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[ForeverTrying]

ForeverTrying

Hi im new to the forums so i wanted to introduce myself n explain y im here, im not that literate so please go easy on me.

Im 19 years old, the youngest in my family ive always been looked down by my 2 brothers as i always use to get bullied n was just weak and skinny-fat really this led to me having to go to the hospital a couple times had to have surgery on my head as my skull got cracked by the boys when i was 14 i had to get stiches was weird that i survived, ive switched schools many times n not been able to go cuz id be so beaten up that id be home for months cuz of injurys this caused me to fail all my grades as i always missed out on my education even tho i knew i could of done really good, but ive always been a victim in some way, even my parents treat me different just cuz of the way i am compared to my brothers, 1 brother is 21 years old hes really strong he does muay thai n does alot of fights he is very fit n muscular gets all the girls has a car a really good job, goes gym, always tells me y am i so different to the 2 brothers, really makes me feel bad about myself as they have a reputation, my oldest brother who is 23 is very bulky n strong like those bouncers on tv n is very intimidating.

Y am i so different? Y cant i be strong n built? Wanting to feel good about myself? Want to make my family proud make them notice me they would make fun of me saying hows he gna get a girlfriend hes so lanky n skinny-fat (6ft) so weak.

At the beggining of this year is when i told myself i need to start doing something im tired of being labelled a victim all the time, i couldnt even do 1 push up, yh 1 push up? Pathetic? My brother can do 100 so easily i always see him so vain always looking at himself in the mirror.

I started working out mostly because i found someone who accepts me for who i am, she makes me happy n made me forget about alot of things, but i dont get what she sees in me, shes amazing, beautiful way out of my league, shes very athletic n sporty she does professional netball n is a part time model, how did i get her? I really dont know what she sees in me but she always tells me i make her the happiest girl alive n i always make her smile, even my brothers dont understand how i managed to get with her, she always has guys much more better looking trying it on her but she always gets angry n doesnt pay any attention to them at all, i can tell she really loves me n hopefully well get somewhere.

Ive been trying to get in shape for me n for her, i do wna look good for her n i wna be able to look in the mirror n be happy with what i see, i dnt wna be treated like a victim all the time, she lost her virginity to me so shes seen me how i look but she always says she doesnt care n im perfect just the way i am, but i just wna look better cuz she deserves better i feel pathetic when i look at myself ive always felt pathetic.

Since ive been working out ive finally been able to do a pushup, i can do 8-10 before i have to rest so i can see ive made some difference and i can do 15 pullups which ive never been able to do before, i train at least 3 times a week minimum at my local gym, i train really hard i push myself i love going to the gym n working out it makes me feel good helps me get away from everything makes me smile, i dont really have any friends so i dont go out much i have only 1 friend i actually see on rare occasions like if im passing the area.

I need help y dont i see much gains? Im not happy with the progress im making, my brothers always take the piss out of me saying i go all the time train so hard but ur hardly making any progress, i have so many supplements to help me such as whey protein concentrate, isolate, casein protein n creatine i also have bcaa, hmb, mct , d-aspartic acid, beta alanine, maltodextrin, omega 3,6,9, CLA loads of stuff i dont really need i should of just got the whey protein n creatine but to be honest i was desperate n was just gullable when it came to products, y am i not seeing any gains?
My gut is discusting it looks like im pregnant from the side as it sticks out quite alot from the bottom n i have "love handles" but i dont get it, i dont eat chocolates, sweets, fizzy drinks, junk food i try to eat as clean as i can possibly but its very hard wen my mum doesnt make healthy food n i dont really have enough money to buy my own food.

I need help on what to do, i feel like an outcast in my family n i just feel like crap when i look at myself. Please help

[Times Roman]

Welcome to the board mate!
I was in your shoes, being bullied, in elementary and jr. high school. I was small and very skinny. only 60lbs in the sixth grade. To make things worse, I was very intellectual, and even carried around my chess board every where I went. So I can understand to a certain extent what you are going through.
I can tell you two things:
1) Join the local gym and maybe have a trainer show you the ropes the first couple of weeks
2) Learn to eat so you can grow some muscle!

Not knowing how to eat to grow muscle by far is the most overlooked aspect of what we do. Spend some time here:
http://forums.steroid.com/showthread...nd-sample-diet...

this will tell you a little bit about how to bulk up.

the rest of the nutrition threads you can read can be found here:
http://forums.steroid.com/forumdispl...RESOURCE-FORUM

Congratulations on the hottie!

And thanks for joining. Hope to see you bumping around the board

---Roman

[DigitalGorilla]

Ok first off. lose all that shit your taking. Some of what you mentioned will hurt muscle gain. Second off. Protein. Bottom Line. Eat chicken Steak etc.....and watch out for any "lose fat" causing stuff....like soda, salad dressings and stuff like that. And keep training! Dont do any cardio right now (im sure no one has ever told you that lol) but seriously forget cardio for at least 3 months. DO WEIGHT TRAINING as much as possible until the muscle fails. And -- pick you head buddy. Your self esteem is shit - and you wont feel beter until you act better --- you need to know what your worth, and it sounds like you got a good girl so dont be so down on yourself. Wake up tomorrow - walk in your brothers room and throw him a f'n beatin! If you arent strng enuff - then wait till hes drunk and trip him lol but dammit boy stand up! Be the man you want to be and you will be that before you know it

[DigitalGorilla]

Oh and one thing that gave me a huge response right away - FARMERS WALKS. google em..... trust me - best thing you can do for nice arms!

[Times Roman]

Ok first off. lose all that shit your taking. Some of what you mentioned will hurt muscle gain. Second off. Protein. Bottom Line. Eat chicken Steak etc.....and watch out for any "lose fat" causing stuff....like soda, salad dressings and stuff like that. And keep training! Dont do any cardio right now (im sure no one has ever told you that lol) but seriously forget cardio for at least 3 months. DO WEIGHT TRAINING as much as possible until the muscle fails. And -- pick you head buddy. Your self esteem is shit - and you wont feel beter until you act better --- you need to know what your worth, and it sounds like you got a good girl so dont be so down on yourself. Wake up tomorrow - walk in your brothers room and throw him a f'n beatin! If you arent strng enuff - then wait till hes drunk and trip him lol but dammit boy stand up! Be the man you want to be and you will be that before you know it

gawdamm man! that advice just cleared my sinus passages!!

[Bouch]

Welcome and you came to the right place. You'll no longer be the outcast if you listen to the guys on these boards and follow the advice to the T. Nutrition is everything wen it comes to gaining clean weight and cutting fat.

[ForeverTrying]

I have been a member since late February, with food i can only eat whats in the house i don't really have the funds to afford my own food, do u know what i can do for my gut? its really disgusting puts me off so much =/, thank u so much i feel much better now, i try my best to go to failure all the time.

[DigitalGorilla]

gawdamm man! that advice just cleared my sinus passages!!

Lol -- I feel his pain. I was always fat. So i know where his self esteem level is at....


My last advice on this --- is "Kenny ROgers - Coward of the county" Youtube it - download it, steal it - whatever --- just listen to that song....and you will know when its your time to stop and lock the door. Keep your head up and Just keep at it!

[DigitalGorilla]

I have been a member since late February, with food i can only eat whats in the house i don't really have the funds to afford my own food, do u know what i can do for my gut? its really disgusting puts me off so much =/, thank u so much i feel much better now, i try my best to go to failure all the time.

Its hard when someone else is picking out your food but do what you can...your family eats meat right? Just stock up when they do! lol Hide a piece of something under your pillow -- thats what they do in jail

[DigitalGorilla]

But on a serous note - please remember that working out with OVERALL help you..making your arms bigger will help in a way to make the stomah smaller ......SO if you cant help the food you eat - then I would say get out outside and start FARMER WALKS! start at 40 lbs .....even if you drop it in 30 seconds still do it and Private message me when you either get up to 70 pounds, or beat your brothers ass which ever comes first.

[ForeverTrying]

Its not as easy as it sounds lol, everything is like weighed out n labelled, i tried before asking my mum if the portions that i would normally get i could keep to myself n make my own foods but then shell just say y do i have to always be different etc, so there nothing much i can do about that =/, i have rolled Scottish oats, eggs, bread, basics i have access to, is there any way i could turn this to my advantage? or any simple things i can make that would pack on a difference to my food intake cuz its so hard for me to understand what i should be eating.

[DigitalGorilla]

Dont feel bad -- at that age I had NO CLUE whatso ever.... but you can tell your mom - I need to eat differnt to be healthy and happy...she is your mom she should want that. So you never have red meat or chicken? At all? or just not alot?

[DigitalGorilla]

You can google foods that are high in protein and low in fat.....Broccolli, chicken, red meat, some beans....etc

[DigitalGorilla]

oh and stay AWAY from bread

[DigitalGorilla]

But again -- if you cant fix your diet - then fix your workout. If you have to eat shit at least put it to good use.... Do the RIGHT things and you will gain weight muscle and confidence. Can I ask where you live? And next time dont waste money on those supplements....either spend it on food or at least Protien shakes or something.... Just remember this .....a guy with muscle can lose Bodyfat WAY faster then someone without.....so you need to build those muscles up!

[KarsenH]

Ok first off. lose all that shit your taking. Some of what you mentioned will hurt muscle gain. Second off. Protein. Bottom Line. Eat chicken Steak etc.....and watch out for any "lose fat" causing stuff....like soda, salad dressings and stuff like that. And keep training! Dont do any cardio right now (im sure no one has ever told you that lol) but seriously forget cardio for at least 3 months. DO WEIGHT TRAINING as much as possible until the muscle fails. And -- pick you head buddy. Your self esteem is shit - and you wont feel beter until you act better --- you need to know what your worth, and it sounds like you got a good girl so dont be so down on yourself. Wake up tomorrow - walk in your brothers room and throw him a f'n beatin! If you arent strng enuff - then wait till hes drunk and trip him lol but dammit boy stand up! Be the man you want to be and you will be that before you know it

Yeah he just needs to center himself around people in here that will help him, this is all true.

Except the cardio thing, the heart is the most important muscle, I feel like he should do some cardio on top of his weight training. There's always time for Cardio... even though I myself hate it haha.

Anyways OP: Good luck man, get huge and don't put up with people's bullshit. Curl the kids in your school.

[DigitalGorilla]

My reason for the cardio comment is this.... When i started - I was 350lbs..... and I spent 5 months doing heavy cardio. I was losing weight but not very fast. So i read up on the body basics and realized - I was fat my whole life - never even went in a gym....forget working out ....and there for i wasnt burning my full potential. So i started to build muscle....and then the weight started to drip off me. I was losing 4 to 5 lbs a week with out really eating good.

An undeveloped body - in my experience - is hard to work with. Build NORMAL muscle first ...causse not being able to do 25 pushups at 19 is NOT normal muscle.

[DigitalGorilla]

Yeah he just needs to center himself around people in here that will help him, this is all true.

Except the cardio thing, the heart is the most important muscle, I feel like he should do some cardio on top of his weight training. There's always time for Cardio... even though I myself hate it haha.

Anyways OP: Good luck man, get huge and don't put up with people's bullshit. Curl the kids in your school.

Do you at least agree with that? that muscle is easier to work with?

[brazey]

Welcome

[fit2bOld]

Lots of good info here to start with. Muscle is a great fat burner... Hit all the forums and study.

[austinite]

Welcome. Looks like TR has you covered

[image613]

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[boxa06]

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[ForeverTrying]

I live in London n yh i i realised what stupid mistake i made when i got all these, thank u so much everyone!

[BIGGUNSWANTED]

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[ForeverTrying]

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