A Very Strange and Confusing one for Me

[Metalject]

Have you ever been with a girl, well not a girl but an actual woman you really like, more than like. The connection you two have is intense. All the things about the relationship are strong, I won't say perfect because there is no such thing, but it's about as good as it can get when living on planet earth. And then there's the problem.

When we are intimate, I start getting anxiety ED, It really messed with my head and her too. Round too, same thing. Things start well and then boom, its gone. If I think about her, and I mean the simple thought, the old man part works like a champ and stands at full attention. The thought is all it takes. My desire for this woman is strong, there is no issue in me finding her attractive - she may be one of the more attractive women I've ever been with.

Now I'm not talking about an issue with some old dirty butt we've all had in our past. I'm talking about an issue that is affecting a real life relationship and one I don't want to lose. This could easily mess this up and understandably so.

So the bullets:

*There's nothing wrong with my pecker
*Think of her, pecker works to full capacity
*Libido is strong
*I have to control myself when I'm around her or I'd be "pointing" at everyone. I usually think sad things, this helps...a little, but not always. There's a lot of tucking the ole wiener under the belt thing going on.
*My Libido, it's on fire.

So everything seems to be working like it should except in the moment that it should. I have had this issue because of gear related problems in the past, but that's a different story. Currently, my hormone levels are on point. I've even begun a run of Tren, which usually intensifies all this and it did, except in the moment it really needs to.

And by the way, the last time I tok 15mg of cialis the night before and another 15mg 2hrs before I saw here....nothing, not a damn thing. I've used AR-R's cialis before simply to help prolong the activity and it's always worked great. Is it possible that I got a bad batch? But even so, even if it were a bad batch something else is wrong since my pecker works at all other times.

Thoughts?

[vbguy]

Yes. I'm here with you. But it ONLY happens to me (as shitty as this may sound) when I'm doing something I'm not supposed to. I'm married, and there has been "times" when I went to cheat…and I psychically couldn't. It was VERY frustrating because these girls were SMOKING, and embarrassing to say the least. Once you see this girl a few times and get comfortable with her, I will bet you $ this issue will go away. Explain to her your situation and take it slow with a lot of for play. Good luck with your battle.

[< <Samson> >]

Shit, I lie to myself about this. I don't even like thinking about it, since it just makes it worse.

It's exactly how I describe it to myself - some sort of commitment anxiety / sexual anxiety - it's fvcking annoying as hell

I tried a few things - straight dick pills < didn't really help. If I drank - it helped rarely, usually just made it worse.

I tried out my anxiety meds(Xanax) & it worked wonders. But, this shit doesn't settle with me well at all. Even .5 of a gram knocks me out sometimes. Yet, it's only thing I found to help.

It's so annoying - she's all what's wrong, which just adgitates me even more

Same here - dick works just fine, but when the intimate situation arises(I have issues)

But, not always either

Annoying

[Oki-Des]

Well, the good news is that since you get erections at other times; you are right in knowing there is nothing wrong with you. The bad news is that erections are also strongly connected with your brain, and just because its all in your head does not make it any easier to treat. I think the best thing you can do is be honest with her, and the more honest you are the more comfortable you will be with the situation. The more comfortable you are, the easier it will be to get back to normal. Woman want honesty, and if you tell her that you care about her and want to please her so much that it is actually messing with your head; she will certainly understand. And, if you are having a problem while engaging sexually with her, go down on her for a while. It will show her that you really are interested in pleasing her. If you bring her orgasm even before having sex, she will be much more giving and compassionate back. Of course it can cause an anxiety that can be hard to shake, but being honest with her and being very giving with her will cause her to like you even more and feel a connection with you that will be stronger in the end. Good luck!

[marcus300]

I think if we are all honest its happened to us all at some point in our life's. When we are in a situation and you want things to go so well in every department it can cause anxiety in the bedroom because when a new relationship starts its one of the areas we all like to perform well at and if she is so perfect for you like you say then this can cause you to overthink things when your performing. Its happened to me even when I've been on cycle and also had Cialis and it isn't a nice feeling and once its happened it can grow worse because you are thinking about it. Its all in our heads and learning how to dampen down the anxiety helps. Try having a small drink see if that helps or even take 5mgs of valium but I would try and be open and talk to her about it and tell her how you feel and just try and take things slowly next time, you can always saying to her that she is your ideal women and it causes you some anxiety in the bedroom, once you start talking about it and the pressure might go.

[GirlyGymRat]

^^ x2

Communicate with her. If she is a nice person, she will understand and seek to work through it with you!

[likelifting]

I think it's fairly common. Especially with someone that you really care about, as opposed to being in vegas and doing the vegas thing or something.

Give it time and my guess is you'll be fine. You might even try joking with her about it. If its true, tell her you really care about her and maybe that's it.

I remember this one time it happened and out of the blue on a afternoon, it was on. 2 or 3 times. Never a concern again.

Don't worry about it. Prolly only make it worse.

[Hoggage_54]

And, if you are having a problem while engaging sexually with her, go down on her for a while.

That's what I do. Don't forget to lick her ass too.

[yeahbuddy289]

Have had this happen to me multiple times... When I first start dating a girl I can barley get it up to save my life... And when or if I do my erections are usually weaker than normal. But after dating for awhile I get hard just sitting on the couch next to her lol keep your chin up and think positive.. I know this sounds counter productive but maybe have a couple drinks to calm your nerves down... This has worked for me.

[kelkel]

Just relax. Something will click when your with her and your issue will be gone before you know it.

[RaginCajun]

That's what I do. Don't forget to lick her ass too.

This!

And you are putting pressure on yourself to perform.

Just relax and ride that puppy!!!

You are mind fvcking yourself!