is this acceptable ??

[Chemical King]

ok, so my ex has fanaly got a place of her own after 2yrs.

Now i aint gona slag her off here but she has no carpets down, she there is nothing in the house exept tv on the floor and 2seater chair and the area is lets say "rough". I wouldnt bring a dog up there.

on the other hand I have a home wereas i dont class her place as a home for my son. Now when it comes to what is best for my son and whre he would be better off, surely im in a beter position. At least I have a home to offer him.

whats your opinions on this ???

[beuleux]

Sorry bud logic doesnt enter into it, unless you can prove she is a junkie shagging clients infront of him whilst feeding him broken glass then you dont have a hope in hell. Judges will ALWAYS try to keep th child with its mother and there has to be an extremely compelling reason to upset the status quo. Im afraid living in a shithole wont be classed as compelling. Unfortunately for me I know this from personal experience.

Still no joy with your access eh? Chin up... never let your enemies see theyve hurt you.

[LatinoPR]

Make you son proud of you at all time,and like Beuleux said,dont let him see you hurt.Be strong,look strong for him,your son is the most important thing in your life.








LPR.

[Chemical King]

Thanks guys. I find myself forever posting this sort of stuff on here in the hope of the slightest chance of getting somewhere but the answers are always gonna be thew same.

I suppose my only real hope is to wait for my son (now 4) to make up his own mind when he is old enough to do so, cos i cant see him been very happy whn he is at school and his mates take the pi55 out of him cos his mam is having issues with her sexuality.

Another thing is her unwillingless to work. She is 24 this yr and has never worked, nor does she want to(her or her family) I just wonder what exaple this is setting to my son. I dont work now but im at college doing IT so i can get a well paid job n make him proud.

Like when at school the kids te3ll the class what there parents do :
"My dad is a Forensic Computing expert, but my mums on the doal"

i cant wait

[Mizfit]

She must not present too much of an issue to authroities if the child is still with her. Yes i realize that authroites dont always see reality.

And i hate to tell you this but children often do not have a voice until it is too late. I grew up with the unfit parent for my entire childhood and no one did anything about it.

[cj1capp]

She must not present too much of an issue to authroities if the child is still with her. Yes i realize that authroites dont always see reality.

And i hate to tell you this but children often do not have a voice until it is too late. I grew up with the unfit parent for my entire childhood and no one did anything about it.

im sorry to hear that Mizfit, but you seem well adjusted and together mentally .
i hope chem kings child gets the better parent .

[Bigen12]

ok, so my ex has fanaly got a place of her own after 2yrs.

Now i aint gona slag her off here but she has no carpets down, she there is nothing in the house exept tv on the floor and 2seater chair and the area is lets say "rough". I wouldnt bring a dog up there.

on the other hand I have a home wereas i dont class her place as a home for my son. Now when it comes to what is best for my son and whre he would be better off, surely im in a beter position. At least I have a home to offer him.

whats your opinions on this ???

Make sure that in all cases, you do the right thing.

Make sure you take advantage of any and all visitation you are allowed.

Make sure you pay your child support on time!

Make sure that you don't disparage the child's mother in front of the child.

Make sure that the problems between you and the child's mother, remain between you and the child's mother.

It's hard, trust me I know from experience.

But in the end you will know that you did the right thing, and that makes all the difference in the world.

[Mizfit]

im sorry to hear that Mizfit, but you seem well adjusted and together mentally .
i hope chem kings child gets the better parent .

Was a long road for me and only reason i did make it through was i had wonderful support with my sis - without her as support i would've turned out very different (We're the same age but she is the more mature one)

My boss is actually going through a similar thing with his three children - the mother has had custody ( one is 6, one is 16, one is 19) and on the wekeend he discovered their home life was not what he thought it to be and two of thme have showed up on his doorstep.

[G-1000]

im sorry to hear that Mizfit, but you seem well adjusted and together mentally .
i hope chem kings child gets the better parent .

[Mizfit]

Says the teapot callin the kettle black

FTR - I'm cute so i'm aloud to be psycho

[G-1000]

Says the teapot callin the kettle black

FTR - I'm cute so i'm aloud to be psycho

If you only new the half of it. We are two pees in the same pod.

[Shane35aa]

Rough sitution. Just make sure your son always knows you are there for him. Be the adult in situation, don't dog her out in front of him. Yeah the courts are exetremely unfair to father, in these cases.. been there. Eventually the child will see things for what they are, in any case you will keep his respect and confidence, which is overall most important.