His Life Depends on it...

[AndriodLee]

Any advice from you older guys on how I can help get my 55 year old father back in shape...

He is 55

240lbs
5' 8
Possibly 30% body fat... Maybe even higher

He hasn't work out in 20 years, and he recently we to see the doctor about his snoring.

The doctor told him that he needs to lose 40lbs or he might possibly have a stroke or even die in his sleep.

He's stubborn as hell, and won't listen to anything I tell him about diet and exercise, and I was hoping that you guys might have some advice for me.

[Vettester]

You need to get through to him that this is critical stuff. A stroke could = death! That's got to get the attention of anyone. There's no other way around it about exercising and eating right. Is it possible that he can join up with you at gym and you guys can help each other?

Also, on his BW, how's the hormone panel? Maybe a candidate for HRT? Actually, this would be a great place for him to visit and gather information. You got to be direct and straight about this with him, because if he takes it lightly he'll just blow it off ...

[lovbyts]

Get him interested in some hot younger woman (30s or less) and it's will motivate him. LOL

Worked for me.

[kaju]

he is going to have to want to do it for himself. If he doesn't want to you will never get him to do it. You know him better than us so what ever you can do to want to loose weight do it. we cannot advise you on his psychology.
My dad is 72 and I tried all my life and it never happened. But..... about 15 years ago I said to him hey lets go walking together and it worked for about three months and then the bad weather set in and it never happened again. during that three months my dad lost about 10lbs and was feeling better and looking better. You will have to find what what works by yourself. after he does it for himself the two of you can come here and ask questions that fit him.

[OH REALLY]

get his testosterone checked

[AndriodLee]

get his testosterone checked

IF I have him get his testosterone checked, what should I have them look for?

[AndriodLee]

Thank you guys I have copied and pasted your suggestions, and sent them to his email address. I hope that more of you guys can add on to this, because I am really trying to show him that I am concerned.

[scorpion62]

Hi mate my dad was over weight 64 took a strock, got a heart op now we cant stop him doing exercise thank god hes well to young to be in the ground so is your dad, tell him just to change his diet to start with and take it from there maybe if he drops some pounds that might kick start him

[Older lifter]

It is going to have to come from in himself, you can talk (if you have that kind of relationship) and maybe show some pic's of just how good some guys look in there 50's, tell him that your concerned about him and it might help if you let him know at times that you need him around and want him around.
All you can do is plant the seed, it will be up to him to make the move and then maybe train together for a bit, you know father and son thing.

Good luck man and hope he starts a new

[OH REALLY]

IF I have him get his testosterone checked, what should I have them look for?

low testosterone ....you should stay off steroids till you understand it more...

[bass]

its the hardest thing to make some one do what they don't want to do, i was the same way and i believe we are all like that. sometimes it will take some tragic (if he can survive it) to get him realize how important it is. what did it for me is i hang out with fit people, and one day i started noticing how fat and unattractive i was, looked like a slob, also looked so much older than my age. so looking at photos one day i thought shit, i look so unhealthy! and that was it for me. another element that motivated me was my son working out and getting in shape. So we started working out together and we still do. its never too late to look and feel great, if he starts today, then two years from now he'll be where he wants to be. good luck.

[spywizard]

one of the main issues and problems with this thread and what's being asked.. testosterone can produce, or rather = feed cancer cells, and as we age, it's more possible that those cancer cells exist..

that's why when someone is diagnosed with prostrate cancer part of the treatment is to suppress 100% testosterone.. it gets even more ugly from there..

diet diet diet, that's the best way for him to make major changes in his life, training is another.. a tool as it were..

[yannick35]

Most people in there 40 and 50 i know have been really trying P90X program, this is one amazing total training program. You don't need a lot of equipement either.

You can replace the pull ups and other exercises with resistance bands. Anyways i am doing it a bit to i am 37 but injured my back a while back.

[OH REALLY]

I got the px90 aswell i like it except that dame yoga...

[brokendown]

I just went through a lot myself these last 7 years, I still need to get in shape , am working on it. Do you think he has any depression problems, you may not know it even if he does.

You spoke of him snoring, does he have sleep apnea, thats common in us overweight guys.Does he actually do anything for his self, besides sleeping on the couch does he go fishing, or have a clean healthy way to enjoy his self.

I have went through many of the above situations , and I see a lot of older guys that were good hard workers, that seem to fall apart in their older years, many times they just dont know how to handle free time, they seem to not have anything to look forward too.

It may be hard put you just need a way to get him moving, maybe if he has grand kids they can involve him in outdoor activates. you may have to use your imagination to find things to do.

I know plenty of older men that seem to love fishing by the boat docks in the hot weather, lots of good scenery that time of year...

[SamTHorn]

Here's a suggestion.

On top of a healthy diet he can go to the swimming pool and enter the hot tube until he is sweating and then jump in the pool until he is cold. Do this continually! This process will burn up to 25X more fat cells then low impact workouts. I general loss up to 3-5lbs per week doing this 3X per week.

~ Sam

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[AndriodLee]

I just went through a lot myself these last 7 years, I still need to get in shape , am working on it. Do you think he has any depression problems, you may not know it even if he does.

You spoke of him snoring, does he have sleep apnea, thats common in us overweight guys.Does he actually do anything for his self, besides sleeping on the couch does he go fishing, or have a clean healthy way to enjoy his self.

I have went through many of the above situations , and I see a lot of older guys that were good hard workers, that seem to fall apart in their older years, many times they just dont know how to handle free time, they seem to not have anything to look forward too.

It may be hard put you just need a way to get him moving, maybe if he has grand kids they can involve him in outdoor activates. you may have to use your imagination to find things to do.

I know plenty of older men that seem to love fishing by the boat docks in the hot weather, lots of good scenery that time of year...

I think you might know exactly what he's going through. He dose suffer from sleep apnea, and even though he never shows it he seems to be suffer from depression.

Just like you mentioned, he's a hard working guy, and it seems like he has nothing to look forward to. I already tried getting him to eat better and exercise, but he doesn't listen to me, and it hurts his feelings when I tell him to watch what he's eating. Plea

Please PM as soon as you can. It be really good to talk with somebody who might understand what my father's going through.

[AndriodLee]

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