weight/fat issue...cry for help?

[caindey]

Not sure if posted in right spot, so feel free to advice me to another part of the forum if so.

Current status is something within the lines of cant stand what i see in the mirror, unhappy and feeling crap about how i look, on the edge to a little depression almost..and very tired hearing about how much weight ive gained from family and friends when i see them the odd times a year.. Obviously im overweight at the current weight of aprox 97kg nicely put on my 25yo and 180cm tall body.. not quite sure about the body fat %, but close to 25 or more maybe? To top the whole thing up, 3/3 doctors i've visited tells me i got gyno as wall (yay! go me!). Something that deffo doesnt help the selfimage, and im close to give it all up tbh..Cant even sit topless in the garden, cus i hate what i see and feel absolutely crap about it. So deffo no beaches this summer.. I once used to be very active in sports and was rather scarliy thin at times. Good thing (i guess) is that ive been told to lose 2st and apparantly i will look very differently.

Things needs to change..Its either that or rot in front of a computer game.. Think i chose a change!
Most importantly i need to lose about 15kg, but would like to make it 20kg so that im down to 75kg or so.

But in all honestly i dont know where to start.. Trying to wrap my head around diets, what to eat and what not, but seem to fail at it.. And dont know how to count cals and all that really.
And what about all these pills out there that says theyre burning fat etc etc? Any good? Heard about Ephidrine as well, but thats about it..'heard about it'. And keto? Does it really work at this weight and size, or?

Exercise atm is doing a morning run before breakfast 3-4 times a week.. Because of crap shape its not lasting long atm, and high pollen count makes breathing living hell at times, but mapped the round to be 2,6miles. Im planning on joining the local football team as well as i find running around is incredibly boring and feel like im not getting enough 'burn'..
Any ideas of what i could try, to maximise burn etc? Would it be wise to like join classes that does cardio and stuff? or maybe zumba, or some kinda boxing or something? Like i said im completely blank atm on where to start and what to do now..

I've also moved to a completely new place, so dont know anyone around here, so im pretty much in this all alone, without anyone to tag along or help motivate me..

Would be really nice if anyone could point me in the right direction, give some hints and tips, and maybe have some solutions.


It would be nice if the pictures from my sons christening in november would have me in it with a genuine smile and not looking chubby anymore. That would be real nice..

[gbrice75]

I can appreciate where you're coming from mate. Been there, done that. 3 years ago I was 255lbs at 5'11... imagine that nightmare of a physique. I was lazy, unmotivated, and depressed. If I can change my lifestyle, mindset and body, anybody can!

Congrats on making the first step - reaching out for help because you realize you need to make some drastic changes.

I'm quite sure we can offer some guidance, and plenty more will chime in - but for now, it would be really helpful if you can tell us what a typical day's diet looks like for you. The more detail you can provide, the better. Do you plan to weight train? I think that would be an excellent idea. In fact, not doing so would be short changing yourself IMO. Building some muscle is one of the best things you can do to start transforming your physique. Don't worry about getting 'big and bulky' if that's not the look you're going for; contrary to popular (and uninformed) belief, that look takes years to achieve.

Waiting to hear back from you mate!

[caindey]

Thanks for taking the time to comment mate! appreciated.

Unmotivated and depressed is two words that realisticly describe the situation I think. Mindset is most deffo not where it should be..

I did have a drastic weightloss last summer, went from around 92kg to 82kg in about month and a half. Only had a couple meals a day, so burnt lots more than intake. Unfortunately, it went back up almost as quick..

Lets start with the diet part.. I think this part is close to no diet at all.. Ill try to describe a typical day's diet;
-Breakfast; is usually a bowl of cereal, or 3 pieces of Ryvita with philadelphia and ham..that is if i get a breakfast in before lunch.
-Lunch; erm..see breakfast..not very often these days i do have both meals. If i do, it usually is a couple sandwiches with ham or tuna
-Dinner; usually it consists of chicken or pork mostly with some kinda potatoes, or lasagna/pasta type of food.. basically different versions of this day in and out..
-Late snack(?); if it happens, its usually back to the pieces of Ryvitas again, same as breakfast..

So as you can see, its not unnormal that amounts of meals one day might be as low as 2, and 4 at highest...

About the gym part, im deffo wanting to get back to the gym asap..in theory.. Its just that i dont feel that cool walking around feeling crap, and doing my low weight bench presses..lol
But yes, gym is very wanted. Been off since may now, so feel like i've lost every little thing i managed to build up back then..

Just as away, and ill answer as well as possible on any kind of answer.

cheers mate!

[RaginCajun]

just want to let you know that you just made the best decision of your life by joining this site. take full advantage of all the knowledgeable people on this site. don't worry about what others in the gym think about you. go in there, do YOUR work, and get out! looks like these guys will have their work cut out with you. go thru some other peoples threads and see what kinds of foods people are eating, it will blow your mind how dedicated people really are to their physique. go thru and read the stickies on the top of the diet section. go do some homework and come back with a sample diet, and everyone will chime in when they get a chance. hope this helps and trust me, its not easy, but do able!

[SlimmerMe]

You came to the right place. Slow wins the race if steady and consistent.

Good luck to you~