I have been through some pretty not nice stuff.
Starvation, divorce, felonies, 100% exhaustion, 120+ hour work weeks, shot at, beat by small groups, smashed, burnt, hated, and I "embraced the suck" as capebuffalo would say.
I see a lot of younger guys that are suffering through hell they create in their own minds.
The worst pain you can endure is yourself. Desire is the cause of all suffering.
For this reason I swear to you, no pain can be wrought on a man like that from the woman he loves. There is a gap in understanding between man and woman where women dont see just how bad they can hurt the man that loves them above all others.
Pride, strength, dignity, honor and will can be stripped in a few words, from this woman.
Once a man has been drug through it to the point he gives up, he will either be no more or never become so attached to a persin again.
Selfishness is not simply the lack of care for anyone but yourself. Selfishness can easily become the fact that you depend on someone for your own happiness.
If every action a person makes dictates your future, you need to reconsider who is the selfish one.
If you invest so much of yourself into another living breathing human that you cant function unless they do "x" then you are lost my friend.
You aren't even you!
You becane someone else!
You are not living your life, you are living someone elses life.
I lived someone elses life for a decade nearly before the facade ended.
You gotta wake up and smell the coffee. They just arent that into you. If they were, you wouldn't feel the need to be so wrapped up in them. They would be pretty much exactly what you expect and lower maitenance.
I hope someone can understand this.
My Gf is so wrapped up in me its crazy but I give it back. It's a terrible care we have for each other. If anything I have neglected her, which I didnt think was possible.
Yes we still argue and even fight, but I already know the outcome... Rough drunken sex and a million promises from both that we cant live without the other.
I hope some giys can understand though, if it's your first year together and you are already fighting, run away cuz one or both of you is a crazy sum bich.
I have recently watched some very gifted people who could accomplish anything they set their mind to, get dragged down by an unequal partner.
Once your heart has been truly fucked with and destroyed, it will never forget that feeling and you will never attach yourself to someone so selfishly again.
Its like being reborn into a darker world.
Embrace the suck and you do you.
You can live without anyone, I promise, I have done it.