Wife or Girlfriend treatment after weight loss

[Techguy30]

Does anyone else have this same prob, Ive lost 40lbs and am in the best shape of my life and my wife seems like she is pissed about it. Its weird, she is starting to get super clingy and insecure even though she has never had a reason to not trust me she does not anymore. I dont know if its from other women paying more attention to me (which they are big time compared to before) but it sucks, almost makes me feel bad for getting in shape. Not sure if this is in the right section soooo sorry if this needs to be in the lounge or where ever, just figured guys in here might be able to relate.

[SlimmerMe]

This is a typical response from anyone who breaks the pattern whether a better body or better job....anything that is a change. People resist change.

Now is the time to REALLY HUG her A LOT. There is a fact that if you hug a female sincerely for over a minute, that oxytocin is released in the female and when this happens she will bond to you and this bonding creates trust. Try this. And if I were you, I would hug a for a long long time. Hugs make us feel safe. And isn't that what you want for her to feel? To feel safe and protected? Best gift you could ever give a woman.

[Techguy30]

thanks for the advice slimmer.. its nice to have a source for "insider info" from the other sex on here lol

[Times Roman]

you lost 40 lbs and in your woman's eye, you became "more marketable", or your stock has risen in the eyes of other women. She is feeling insecure, as you are no longer the fat disgusting slob you used to be, but instead are now this golden adonis that some hottie may come along and steal you away from her.....

.... my woman responded by also losing alot of weight, and double downing on her feminine wiles under the sheets.

[Techguy30]

my wife did respond with working out and loosing weight with me but she was already slim, I guess its common....only if I can get her to double down on the feminine wiles lol Maybe in time

[Techguy30]

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[SergeantCarbs]

[QUOTE=Techguy30;5522945]Does anyone else have this same prob, Ive lost 40lbs and am in the best shape of my life and my wife seems like she is pissed about it. QUOTE]

+1

[Standby]

man i lost 40lbs went from somewhere in the 30s bf% to 16/17% and less girls talk to me. i did something wrong

[Techguy30]

lol idk standby maybe its all in your head..... maybe you need to talk to them

[38jumper38]

I lost 35 lbs, went from 185 lbs (25%bf) to 150 lbs (14%bf). My wife turn so jealous over night, that I having problems to go into the grocery store by my self, and now I'm going into hrt I'm afraid what's going to append. I'm trying to take her to gym, but its something she does not wanna go, she is 114 lbs, and never had problem with weight. I hope this will get better.

[Noles12]

Haha my gf is the exact opposite. When we started dating i was 6'3 230 at about 12% and she loved it. Now i have bulked up to 280 at around 16-18% and she hates it. She says she wants the old body back and she hates how big i am. I tell her if she wants the "old body" to look like that then she has to deal with this body for a few months

[Standby]

lol idk standby maybe its all in your head..... maybe you need to talk to them

yea maybe thats the problem i need to talk to them

[Emperor9]

nice advice on the hugs slimmerme im going to try that.

[tbody66]

man i lost 40lbs went from somewhere in the 30s bf% to 16/17% and less girls talk to me. i did something wrong

Do you still have an ugly face or bad personality? Or are you a conceited jerk and come off as self-absorbed or narcissistic?

If we appear to be too full of ourselves we can seem un-approachable. The same as when you were out of shape and saw a hot girl you probably thought she wouldn't be interested in you so you wouldn't even try. We never know what anyone else's personal perception is. The truth is that we modify our behavior based mostly not on our thoughts of who we are or on others thoughts of who we are but based on what we think others thoughts of us are.

[gbrice75]

Great post, I have the exact same issue. Mine seems to have less to do with trusting me/more attention from girls (although that factor is present too), and more to do with the fact that she feels 'left behind'. Years ago we worked out together and got in shape together. This time around, we did it again for our wedding, but right after she just fell off and I kept going. She's gained a bit of weight back and is feeling very insecure, and makes me feel bad about what i'm doing. It's a selfish way to be, and I try to make her feel better but at the same time it does piss me off when i'm made to feel bad about being healthy. I work my ass off and deserve to feel good about it. Now that she's pregnant, I imagine this is going to get exponentially worse.