
Originally Posted by
2Sox
I'm certain that everyone here feels your pain because most of us have had the same experience at one time or other - WITHOUT having done a cycle. (And if you haven't, you WILL.) When it happens, it's devastating. I respect you for bringing it up.
IMO, something that hasn't been given the importance it deserves on this forum, regarding this subject, is the effect of our state of mind on our body. For example, someone here gave a link to a very important site (I wish I remembered it. It was fascinating.) that deals with porn addiction (and porn addiction can take many forms. It doesn't have to be off the charts. IMO, if you watch porn once a week, you're addicted. I've watched it and it's difficult not to get caught up in it.) There were scientific studies done that made a direct correlation between impotence (upon intimacy with a woman) and porn. Had nothing to do with masturbation. When a guy was ready to have relations with his lady, his organ failed. AND when the addiction stopped, so did the impotence. Like it was before. What does this say about the mind?
I've studied this subject for quite a few years. As a single "player" in my younger days, I was troubled by this a good deal. When I started studying philosophy some years ago I accidentally happened upon answers that addressed this and MANY other things. I learned that if I have a purpose in sex that I'm proud of - to have a good effect on my wife and want her be stronger, to have respect - there is much greater pleasure and a much greater passion; in fact much different than anything I had ever experienced. And there was never a problem in this area. It boils down to the study of what good will truly is.
What picture do you have when you think of the word "proud"? Does "straight" and "erect" come to mind?
And when a person watches porn, is he proud - or deeply ashamed? (whether he admits it or not)
My advice: You don't have to be in love, but think of your purpose when you approach a woman in sex. Is it for conquest? Is it for using a woman's body to glorify and love yourself? Or is it to know her and have a good effect on her - and as a result have a good effect on yourself?
Edit: If you'd like a link to the site of the philosophy I've been studying, just shoot me a PM