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  1. 02-15-2008, 09:48 AM #1
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    So my Vday...

    I have been dating a new chick for about a month now and we went out to dinner last night.. nothing really fancy.. after dinner we went back to her place and just were chilling when a phone call came.. she starts crying and pissed off.. turns out her Ex- Husband was doped up on drugs and Alcohol and was thrown out of his girlfriends place.. and decided to call his ex-wife to have her come and pick her up...
    So, my girl over and over again says she is sorry but she has to do this... they have been divorced for a year now, and their marriage only lasted about a year and a half (she divorced him because of drugs and alcohol)
    She then came called me 2 hours later and wanted to come over..she came over and was scared i was going to dump her etc.. we went to sleep and now this morn her cell was ringing off the hook from her ex hubby trying to get her to take him to work.. she didnt answer but texted with him, all at 6am when i am trying to sleep.. i told her to tell him to take a fcukin cab...
    so now.. I dont know what to do.. should I walk? this is sorta... odd right? on valentines day off all days!!!

    Thanks guys.. if anything I just needed to vent.....
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  2. 02-15-2008, 09:55 AM #2
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    i think she still loves him but is afraid of hurting you as well!.. she 100% doesnt want to be with him as u can tell. so i wouldnt worry about it..its not like she is considering going back with him ..she just has a good heart . u cant just shut off feelings u once had for some one....i think it will be all good bro!! just give it time a year isnt that long!
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    hmmm well is a hard one that!

    but look at it this way, if your ex had been ringing you and you booted the new girl out on valentines day to go see the ex instead.... would the new girl be happy with you?
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    walk on her... she obvoisly has more respect for her dopey ex druggy husband than you... and if anyone placed a loser like that OVER me... i'd shiv them in the kidney w/ a spork
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    Quote Originally Posted by shifty_git View Post
    hmmm well is a hard one that!

    but look at it this way, if your ex had been ringing you and you booted the new girl out on valentines day to go see the ex instead.... would the new girl be happy with you?
    Yea, that is the thing.... if the roles were revered... i am sure she would dump my ass.....
    Im just trying to be understanding.. but its hard!
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    I would have dumped her ass. Sometimes we put up with some things for women or puss...y. It his case she left you for someone that she still cares about or else she would have told him no.
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    too much drama..... time to go....
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    i had the same problem. kick that chick to the curb. there are way to many women out there to have to deal with that crap
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    I wouldn't worry about it too much. She left him for drugs and alchohol so this will just remind her she doesn't want to be with him. She was just helping someone in need. BTW you might want to edit the specific drug.
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    Forget it!

    I would of dumped her right there...

    She either leaves the past behind or she becomes the past...

    Obviously, she is still talking to the guy... let it go man. You don't need this!
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    Thanks all for your responses..
    She has called me 3 times today thus far apologizing up and down...

    Sucks.. she is a really cool girl.. just has a LOT of baggage...
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    baggage is a boner killer...
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    Quote Originally Posted by batlin View Post
    Thanks all for your responses..
    She has called me 3 times today thus far apologizing up and down...

    Sucks.. she is a really cool girl.. just has a LOT of baggage...
    Most of the time it is.

    Yes this is A LOT of baggage... don't be the one to carry it

    Take care man,
    best of luck!
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    Quote Originally Posted by taiboxa View Post
    baggage is a boner killer...
    hahahaha im crackin up!
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    curbs were built for one reason, and thats for kicking chics like this over to them
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    Quote Originally Posted by UberSteroids View Post
    Forget it!

    I would of dumped her right there...

    She either leaves the past behind or she becomes the past...

    Obviously, she is still talking to the guy... let it go man. You don't need this!
    i liked this, thanks
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kale View Post
    curbs were built for one reason, and thats for kicking chics like this over to them
    Haha as subtle as a sledgehammer... nice Kale lol, i will remember that one!
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    If you have to ask this type of questiuon, then you already know the answer!
    ***No source checks!!!***
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kratos View Post
    I wouldn't worry about it too much. She left him for drugs and alchohol so this will just remind her she doesn't want to be with him. She was just helping someone in need. BTW you might want to edit the specific drug.
    I was thinking the same thing.
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    Ugh.. last night she came over.. and she is acting weird, it is like she is trying to find some way that i am upset with her.. she got mad at me becasue i wanted to go to sleep and not cuddle up before going to sleep.. hell i was tired!!
    and this morn she hugged me and she got mad that I didnt hug back (granted i had stuff in my hand).. i think she is fishing for something...
    I think y'all are right.. curbs are for kicken things to...
    damn she was pretty good in bed though.. its quite unfortunat
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    Quote Originally Posted by batlin View Post
    Ugh.. last night she came over.. and she is acting weird, it is like she is trying to find some way that i am upset with her.. she got mad at me becasue i wanted to go to sleep and not cuddle up before going to sleep.. hell i was tired!!
    and this morn she hugged me and she got mad that I didnt hug back (granted i had stuff in my hand).. i think she is fishing for something...
    I think y'all are right.. curbs are for kicken things to...
    damn she was pretty good in bed though.. its quite unfortunat
    She is looking to pick a fight. And when that happens it is the easy way out for a woman to break up with you. I dated a broad who was notorious for this and she even told me about her past experiences and laughed.
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  22. 02-18-2008, 01:51 PM #22
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    Quote Originally Posted by batlin View Post
    Ugh.. last night she came over.. and she is acting weird, it is like she is trying to find some way that i am upset with her.. she got mad at me becasue i wanted to go to sleep and not cuddle up before going to sleep.. hell i was tired!!
    and this morn she hugged me and she got mad that I didnt hug back (granted i had stuff in my hand).. i think she is fishing for something...
    I think y'all are right.. curbs are for kicken things to...
    damn she was pretty good in bed though.. its quite unfortunat
    Okay look at it this way - I've had my fair share of chicks with baggage and I now go about things this way.

    If you CANNOT picture yourself being able to be married to this chick someday, drop her. Sex aside who cares, I can get sex from people I don't have a relationship with.

    This chick has a ton of problems with a past relationship - she's not really ready to start something new obviously. She's looking for a fight because she prolly has an unhealthy perspective of what a relationship should be like, and what loving someone really is. She most likely wants you to get upset, so she can get "hurt", hoping to put you in the position to crawl to her saying how much you want/need her or whatever - its a fvckin mind game bro - been there and its really all retarded.


    everything else aside - SHE MARRIED A DRUG ADDICT, she obviously makes extremely poor choices and uses emotions instead of logic more often than not. You know this, why would you honestly put yourself in this position?

    I'm sure you consider yourself a smart person, look in the mirror and self reflect for a moment and ask yourself "what the hell do I want out of life" and make a rational decision. I'm sure will find that she really doesn't have a part in your grand scheme.

    I hope you already kicked her to the curb but talks cheap and things are easier said then done so I hope this pushes you over the edge.
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    man if u put up with her, its the same as her putting up with her ex. i always wonder

    why nice girls end up w/ druggie and drinker losers. maybe low self esteme of just too

    big of hearts, anyway i'd tell her to kick rocks
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    Quote Originally Posted by jchopper1 View Post
    man if u put up with her, its the same as her putting up with her ex. i always wonder

    why nice girls end up w/ druggie and drinker losers. maybe low self esteme of just too

    big of hearts, anyway i'd tell her to kick rocks
    Join the club. It seems like either the person thinks the other will change give it time, or that they can change that person themselves. Neither of the two are gonna work, Get over it!
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    dude, thats an awesome line
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