Ok...so you won't let an intruder take your stuff unless he has a weapon and threatens you with it, but you won't shoot an intruder unless he takes a threatening posture because he's only there to take your stuff. But according to you he can't have your stuff unless he takes that threatening posture. You just went in a circle.
Fact is if someone has balls enough to break into your house while you're there with your family, he's got balls enough to do whatever he needs to do to not go to jail. Are you willing to take the chance that he's a nice guy and will decide not to kill you guys? I'm not. Furthermore, home invasion type scenarios are becoming more common place as times get tougher and people who are desperate become more brazen. When you have several intruders they get a sense of "bravery" that they otherwise wouldn't have, as they are a number of people with a unified goal. Are you going to stop and ask if they mean you harm?
In the past 5 years there have been a few home invasions in my upper-middle class neighborhood. Children were tied up, etc etc...what if one of those intruders decides "Hey guys I feel like getting some young ***** tonight", and wants that little girls ass?
In the glorious state of FL, we don't have to retreat, and no longer have to issue a verbal warning to intruders once they have attempted to forcibly enter the home. Criminal scumbags get no love here.
I know it's cool and peachy to say all this nice and fuzzy stuff about how "I wouldn't do this and this because I might go to jail"...I'd bet all I have that most of you here, when forced to face a situation where there is an intruder in your home, given the option to defend yourself with deadly force, would do exactly that. Think about the state of mind of a person who chooses to enter a home while the family is there, think about why you wouldn't do something like that. You wouldn't do that because you know better and you care about people and your own life as well. The guy who would enter a home while the people were there doesn't care. He obviously doesn't care about the rule of law or your right to whats yours. Are you going to stop and asking him what else he doesn't care about? I don't think so.
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/ny_c...a_home_in.html
http://www.mtshastanews.com/news/x64...-invasion-case
http://www.ktvu.com/news/27773711/detail.html
Those are just a few results returned on Google about home invasions in California in the last 5 years...there's plenty more.