marriage counselling

[hummerman]

Anyone attend marriage counselling?

If so did it work?

[hockeyguy]

Did one session and haven't gone back...probably should

[jccnewbie]

I did with my wife for almost a year. I would have prefered a more interactive therapist but all in all once you clear the air of all the crap inside your head, you feel better. Everyone is different and I don't know the details but you should look at it this way, if you want it work out, why not try? When we stopped going we were much better off than when we had started. Not perfect by any means, but I found that just being able to vent to someone outside of our family helped keep me more level headed. Little crap that bothers you every day builds up on you and turns into real big problems before you know it. I would just recommend giving it a shot, what do you have to lose?

[DSM4Life]

If you can say you love your wife enough to go then go.

[hummerman]

We are going..... Was just wondering if anyone had tried it before.

[jccnewbie]

We are going..... Was just wondering if anyone had tried it before.

Good luck, just try to stay open minded if you want it to work.

[POPS]

My hearts go out to all you guys out there with maritial concerns. I just got married this past June and Im the happiest guy in the world. Dont get me wrong we fight mainly about b.s.things but like I said were still newly weds. I hope that we never fall into the rut where we need outside help. Now if youre going to counceling because you think he or she is messing around, personally the damage is done. How can you trust someone once that thought is planted in your head???? Good luck guys!!!

Like DSM said, if you love your wife then go, no ifs, ands or buts about it!! Atleast you tried.....

[RANA]

I tired it and it saved our marriage, it made me realize I was a total ass. It lets you say what is on your mind without the cussing and it also lets both of you speak your mind without being worried. Just make sure that the counseler is not biased

[CptAmericaX]

Yah I attended a Marriage retreat with my it was great. Counseling is the next thing on the 2 do list

[JC.1987]

The closest ive ever been to couseling was watching the movie Couples Retreat.
I hope that my relationship dosent get to the point where we need couseling

[spywizard]

yep, went for a yr.. in the end the therapist suggested a trial separation.. he knew it was over but he also knew i wouldn't leave because of the kids..

divorced 6 months later..

I feel much better now.. good luck..

[lovbyts]

Yup and he said to dump her more or less after about 3 or 4 sessions. I took his advise.

[hummerman]

Great!!
I love the many different mixed reviews....

I personally think my wifes a miserable prick..........but she says it me.....

So lets see who the guilty one is.

I know and admit i do have a very short fuse and flip out quick but.............. She says and does things to set me off to.

Why do women gota be so hard to get along with........ Why cant they just have even a touch of commen sense?

[DSM4Life]

[tboney]

As long as both people really want to stay together it works.

[spywizard]

As long as both people really want to stay together it works.

Most women are a victim of how they were raised. ..

fat mom... fat daughter... eventually..

[tboney]

Most women are a victim of how they were raised. ..

fat mom... fat daughter... eventually..

Very true!!We men should spend more time learning about the parents of our women before we marry them.

[hummerman]

So true....
My wife has a flake for a mom...

Now that i think about it she's starting to act more and more like her mom....

Maybe i should start Fuc*ken her mom to

[majorpecs]

So true....
My wife has a flake for a mom...

Now that i think about it she's starting to act more and more like her mom....

Maybe i should start Fuc*ken her mom to

umm yeah, i'm not so sure it's going to work

[CBGB]

Most women are a victim of how they were raised. ..

fat mom... fat daughter... eventually..

My wifes mother is nothing but a waste of skin. But she is nothing like her...yet. A good woman, who happens to dislike just about everything her mom stands for.

[bushido3374]

I've been in individual counselling and relationship counselling. It won't fix all of your problems by it'self, but can give you the tools to figure things out. It will take work, but only you and your wife can decide if it's worth it.

[lovbyts]

Very true!!We men should spend more time learning about the parents of our women before we marry them.

So true. They all say they are nothing like their parents but most turn out like them 99% of the time.

First wife, mother was whacked. 2nd wife I never met her mom, she said she was mental. In both cases they were a lot like their mothers.

New GF, her mother is a sweat heart, very nice, loving mother/wife and they are a great relationship. Mother is very old fashioned and believe the husband is the king, in charge, almost always right and should be taken care of and his concerns come before hers.

I think she might be a keeper LOL

Ohh, with the 2nd wife, we also went to a counselor, actually a shrink she had been seeing off and on for a few years. After he meet with me a few times and I filled in some missing gaps for him she had failed to tell him he also suggested I run to the hills. LOL For some reason she stooped seeing him shortly after.

[JinNtonic]

i do have a very short fuse

I only have only thing shorter than my fuse....



And I dont want to talk about that.

[J-Dogg]

Just my opinion on it:

But I think it's used as a way to justify or used as an excuse for people who are too embarassed to stay with their significant other, but really want to work things out.

"umm ya he messed around on me, but we went through counciling!"

My ex was seeing a councilor I know though toward the end of our relationship, but it was worthless for one on one for her I think. Cause it's easy to spin anything so you are not wrong.

Opening up the right way, and just being honest can help. But if you are in a relationship that you can't do that in the first place, you might be screwed from the start.