to "feel" love.

Loving children...thats easy! I never thought I could love that much! I'd eat a bullit today for my daughter...nothing matters more in my life than her!

I feel equally as strong about my wife! It's a feeling of being complete...an emptiness filled!

It's easier than you think CDP...just worry less about yourself and start putting others first. Stop objectifying the women you meet would be the first step!

[canesfan804]

Not sure if you're serious but........
I was lot like you when I was younger. I didnt think I wanted to get married because I was having sooo much fun smashing and dashing.I always hung out with an older crew 24-27, and we did alot of parting. I was hitting clubs before I was 17. Had lots of faun and met lots of ladies. Then I met my wife....I was only 20 and she was 18, we knew some of the same people. Marriage was the last thing I wanted. She asked me about 3 months after dating, I was thinking "WTF is this girl thinking???" but I said yes because no need in messing up a good thing and I could always go from yes to no. I had a bit of a drinking prob but I guess she saw what I could become. Even if I didnt.

FF 14 years later.... we have 3 beautiful daughters, a dog, couple of homes and life is awesome. I love this woman for everything she has done and continues to do for me. She made me a better man. I couldnt have found a better wife/mother. Good luck with finding the right ONE for you, meanwhile keep attending church and God will help soften your heart. You dont want to go through life with this selfish hard heart. It usually does not end well for anyone.

[Capebuffalo]

It will happen when you least expect it. Then you will be like damn. You can't force it.But it will happen.

[canesfan804]

CDP....please see the receptionist at the front desk to fill out some paperwork and provide your credit card number!

Honestly...ppl who feel this way are normaly so self involved they do not allow for themselves to "feel" love.

Loving children...thats easy! I never thought I could love that much! I'd eat a bullit today for my daughter...nothing matters more in my life than her!

I feel equally as strong about my wife! It's a feeling of being complete...an emptiness filled!

It's easier than you think CDP...just worry less about yourself and start putting others first. Stop objectifying the women you meet would be the first step!

Agree! I got to get better at this short and to the point method.

[canesfan804]

It will happen when you least expect it. Then you will be like damn. You can't force it.But it will happen.

You are not admiting to LOVE something are you? I didnt think you wanted people to know that you're a nice guy

[Atomini]

Cherrydrpepper,

I am very much the same way, not because I choose to be this way but I believe it is in my psychological make up to be unable to. I also attribute it to my massive shift in looking at things logically and rationally rather than emotionally. I have discovered I really am incapable of this thing called "love" that so many people speak of, which is actually nothing unique... "love" is just a label that emotional individuals have given to the cocktail of Dopamine, Oxytocin, and Serotonin (as well as various endorphins) that your body produces in particular ratios in response to a stimulus (kissing a girl/boy, talking with them, touching them, being infatuated with them, etc.). THAT IS ALL "LOVE" IS! It is an increase in various neurotransmitters that make you feel a certain euphoria when that stimulus is present (boyfriend/girlfriend).

Love is not something 'special', or is it something 'emotional' or 'spiritual' unless you want to bullshit yourself into believing that (which is what the majority of individuals are doing when they engage in "love" without understanding the proper biochemical and neurological causes for the feelings of "love". This is a FACT, because all I need to do is take an individual that claims they are in "love", throw them on a drug that inhibits the production of Oxytocin and Serotonin, as well as eliminates the reuptake of these neurotransmitters, and what you will have is this: an individual incapable of loving, feeling, or producing any euphoria in the presence of their 'love interest'.

There is your scientific answer as to what "love" is. It is just a collection of emotional feelings manifested by increases of various neurotransmitters in response to a combination of visual, auditory, tactile, and mental sensations.

But there you see how I mentioned I look at things logically instead of emotionally, and my explanation here is a great example of this.

As for myself, I realized that although in the past I did tell two individuals I loved them, upon looking back at it, it was not love in the sense that so many people believe it to be. Love is not permanent, it is not "the strongest thing out there that never dies", it is simply what I explained above. You can love 10 different people in life, and there is no difference. There is no "one true love" that people claim to eventually find. There is only that person that stimulates such an intense euphoric sensation (as the result of increased neurotransmitter and endorphin activity) that drives you to want to spend the rest of your life with them and do anything for them over anyone else. That person, is, essentially, a drug that you are addicted to.

I can immediately eliminate your "unbreakable love" by loading you up on a cocktail of SSRIs, sedatives, and neurotropics that will result in your being unable to: laugh, love, cry, or feel any emotions what so ever.

Want to know what a mother and her baby are in crude terminology? Two dope fiend addicts.

[Capebuffalo]

You are not admiting to LOVE something are you? I didnt think you wanted people to know that you're a nice guy

Yes I am.

[human project]

I realized this at some point and I know its sick. I don't feel "Love".

I don't care about anyone in this world more than I care about myself.

I uh. I feel bad at times. I dont' know how to really feel something. Other than a stick beating thread where you all whip the shit out of me I dont know what I can make this.

I guess what I am asking is what some of you feel inside if you are willing to share. Maybe towards your wife or your child. I dunno. Im concerned. I want to be a better person but I seem to only care about myself. At time I have wanted to go to church to feel something and at times I do feel something at church. But I am worried. I can't hurt people anymore. I know Im not alone I guess what is different about me is I dont want to be this way.

Can you guys open my eyes and make me change? I would appreciate it.

Love isn't a real feeling... Its an idea

[Capebuffalo]

Go to Vegas you can buy love by the hour. Or so I have been told

[gixxerboy1]

Cherrydrpepper,

I am very much the same way, not because I choose to be this way but I believe it is in my psychological make up to be unable to. I also attribute it to my massive shift in looking at things logically and rationally rather than emotionally. I have discovered I really am incapable of this thing called "love" that so many people speak of, which is actually nothing unique... "love" is just a label that emotional individuals have given to the cocktail of Dopamine, Oxytocin, and Serotonin (as well as various endorphins) that your body produces in particular ratios in response to a stimulus (kissing a girl/boy, talking with them, touching them, being infatuated with them, etc.). THAT IS ALL "LOVE" IS! It is an increase in various neurotransmitters that make you feel a certain euphoria when that stimulus is present (boyfriend/girlfriend).

Love is not something 'special', or is it something 'emotional' or 'spiritual' unless you want to bullshit yourself into believing that (which is what the majority of individuals are doing when they engage in "love" without understanding the proper biochemical and neurological causes for the feelings of "love". This is a FACT, because all I need to do is take an individual that claims they are in "love", throw them on a drug that inhibits the production of Oxytocin and Serotonin, as well as eliminates the reuptake of these neurotransmitters, and what you will have is this: an individual incapable of loving, feeling, or producing any euphoria in the presence of their 'love interest'.

There is your scientific answer as to what "love" is. It is just a collection of emotional feelings manifested by increases of various neurotransmitters in response to a combination of visual, auditory, tactile, and mental sensations.

But there you see how I mentioned I look at things logically instead of emotionally, and my explanation here is a great example of this.

As for myself, I realized that although in the past I did tell two individuals I loved them, upon looking back at it, it was not love in the sense that so many people believe it to be. Love is not permanent, it is not "the strongest thing out there that never dies", it is simply what I explained above. You can love 10 different people in life, and there is no difference. There is no "one true love" that people claim to eventually find. There is only that person that stimulates such an intense euphoric sensation (as the result of increased neurotransmitter and endorphin activity) that drives you to want to spend the rest of your life with them and do anything for them over anyone else. That person, is, essentially, a drug that you are addicted to.

I can immediately eliminate your "unbreakable love" by loading you up on a cocktail of SSRIs, sedatives, and neurotropics that will result in your being unable to: laugh, love, cry, or feel any emotions what so ever.

Want to know what a mother and her baby are in crude terminology? Two dope fiend addicts.

I have to disagree with you. I do agree on the 1 true love part. But there is more to it then just a feeling. Or feelings from the chemicals in your brain. Maybe im also thinking more then just love but caring about someone also. But i will go with out so my wife doesnt. I would and have spent money on shit for her i wouldnt for myself, cause i want to make her happy cause i love her. I would kill and almost have if someone hurt her. You could take away the chemicals in my brain and i would still do the same.

[Lunk1]

I have to disagree with you. I do agree on the 1 true love part. But there is more to it then just a feeling. Or feelings from the chemicals in your brain. Maybe im also thinking more then just love but caring about someone also. But i will go with out so my wife doesnt. I would and have spent money on shit for her i wouldnt for myself, cause i want to make her happy cause i love her. I would kill and almost have if someone hurt her. You could take away the chemicals in my brain and i would still do the same.

I agree!!!!!!!! You will be able to tell in this thread..those who have experience "real" love and those that are just selfish!

[Ajc330]

Cherrydrpepper,

I am very much the same way, not because I choose to be this way but I believe it is in my psychological make up to be unable to. I also attribute it to my massive shift in looking at things logically and rationally rather than emotionally. I have discovered I really am incapable of this thing called "love" that so many people speak of, which is actually nothing unique... "love" is just a label that emotional individuals have given to the cocktail of Dopamine, Oxytocin, and Serotonin (as well as various endorphins) that your body produces in particular ratios in response to a stimulus (kissing a girl/boy, talking with them, touching them, being infatuated with them, etc.). THAT IS ALL "LOVE" IS! It is an increase in various neurotransmitters that make you feel a certain euphoria when that stimulus is present (boyfriend/girlfriend).

Love is not something 'special', or is it something 'emotional' or 'spiritual' unless you want to bullshit yourself into believing that (which is what the majority of individuals are doing when they engage in "love" without understanding the proper biochemical and neurological causes for the feelings of "love". This is a FACT, because all I need to do is take an individual that claims they are in "love", throw them on a drug that inhibits the production of Oxytocin and Serotonin, as well as eliminates the reuptake of these neurotransmitters, and what you will have is this: an individual incapable of loving, feeling, or producing any euphoria in the presence of their 'love interest'.

There is your scientific answer as to what "love" is. It is just a collection of emotional feelings manifested by increases of various neurotransmitters in response to a combination of visual, auditory, tactile, and mental sensations.

But there you see how I mentioned I look at things logically instead of emotionally, and my explanation here is a great example of this.

As for myself, I realized that although in the past I did tell two individuals I loved them, upon looking back at it, it was not love in the sense that so many people believe it to be. Love is not permanent, it is not "the strongest thing out there that never dies", it is simply what I explained above. You can love 10 different people in life, and there is no difference. There is no "one true love" that people claim to eventually find. There is only that person that stimulates such an intense euphoric sensation (as the result of increased neurotransmitter and endorphin activity) that drives you to want to spend the rest of your life with them and do anything for them over anyone else. That person, is, essentially, a drug that you are addicted to.

I can immediately eliminate your "unbreakable love" by loading you up on a cocktail of SSRIs, sedatives, and neurotropics that will result in your being unable to: laugh, love, cry, or feel any emotions what so ever.

Want to know what a mother and her baby are in crude terminology? Two dope fiend addicts.

Yea keep thinking that scientist, you will be a lonely miserable man

[Atomini]

Yea keep thinking that scientist, you will be a lonely miserable man

I am not lonely and nor am I miserable. You should not impose your values on others. If you value love, emotions, feelings, and relationships then all the power to you. But I don't go around telling others to abandon the pursuit of a significant other and a relationship just because I personally don't see value in it in MY life.

This is one of those topics/threads whereby everyone will start going around telling others what THEY should value in life and what THEY think everyone ELSE'S priorities should be, and with that being said, I am bowing out of this thread.

Shame on you if you're someone trying to dictate to others what they should value, what they should prioritize, and what they should pursue in life. I don't think you or anyone else here would take kindly to someone telling you how you should live your life. When someone attempts to say such things to me, I am clearly within my justifications to tell that person to kindly or unkindly fvck the hell off.

[gixxerboy1]

Atomini tell me you dont love Tren

[jasc]

Atomini tell me you dont love Tren

busted!!

[Atomini]

Atomini tell me you dont love Tren

Fvck........

[Lunk1]

Fvck........

[Papa Smurf]

I realized this at some point and I know its sick. I don't feel "Love".

I don't care about anyone in this world more than I care about myself.

I uh. I feel bad at times. I dont' know how to really feel something. Other than a stick beating thread where you all whip the shit out of me I dont know what I can make this.

I guess what I am asking is what some of you feel inside if you are willing to share. Maybe towards your wife or your child. I dunno. Im concerned. I want to be a better person but I seem to only care about myself. At time I have wanted to go to church to feel something and at times I do feel something at church. But I am worried. I can't hurt people anymore. I know Im not alone I guess what is different about me is I dont want to be this way.

Can you guys open my eyes and make me change? I would appreciate it.

The solution to your problems are the words written in red, both in this post and the King James Bible

[gixxerboy1]

The solution to your problems are the words written in red, both in this post and the King James Bible

i know im going to offend people but really i dont care at this point. Everyone can post how great church is and god and its the solution and blah blah blah.

he would learn as much as reading the twilight series, they are both works of fiction and atleast a twilight has a human that can even love a vampire or werewolf or what ever he is in the story.

[Papa Smurf]

i know im going to offend people but really i dont care at this point. Everyone can post how great church is and god and its the solution and blah blah blah.

he would learn as much as reading the twilight series, they are both works of fiction and atleast a twilight has a human that can even love a vampire or werewolf or what ever he is in the story.

You dont offend me bro, your a full grown man, and have chosing to believe what you want to.....
Your were giving free will for this very reason..........

I will say this..............We will miss you

[CMB]

CDP,

Love is a funny thing... It can be the best thing ever or the worst.

People see other people kissing, holding hands, etc and they get envious. This is the good side.... However the bad side is much worse. When you find out your girlfriend cheats on you, you'll know how powerful love can be and how dangerous it is as well. Or maybe you just fundamentally disagree with your girl on an issue and you two break up. Then you'll know why love can be a terrible painful thing.

IMO,
Keep an open mind. Perhaps you'll find a girl one day you truly care about. I felt the same way you did when you described it in your original post at one time. I found a girl, had a blast for a while, then it ended and here I am, certainly in worse condition than before. I wish I had never met her because now it feels as if there is a void in my life that cannot be filled with anything besides another girl.

Fvck love, its stressful. Don't go looking for it, it will come. Also, ITS ALL ABOUT THE GIRL

[cherrydrpepper]

Really insightful responses thank you all so much especially some of you who opened up and said things you normally wouldn't say to another human being.

[Hoggage_54]

I ♥ beer.

[cherrydrpepper]

I ♥ beer.

I saw your reply and I said out loud "He's going to type I love lamp". Oh well close

[canesfan804]

I ♥ beer.

I thought you dont usually drink beer??? Figured the most intresting man in the world would love scotch or cognac....

[canesfan804]

i know im going to offend people but really i dont care at this point. Everyone can post how great church is and god and its the solution and blah blah blah.

he would learn as much as reading the twilight series, they are both works of fiction and atleast a twilight has a human that can even love a vampire or werewolf or what ever he is in the story.

Why are you so against church? I agree with alot of the things you say but I cant get on board with this. There are some things that I dont like about church but overall it is a good thing. Helps people change their lives for the better mostly. I know it is the reason for most wars but honestly if you believe in almost any religon you are supposed to love your neighbor no matter what they believe. Wars are actuall started by men who twist their beliefs for profit of some sort. Im not trying to convert you or push my beliefs on you just standing up for them as you are doing. Dont hate us church folk cause we LOVE you Gixx and hope one day you see the light. I do understand your frustration with most of the threads like this becoming religous if you dont believe tho.

[redz]

Being loved and loving someone deeply is one of the best feelings I know.

[gixxerboy1]

Why are you so against church? I agree with alot of the things you say but I cant get on board with this. There are some things that I dont like about church but overall it is a good thing. Helps people change their lives for the better mostly. I know it is the reason for most wars but honestly if you believe in almost any religon you are supposed to love your neighbor no matter what they believe. Wars are actuall started by men who twist their beliefs for profit of some sort. Im not trying to convert you or push my beliefs on you just standing up for them as you are doing. Dont hate us church folk cause we LOVE you Gixx and hope one day you see the light. I do understand your frustration with most of the threads like this becoming religous if you dont believe tho.

If it makes you happy then good for you.

To me santa and the north pole are more real then god and heaven

[Lunk1]

If it makes you happy then good for you.

To me santa and the north pole are more real then god and heaven

Safer to believe in both...just in case lol!

[gixxerboy1]

Safer to believe in both...just in case lol!

atleast i know where santa lives and i've seen him at the mall