Tony, the thing you've got to realize is that in this game you are going to hear a lot of conflicting information. There are many reasons for this. I won't address them all here, but to answer your question, you will hear some guys saying "anavar doesn't shut you down" - but many times these comments are based on personal experiences with many variables, and no quantifiable way of measuring accuracy. Perhaps what they really mean is "anavar didn't seem to shut me down as hard as deca, or tren, or test did." But what they meant wasn't exactly what they said - this is what I like to call a "bro-ism."
Then you have the hordes of users on the fringe who hear the "bro-isms" and take them as fact and spread them like the gospel. Throw into the mix the hotheads who believe that their personal experiences must be indicative of universal truth - and you have a battleground primed for the many hotly debated issues that we live with.
My personal approach to this is 1) research extensively and develop a plan, 2) hope for the best, but 3) prepare for the worst. If it's as bad as some say, then I'm safe, because I planned for it. If it's as good as some say, I benefitted because I wasn't scared off completely - and now I know what works/doesn't work for ME - and that's what's important.
If you apply that to your situation, I think it will open some options for you.
The nice thing is you seem to have the financial resources to do this right, so you're not limited there. My advice is to take a hard look at the limiting factors that keep you from using the optimal compounds to achieve your goals - and see if there's not a way to do it safely, or another compound that will prevent or reduce the unwanted side effects. The game is a giant balancing act. You just have to know the rules to play the game. LOL at all my talking in the abstract...guess I'm feeling philosophical tonight.

Hope that helps, bro.