Hello all, Longtime member (2003!) infrequent poster

Im always here readnig but now i need your help
age 26
weight 193
height 5/11
bf 17
goal: to cut up
Ive been lifting for a while and really want to dial my diet in now. I've been trying a few different things but nothing seems to be working well enough so I'm gonna ask for help, something I rarely do!
BMR is 2018
TDEE is 3100
Question is I never was reaching anywhere near those calories before. I tried a diet that was 2200cal 50p/20c/30f and lost fat for a while then it slowed. I figured my metabolism was crappin out so i bumped up the cals to 2400 keeping the same macro ratio. And again lost fat for about 1-2 weeks I honetly am full at 2400. Is my metabolism shit? I train 4 times a week and cardio 3days. What sort of deficiet should i be shooting for from my TDEE?
Pro/carbs first three meals
Pro/fats last three.
Cheat once/twice a week
I'm thinking about cutting out carbs PWO. Right now I'm taking ON 2:1:1 which is 75g simple carbs.
Also I drink about 4 shakes a day(Shakes dont count as a meal IMO unless they include milk, cottage cheese, peanut butter, whey, oats etc) REPLACE THEM!, I have a shitty schedule at work (ent biz) but I can get real food throughout the day
if I make my meals before, (this is the key). I really want to shift to real food and am adding more now.
Do you guys think my semi liquid diet has slowed my metabolism down a lot? Do you suggest bumping up the cals more with real food? Seems to me thats the first step.
Yes, 2 shakes a day MAX, IMO i would only use shakes PWO or as a last option to get some protein and carbs down my neck
Thanks Bros!