That don't kill me, can only make me stronger
Whats up guys, well title just about sums it up. My 3 year gf broke up with me about 3 weeks ago and its been real hard for me. I recently started taking my old Zoloft some days just to make it through. We have been hanging out and she still says " I love you" and kisses me she just says she needs time, but my emotions are being ripped to shreds. kinda funny how im saying all this on a steroid forum but meh, you just stop caring ya hur?
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ah man im really sorry to hear bro.
its strange that after 3years she says she needs time. IMO you should just ask her, either we are together or its over for good. If she says its over then dont have any contact with her anymore, not as friends not as anything.
Start doing stuff that makes u happy like going out with friends, working out at the gym, banging hoes etc. Hope it works out the way u want it bro, good luck
Associate Member
sorry to hear that bro, any chance of you two getting back together? sounds like she still wants something or what?
3 years is a long time man...i guess if she wants time then give her time eh
Anabolic Member
I agree 100%.Originally Posted by farrebarre
She can;t keep you in limbo. Put the screws to her, and if she turns you down, start man-whoring and spending time with your friends you've been neglecting because of her. Trust me, I've been there.
Bros before hos!
Go get yourself some fresh punanni.
That don't kill me, can only make me stronger
yeah she still loves me and just wants time for us to get "better", just been pretty rough
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I need time + I love you = I wanna screw other guys but keep you around just in case.
I've found that the just friends thing doesn't work after being intimate with someone for a few years. You're not gunna wanna hang out with her and her new boy friend are you? She's either with you or not...make it clear.
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word
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Yah she can't have her cake and eat it too.
cut her lose or tell her you gotta work on things as a couple..
Anabolic Member
u should have mike tyson call her up and say "i hear you're single now"
Senior Member
yeah, and don't take zoloft on days you feel you need it. It is something that needs to be taken once a day to effectivly build up serotonin.
That don't kill me, can only make me stronger
well when i do take the zoloft, no matter what day, i feel the effects and i am not depressed anymore
AR Hall of Fame
She dumped you but you guys still hang out?
I wouldn't fall into that trap, I'd leave her alone and move on w/your life. She's playing w/your emotions and is full of shit.
"I need time", shit, give her all the time she needs, go do something else or someone else.
~SC~
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Exactly. She's probably bangin' some other guy(s) and doesn't want to feel guilty, so she broke up so that "technically" you guys aren't together.
Bunch of shit.
~SC~
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Relationships take work sometimes.. and if she bails on you now.. aren't you concerned she will do it in the future?
Senior Member
probably placebo effect
Female Member
That's exactly what it is. You guys have spent 3 years together, she doesn't want to be with you, but it's hard to imagine you not being around. So she keeps you close, but wants to keep her options open.
Trust me, I've ended 2 different 3 year relationships myself.
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Zoloft and other anti-d's take days/weeks to become active in the brain/body and to provide stress relief. It's not going to be possible to feel the effects of the Zoloft the same day you take it.
~SC~
Anabolic Member
cmon ppl dont rob him of his placebo effect, if it makes him feel better than i say its a good thang
Anabolic Member
While the effects could take a week or more to accumulate, the "placebo" effect in fact does signal your neurotransmitters.
Keep on taking it. Unless this girls means marrige to you.... move on!
Best of luck to you, go outside and BREATHE be thankful for what you have.
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dood like, GET OUT OF THAT SHIT.......3yrs...ok remember the good times, but UR OFF FOR EVEN BETTER FREAKY KINKY TIMES NOW!!!! Dont talk to her, Ignore everything she does, and ur last conversation with her....end it with...... You'll never find anyone else like me.....END BAM!! HAUNT HER FOREVER WITH THOSE WORDS!
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sorry to hear, you know we've all been there at least once. like someone told me once, there are A MILLION fish in the sea. many with which you'll get along great. might be scary and uncomfortable at first, but start thinkin bout yourself and YOUR future and get crackin cuz it doesn't have to be with her no matter how much you guys planned.
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precise and to the point
Female Member
OH god, whatever you do, don't say that. It will make you look pathetic and bitter. Trust me. nonono. She will roll her eyes, and laugh about it with her girlfriends.
She never find anyone else like him? This is probably a good thing in her eyes.She's breaking up with him.
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change is good .. take care of yourself first, and everything will fall into place.
Female Member
Coming from a girl who had to do this to the only man in the world she loved, I completley disagree with you. I wasnt with anyone and didnt want that at all. Sometimes women need to grow up and have some space to figure out who they really are without their other half living with them for 4 yrs. Esp wen marriage is a possiblity. Hang in there babe. Im so sorry this happnd to u. My advice is to actually take some time apart with no communication whatsoever. If you guys are meant to be together it will happn. If you ever need to talk pm me.
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agreed. just act like you don't really care (even tho I know it kills), tell her gl, and don't look back. Unless you guys are really trying to work it out, then I wouldn't have any communication with her at all....just makes it worse. hang in there, bro, I know how you feel
Anabolic Member
Tell her that because of the situation she put you in, you are having to take anti-depressants. Let her know, that by keeping you on a leash, that it is a serious problem.
I'd definitely look into a relationship consultant. Or some personal counseling for yourself.
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what? nah, don't tell her that you're taking anti-depressents b/c of her. Don't give her that power or satisfaction.
personal counseling for yourself ain't a bad idea tho
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right and no one can cause someone to take an anti depresant.. we are in control of what people do to us.
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NO WAY......She may talk about it with her girls, but when she gets someone else and ****s her over, SHE WILL REMEMBER THOSE WORDS, those words have brought so many bitches crawling back to me, its funny
the reason shes doing this shit in the first place is she is bored, but shes gonna act fine about it at first, then reality will kick her in the square in the ****.
Anabolic Member
dude went through the same thing in february. it sucks
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Hmm weak women.. im with CKNO WAY......She may talk about it with her girls, but when she gets someone else and ****s her over, SHE WILL REMEMBER THOSE WORDS, those words have brought so many bitches crawling back to me, its funny
the reason shes doing this shit in the first place is she is bored, but shes gonna act fine about it at first, then reality will kick her in the square in the ****.
Senior Member
I watch Dr.Phil I'm qualified.....She's prolly weak, not all women are strong like you mizfit
Female Member
Sigh...you're so misguided.NO WAY......She may talk about it with her girls, but when she gets someone else and ****s her over, SHE WILL REMEMBER THOSE WORDS, those words have brought so many bitches crawling back to me, its funny
the reason shes doing this shit in the first place is she is bored, but shes gonna act fine about it at first, then reality will kick her in the square in the ****.
Anabolic Member
i find it amazing how losing a girlfreind can make people so depressed...i know what u mean though....when a me and a gf break up im such a pussy...i havnt been in a long relationship like that,
my opinion is just break it off....its the only way u'll get over it...basically take this as ur time to focus on other things besides her...wether its work or lifting or just enjoying ur free time, do that and live life...i always look at these things like, the reason ur hurting is because u had such a great time with her and u loved her...down the road u will find another girl that will make u feel amazing again...this is what life is about, the love and the pain, among other things..remeber u will find another girl to love again...there are other fish in the sea..
whats helps me is listening to superman by eminem...
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This is funny, this very same thing happened to my brother. He stuck around even though it was obvious she was done with the relationship. My advise is communicate that's what my bro didnt do
Senior Member
i knowSigh...you're so misguided.thats why i've done with dirty deed with over 35 girls in less than 2 years
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Bro i was in the same situation except I was the one to break up with my gf after 4 years i just needed to time to figure out a bunch of stuff she'll come around just as I did my gf and I are back together and happy. good luck bro everything will work out
Anabolic Member
You're right. It would be best not to tell her. I would seriously look into couceling though. Maybe
look into seeing someone else in the mean time. Even if it's just a friend, anything would help, imo.
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Tell ya what....put yourself out on the circut...stop the "i love you too" bullshit. Give her what she said she needs.............space. Don't be rude, or childish.....just her what she ask for...........and see how she responds. If it scares her and she no longer needs her "space" whatever the fvck that has ever meant, then you have a decision to make..........if she responds like cool, glad you're moving on...then that decison is made for you. All the I need my space is a bunch of shit. You either want to be with someone or you don't, and if you are doubtful....it means you don't. Since she won't be honest with you, or probably herself...you have to be. Good luck...and don't losse alot of sleep.
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