Through studying philosophy for a good many years (the philosophy which the article I mention is based on), I've learned some central things about the human mind . One of these very revolutionary things has been
the central cause of anxiety, depression and like states of mind. (And psychiatry has failed miserably because it doesn't have a clue about it. This is my educated, careful opinion.) I just finished reading an article, and an editorial comment prefacing it, that IMO makes the cause of these troubled states of mind very clear. This quote from the article, in its simplicity, speaks volumes:
"When we are unfair to the world, we cannot let ourselves get away with it—not in terms of our own feeling and thoughts and life. We punish ourselves in various ways. One way is through nervousness, a deep ill-at-easeness. Another way we punish ourselves for contempt is through an unshakable self-dislike."
I'd recommend you give it a read. I believe you all will see something of yourself in what it describes. I did. Its title is
The Ethics of Mind.
The Ethics of Mind / The Right of Aesthetic Realism to Be Known