Abortion and breakup.

[Jonbolon]

Iv'e wrota a post that my girlfriend was pregnant a few days ago, she got pregnant when I were on cycle. I said that abortion wasn't an option. I was wrong.
She has now decided to take abortion, and break up with me at the same time cause I don't support her in her decision to kill my child.
This make absolutely no sense to me, since we were talking about names for the child 2 days ago. As u can understand im having an really hard breakdown and Im still on my pct which exaxtly don't make it any easier.
I'm not trying to cry about it here like a child, but im in a really shitty mood now, and everything feels so dark.
Does anyone here have any experienses with this?
Im only 19 and know that its not the smartest choice to have the baby right now, but it's still mine.. And she is breaking up along.
We have been togheter for 5 years, and I have her tattoed in my sleeve. I love her of all my heart, so this destroys me.
It feels like having some 'good uncles" here to help me through this would help me out, cause I don't have anyone to talk to about this so please don't be only negative.
Thanks.

[RigPig]

Iv'e wrota a post that my girlfriend was pregnant a few days ago, she got pregnant when I were on cycle. I said that abortion wasn't an option. I was wrong. She has now decided to take abortion, and break up with me at the same time cause I don't support her in her decision to kill my child. This make absolutely no sense to me, since we were talking about names for the child 2 days ago. As u can understand im having an really hard breakdown and Im still on my pct which exaxtly don't make it any easier. I'm not trying to cry about it here like a child, but im in a really shitty mood now, and everything feels so dark. Does anyone here have any experienses with this? Im only 19 and know that its not the smartest choice to have the baby right now, but it's still mine.. And she is breaking up along. We have been togheter for 5 years, and I have her tattoed in my sleeve. I love her of all my heart, so this destroys me. It feels like having some 'good uncles" here to help me through this would help me out, cause I don't have anyone to talk to about this so please don't be only negative. Thanks.

Sorry to here but maybe for the best man. She might just be scared and freaking out right now, just giver her what she wants, if it's space..give it to her, when she want to talk be there to listen.
I hate to say it but this could be a blessing in disguise... Time will tell..

[Jesusbrah]

Feeling for you bro. Dont do anything stupid you might regret later!

Time heals all wounds.

[Jonbolon]

I understand that you are thinking 'you are only 19 and there's plenty fish in the ocean'
But my love for her is the strongest u can feel for a person, I love her like my mom and that she is doing this after being talked down my her mom takes me down.. But thank you for you replies.

Btw can the mods move this thread from Anabolics Q to Anabolic lounge? I guess i posted in the wrong category

[frighteous]

carry your ass outta this forum with that bullshit and post it in the lounge

[Jonbolon]

Frighteous, Carry your ass out of my thread with your bullshit fu***** silly bastard. Go and learn how to read again.

[frighteous]

She is all about the abortion because she doesn't want to have a kid with a dbag. Plain and simple. Chicks who get pregnant by dudes with secure futures don't have abortions, they keep the kid to keep the guy. I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but it's true.

Maybe try to make a family with a chick from a trailer park. She'll probably want to settle down with your kind.

[Jonbolon]

Exaxtly how can you say that I'm a dbag? Im not going to defend my self in front of someone like you. Piss off.

[Docd187123]

Exaxtly how can you say that I'm a dbag? Im not going to defend my self in front of someone like you. Piss off.

He's a troll man don't mind him any attention.

[Back In Black]

This is a lounge thread not a Q&A.

It will be moved.

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it sucks man, but if yall are both 19ish theres a good chance if she did have the baby ud end up paying child support after yall broke up. not pretty but very likely. at 19, while u may think u know what u want, u probably dont. i was a completely difft person when i was 19. went thru a similar situation and long story short: child support and a screwed up bitch to deal with all the time.

good luck!

remember: u will get over this with some time and one day u might be glad ur not stuck with that girl.

[Badblues]

Hang in there bud, I'm certain that you must feel helpless with all of this. Try to do things you enjoy to keep your mind occupied with other things. Giving her space is the best bet, she may come to her senses and change her mind, she may not, crowding her and drowning her with your overwhelming emotions right now is not for the best. Try to kick some ass at the gym, reconnect with friends you had before your relationship and gym habit ruined them and keep your head on your shoulders!

Be strong bro, things will work out one way or another and in the end you'll grow as an individual regardless.

[Metalject]

You can file for a restraining abortion order. This will at least slow the process down and allow both of you to think. It may piss her off but if the child is what's important to you then that's irrelevant. Once that's in place the final decision will be up to the judge and it does go in the mother's favor more often than the father but fathers do win, and they win fairly often if they have the right council. There are several legal entities out there that specialize in just this, its become a fairly common legal battle. The ACLJ, American Freedom Law Center, Thomas Moore Law Center, etc. Any of those and plenty others will be able to explain your options and provide help.

[BG]

She is all about the abortion because she doesn't want to have a kid with a dbag. Plain and simple. Chicks who get pregnant by dudes with secure futures don't have abortions, they keep the kid to keep the guy. I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but it's true.

Maybe try to make a family with a chick from a trailer park. She'll probably want to settle down with your kind.

Relax asshole......

[thegame1431]

it sounds like it is for the best long term. 19 is too young to have a kid these days. Finish college start a career then worry about kids, but get married first of course

[Bonaparte]

She is doing you a huge favor and it was a mistake to give her grief about it.

[thisAngelBites]

I wonder if she was on the verge of ending things with you before she found out she was pregnant. If she was, then that obviously means she thinks there are serious relationship problems and that needs to be discussed. If she wasn't, then some combination of the incredible worry and pressure of becoming a parent plus a change in hormones has put her here. If she is very newly pregnant, then she has time to calm down and think things through, rather than making a rash, emotional decision (if she was not previously contemplating ending the relationship).

I'd say in general that children do not fare well when their mother does not want them. And there is an ungodly amount of work and effort that goes into raising children (which is also the parents' pleasure when the child is loved and wanted).

You're not going to make her continue the pregnancy if she doesn't want to, so you probably should decide if you want to be with her even if she is resolute that she wants to terminate. Then you should sort things out and find a way to support her. If you can't do that, and the fetus is your priority, I guess you're going to have to walk away.

[Times Roman]

she's an emotional basket case right now.

you are pct'ing and still a kid (you shouldn't be doing steroids mate) so you're an emotional basket case right now too.

give her the space she needs

if you are religious, then go talk to your preacher. have him mediate and maybe talk to her too. you have to find a way to talk to her that won't set you both off on an emotional rollercoaster.

you need to find out if this is an emotional response due to this traumatic situation (curable), or
if this is something that has been brewing and the current situation accelerated her decision process.

[GirlDragon]

My friend got pregnant when she was around 21 / 22. She and her boyfriend decided together to have an abortion. It's now 15 years later and it's still something that they both regret. It's a huge decision to take another life. Ask her just to give it some time and thought. Children really are a blessing even though it might not seem that way now

[Jonbolon]

The hardest part is that I can't do anything about it. Everything was fine and we were talking about names on the child.... That was before she talked to her mom.
Me and her mom have had an little turbulent past because of different view on things. Her mom made her change her mind.
So thats whats destroys me, everything were fine.. And suddenly she changed her mind and said that we have to go our different ways. It gives no sence at all. She just left me, without saying a real goodbye. From a perfect heaven to hell in 24H. I never ever thougt this would happen after all we have been thru togheter.

[Hazard]

Nothing we say is going to help the way you feel right now.....

Experience can tell you that time heals all wounds. No matter how hard life gets or how many times you get knocked down..... You have to continue to get up and move forward.

You'll get past this and reflect on it..... You'll probably have 3-4 more of these "idunno how I'm going to handle it" situations in the next 5-10 years..... You will survive them all.

The gym is my constant happy place. My body is something no one can make look bad but myself. You can take away my home, car, and friends..... But you'll never take my rounded delts or 19 1/2" arms :-)

Hang in there man..... An listen those who have been there before

[GirlyGymRat]

My friend got pregnant when she was around 21 / 22. She and her boyfriend decided together to have an abortion. It's now 15 years later and it's still something that they both regret. It's a huge decision to take another life. Ask her just to give it some time and thought. Children really are a blessing even though it might not seem that way now

One of my friends had abortion during college days. She also regrets. Remembers with pain unborn birthday every year.