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    Angry No Good Deed Goes Unpunished!!

    OK, This is a pure rant and vent, so feel free to hit the "back" button now. I just need to get it out.

    That F***ing Bitch!! I just got dumped by way of EMAIL by a 41 year old woman whom for the last 4 months did nothing but tell me how much she loved me and Never met a man that treated her as good as I have!!! I just don't understand women......She stayed with her Ex-husband for 14 years of physical abuse to not only her but to her daughter as well. We have had 4 incredible months but are both going through some tough times. Me with my business being slow (due to the Fvcking gas prices) and her with her job and her sister going into Rehab for cocaine abuse and brother going through messy divorce......
    So, she goes to visit her sister for the first time at the Rehab on Sunday with her two kids. It was the center's idea thatthey have a group meeting, watch an informative video, and have a group counseling session so that the kids understood and all that " feel good" sh*t.....Anyway, throughout this session, she is told that she is part to blame for her sister's problems and that SHE is CO- DEPENDANT and feels the need to do for everyone else and never herself.
    SO, today I get an email telling me how wonderful I am ( just took her to New York 2 weeks ago for her birthday and spent $1000 for show tickets for HER) but that we are different and she now knows that she needs to work this out ALONE and fix this...but hey....good luck to me!!!
    SO, if any of you women out here can explain to me why the NICE GUY always gets SHIT on, I would greatly appreciate it!!!!

    Thanks for letting me VENT!!! Now back to LIFTING

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    Sucks bro. Sorry to hear this. Unbelievably some women get addicted to have an abusive relationship. They don’t realize it but they get a high or a rush of endorphins we they argue or fight. This may make her feel like there is a spark or something missing from your relationship.
    I hate to tell you but it sounds like this women does have some issues and she does need to work on them by herself. If you are a nice guy just stand aside. Let her know that you will be there for her when she is ready. Just make sure you don’t hang out to long, you got to think of yourself first.
    Good luck.

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    Sorry hun, but doesn't sound on the up and up..

    My assumption is because yuo were so great, she wanted you to be what she wanted, but you can't force yourself to like someone, even if you go through the motions for a little bit

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    want amanatee hug?

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    You just have not met the right one yet, i been dumped, cheated on many times but i always stayed sincere to myself and the way i am.

    My current girlfriend really likes the way i am with her, i am no suck up geek, if thats what you mean, you got to have a back bone and confidence too, women dont like geeks, and guys that always bent and give them what they want.

    Is sort of a game, i am not talking about cheating on her or anything like that, its just to keep up the spice going.

    Get back in training and sweath that shit, after all you got dumped by e-mail that just shows exacly what kind of person that is.

    Who cares you will meet the right one someday, take the time to know them better.

    Goodluck

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    you got dumped bc it sounds like you catered to her every need and hence were her bitch. even if you don't think it's the truth, it is.

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    That sucks man, it seems like she just used you.

    Don't let it ruin future relationships, just don't supply the world for your future ladies and you won't get stung as bad.

    ~SC~

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    Dont worry in the long run you will do better without her. Find someone that really cares and is going to be with you when you need her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by firmechicano831
    Dont worry in the long run you will do better without her. Find someone that really cares and is going to be with you when you need her.

    Agreed

    It just makes me wonder about the last girl I had she keeps telling me the same thing tring to get back with me.....I'll proby always take what a woman says with a grain of salt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Streaker
    Sucks bro. Sorry to hear this. Unbelievably some women get addicted to have an abusive relationship. They don’t realize it but they get a high or a rush of endorphins we they argue or fight. This may make her feel like there is a spark or something missing from your relationship.
    I hate to tell you but it sounds like this women does have some issues and she does need to work on them by herself. If you are a nice guy just stand aside. Let her know that you will be there for her when she is ready. Just make sure you don’t hang out to long, you got to think of yourself first.
    Good luck.

    THANKS Streaker, That's exactly how I left it with her. By email of coarse...lolol I let her know that if she needs to talk I am here. But as far as letting her know i will be here when she is ready, I can't do that!! I will be her friend, but that is where I have to draw the line for my OWN health!!! If she did this to me once, and i let her back in, chances are she will do it again , and that just makes me a SUCKER instead of a Nice Guy!! I wish her NO ill will, just can't understand why they do the things they do then wonder why they can't find a good guy!!

    THANKS FOR THE SUPPORT!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by novicenovicen
    want amanatee hug?

    YES !!

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    Have a beer dude.


    Shit you live close enough Ill buy you one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SMAN12B
    THANKS Streaker, That's exactly how I left it with her. By email of coarse...lolol I let her know that if she needs to talk I am here. But as far as letting her know i will be here when she is ready, I can't do that!! I will be her friend, but that is where I have to draw the line for my OWN health!!! If she did this to me once, and i let her back in, chances are she will do it again , and that just makes me a SUCKER instead of a Nice Guy!! I wish her NO ill will, just can't understand why they do the things they do then wonder why they can't find a good guy!!

    THANKS FOR THE SUPPORT!!
    sorry to hear that...girls will make u feel on top of the world, then like complete and utter shit...dont sweat it...oh yeah that whole friends thing doesnt really work...i am "friends" with my ex right now and bang her once in a while...i had no prob with being friends w/ benefits, but then she starts talkin about feelings, and then i get drawn in again...just dead it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by AnabolicAndre
    Have a beer dude.


    Shit you live close enough Ill buy you one.
    THANKS MUCH Anabolic, don't drink beer, and decided to give up alcohol all together after this weekend since I will be starting a cycle. Oh well, everything happens for a reason. one door closes a window opens and all that happy horseshit.....LOLOL
    I am about two hours east of Pitts

    Someone find me the appropriate Emoticon for this situation....lolol

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    Quote Originally Posted by lucabratzi
    sorry to hear that...girls will make u feel on top of the world, then like complete and utter shit...dont sweat it...oh yeah that whole friends thing doesnt really work...i am "friends" with my ex right now and bang her once in a while...i had no prob with being friends w/ benefits, but then she starts talkin about feelings, and then i get drawn in again...just dead it...

    I completely agree with you lucabratzi, Friends with benifits NEVER works!! Had one go psyco cause she had "real" feelings, but would never tell me about them , so How am I supposed to know she wanted anything more.....Women, can't live with them, can't shoot them....lolol JK

    But then again, women probably feel exactly the same as men do that we are just jerks and hurt them just as much.....DAMNNN how the hell is this ever supposed to work????

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    Wait a sec. you titled this no good deed goes unpunished? So basicly your saying you took this girl in out of pity or something? Like it was your good deed to take this girl in? Maybe this is where you went wrong.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SMAN12B
    I completely agree with you lucabratzi, Friends with benifits NEVER works!! Had one go psyco cause she had "real" feelings, but would never tell me about them , so How am I supposed to know she wanted anything more.....Women, can't live with them, can't shoot them....lolol JK

    But then again, women probably feel exactly the same as men do that we are just jerks and hurt them just as much.....DAMNNN how the hell is this ever supposed to work????
    comprimising and good communication...when my girl something that pisses me off i tell her exactly what she did...im always straight forward without being an asshole...but sometimes they find some more shit to bitch about...like u said cant live withem cant shoot em...

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    Quote Originally Posted by GreenLantern12
    Wait a sec. you titled this no good deed goes unpunished? So basicly your saying you took this girl in out of pity or something? Like it was your good deed to take this girl in? Maybe this is where you went wrong.
    NO, I think you took me wrong. I didn't "take her in" we fell for each other, she is a very strong, independant woman who started feeling guilty about her sister and felt the need to fix things herself after hours of talks about what we BOTH wanted in this relationship and the main thign was to be ther for each other. the no good thing goes unpunished is just me venting that I was good to her and tried to be there for her and STILL got shit on!

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    ill tell u what...
    i got da best girlfriend ever wanna hear about her?
    we work out together....eat every meal together..**** she even feeds me, its great.......sex life = UBER GREAT ......never had a fight yet, cept dat time I got a lil shit on her.........

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    nothing messes my head up more than women. lately ive been wanting a relationship, been on a date, didnt work out. im sat here now, feeling shitty. my conclusion is this: **** looking for a woman, keep going after my dreams and ambitions, and if i so happen to find a good girl on the way, sweet as. easier said than done, guaranteed at work this weekend i will meet someone i like, go on a date and be in this exact same mindset this time next week lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Timm1704
    nothing messes my head up more than women. lately ive been wanting a relationship, been on a date, didnt work out. im sat here now, feeling shitty. my conclusion is this: **** looking for a woman, keep going after my dreams and ambitions, and if i so happen to find a good girl on the way, sweet as. easier said than done, guaranteed at work this weekend i will meet someone i like, go on a date and be in this exact same mindset this time next week lol

    I FV**ING HEAR THAT BROTHER !!!!! IT'S "ME" TIME NOW....Wait til she sees what I look like in three months HER!!!!!....lolol

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    Appropriate icons you got it....


    She was all like
    That made you wanna
    Then you were single and hit the clubs
    Then you found another women
    Then you were all like

    Hope that cheered you up man keep your head up, you're better off without someone like that holding you down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AnabolicAndre
    Appropriate icons you got it....


    She was all like
    That made you wanna
    Then you were single and hit the clubs
    Then you found another women
    Then you were all like

    Hope that cheered you up man keep your head up, you're better off without someone like that holding you down.
    very good. 10 out of 10 for effort

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    I'm the only woman who posted here.. and he didn't give what i said a second loo.

    U SUK.

    Seriously sometimes we want to want something so bad.. but just doesn't really meet our expectations when we have it.. no matter how hard we wish it did

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    mizfit would you agree with the theory of "treat em mean, keep em keen?" because im always very considerate when it comes to relationships, and they dont often go to plan. but the cocky bastards that i know always keep the girl on her toes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AnabolicAndre
    Appropriate icons you got it....


    She was all like
    That made you wanna
    Then you were single and hit the clubs
    Then you found another women
    Then you were all like

    Hope that cheered you up man keep your head up, you're better off without someone like that holding you down.

    THAT DID THE TRICK THANKS!!!! NOT GONNA BE HELD DOWN- TIME TO SPREAD THE WINGS AND FLY AND GROW....GROW....GROW...:

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    Quote Originally Posted by AnabolicAndre
    Appropriate icons you got it....


    She was all like
    That made you wanna
    Then you were single and hit the clubs
    Then you found another women
    Then you were all like

    Hope that cheered you up man keep your head up, you're better off without someone like that holding you down.

    THAT DID THE TRICK THANKS!!!! NOT GONNA BE HELD DOWN- TIME TO SPREAD THE WINGS AND FLY AND GROW....GROW....GROW...:

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    Quote Originally Posted by AnabolicAndre
    Appropriate icons you got it....


    She was all like
    That made you wanna
    Then you were single and hit the clubs
    Then you found another women
    Then you were all like

    Hope that cheered you up man keep your head up, you're better off without someone like that holding you down.

    THAT DID THE TRICK THANKS!!!! NOT GONNA BE HELD DOWN- TIME TO SPREAD THE WINGS AND FLY AND GROW....GROW....GROW...:

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mizfit
    I'm the only woman who posted here.. and he didn't give what i said a second loo.

    U SUK.

    Seriously sometimes we want to want something so bad.. but just doesn't really meet our expectations when we have it.. no matter how hard we wish it did

    SORRY MIZFIT !! I stepped away for a while ...... I think you are part right in that she wanted me to fit into HER mold a bit and we have totally different ways of doing things.... Guess my Square peg couldnt' fit into her round hole so to speak....

    AND i do appreciate that you (being the only woman) care enough to give your advice ....MUCH LOVE !!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Timm1704
    mizfit would you agree with the theory of "treat em mean, keep em keen?" because im always very considerate when it comes to relationships, and they dont often go to plan. but the cocky bastards that i know always keep the girl on her toes.
    if a guy treats me like shit.. no i wouldn't stick around.. but i also don't want someone kissing my ass..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mizfit
    if a guy treats me like shit.. no i wouldn't stick around.. but i also don't want someone kissing my ass..

    Well depends on the night Mizfit, if you are really nice, I might could be fun....lolol

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    I don't like for guys to kiss my ass either....i like an independent man...
    however it sounds like this girl probly does have some issues that she needs to be addressed and you need to move on and find a healthy woman who suits you better.

    and even though this thread is about women bashing right now I would like to add that there are plenty of guys that treat women like crap who are good to them! You can be there and be there for a man and no matter what he can't be good to you.
    Both genders have issues i guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SMAN12B
    Well depends on the night Mizfit, if you are really nice, I might could be fun....lolol
    i see your bouncing back rather quickly

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mizfit
    i see your bouncing back rather quickly
    Well it WAS only 4 months, so I shouldnt' get that hung up over it !! right

    Just confuses me cause she was telling me how I treated her better ...blah blah blah, how i was the BEST in bed, blah blah blah, had the biggest *** well you know what i mean.....lolol But seriously, she was already talking moving in and forever, now its, I need ot fix this on my own....just dont' understand
    Last edited by SMAN12b; 04-26-2006 at 07:28 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hotstuff
    I don't like for guys to kiss my ass either....i like an independent man...
    however it sounds like this girl probly does have some issues that she needs to be addressed and you need to move on and find a healthy woman who suits you better.

    and even though this thread is about women bashing right now I would like to add that there are plenty of guys that treat women like crap who are good to them! You can be there and be there for a man and no matter what he can't be good to you.
    Both genders have issues i guess.
    agreed...but honestly like the other guys said, i see girls treated like shit and they never leave the person...its all a big game...u want what u cant have..and when ur gf/bf is mad at u, u think u did something wrong so ur constantly trying to make it up to that person..

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    Would I be an A-hole if I went out tonight and hooded up with an old FWB (Friend With Benifits) Just to get this anger/hurt out of my system? If the FWB is fully informed and cool with it?

    Thanks for letting me vent today guys....and girls...especially Mizfit!!

    BUMP

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    BUMP before I regret it in the morning......... :-(

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    Bump

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    Do it brother

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    Itll be your first step towards moving on

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