I wanted to provide an update for everyone who has contributed toward, have or will read this thread.
My wife and I visited my urologist last month regarding a few things.
1. The options on conceiving regarding fertility concerns with trt treatment.
2. How committed is he going to be towards my testosterone replacement therapy regarding getting up to speed on everything?
His suggestion was that I go completely off my testosterone and begin clomid (I was clinically low at 197 total test so this is not a great option). I mentioned hcg and he said he would "look into it" (still has not contacted me and its been several weeks). I also had the study
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15713727 and asked if he would be interested in looking at it. My wife and I could both tell he was not interested.
He then said how fertility is not his specialty but then went on to explain how they could needle aspirate my testicle or even cut it in half to get immature sperm if needed. The whole time he is going on about this I'm thinking to myself "your reluctant to try low dose hcg but OK with cutting my testicles in half?" He then recommend that I see a fertility doctor because that is not his specialty.
I didn't go off on him even though I was getting very frustrated. This visit was my wife's idea and I was there to help her to see what I've been seeing for a while. Also, I have a professional relationship with this doctor's wife.
I then mentioned that I've found online clinics who have doctors who specialize in hormone replacement therapy. He made his opinion about them very clear before I could ask if he will run labs for me. He basically asked why should I go to an online doctor and pay thousands of dollars for medicine that insurance could cover if I used a local one? Now I'm thinking to myself, "But you won't give me my prescriptions, are you really this blind?" Also, for someone who was so quick to punt me to a specialist for fertility since he does no deal with it you would think me finding a doctor to manage my hrt who specializes in that area would make perfect sense right? He did not see it this way. So my wife and I leave his office and argue on the way home. She has been holding out hope that there is a doctor in our area who can treat me but I know better, I've looked.
A couple days later I called the only pharmacy in the area that dispenses hcg and ask the pharmacist what doctors dispense that with testosterone. I get two names from the only compounding pharmacy that has hcg. I called both and neither one is up to speed on hrt. Now I know the only option I have to get treatment is an online clinic. After checking out a few and I'm already set up and receiving legal, appropriate therapy.
Thanks to everyone who has contributed to helping me find what options are best. I hope that someday this helps someone who is in a similar situation.