Dig Your Own Grave

[GirlyGymRat]

My sister was cremated and her ashes in an urn. She was first to explore this route.

I have no kids so no one would visit me and L
leaning towards cremation w/ ashes scattered in ocean. I see no reason to pollute landslide with headstones....nobody really cares in a few years.

[Fluidic Kimbo]

I have no kids so no one would visit me and L
leaning towards cremation w/ ashes scattered in ocean

I don't deny that some people get buried in the graveyard with a grass surface and a simple wooden cross, and then the grave is left like that, it never gets a proper headstone and nobody ever comes to visit. I don't deny that this happens in our world.

But human connection is unpredictable, and sometimes the depth of it does not become apparent until the other person dies. A guy in my church died about a month ago, and it was only after he died that I thought back on the small nods of his head he would give me after I spoke at prayer meetings, I didn't notice the subtle connection we had until after he died.

With regard to my other friend 'B' who died 14 days ago, well I've been at his grave each of the last 14 days. His parents' names are on the headstone and I wish they'd hurry up and engrave his first name on it. I'm not a relative of the deceased nor a childhood friend of the deceased, but I'm the person who visits his grave the most.

So even if you don't have kids, you don't know who you've touched and who has leaned on you. Somebody might have taken inspiration from you to get themselves through a tough time, and you might not have ever met the person; it could be a person you never chatted to at the gym, or someone who rented the same book as you from the local library. It could be a girl from school 20 - 30 years ago.

I was a friend to 'B' in life, and now I am a friend to 'B' in death. But this is a small part of our interaction, it will really be interesting the day I die.

The person who visits your grave the most when you're gone might be a stranger.

[GirlyGymRat]

I don't deny that some people get buried in the graveyard with a grass surface and a simple wooden cross, and then the grave is left like that, it never gets a proper headstone and nobody ever comes to visit. I don't deny that this happens in our world.

But human connection is unpredictable, and sometimes the depth of it does not become apparent until the other person dies. A guy in my church died about a month ago, and it was only after he died that I thought back on the small nods of his head he would give me after I spoke at prayer meetings, I didn't notice the subtle connection we had until after he died.

With regard to my other friend 'B' who died 14 days ago, well I've been at his grave each of the last 14 days. His parents' names are on the headstone and I wish they'd hurry up and engrave his first name on it. I'm not a relative of the deceased nor a childhood friend of the deceased, but I'm the person who visits his grave the most.

So even if you don't have kids, you don't know who you've touched and who has leaned on you. Somebody might have taken inspiration from you to get themselves through a tough time, and you might not have ever met the person; it could be a person you never chatted to at the gym, or someone who rented the same book as you from the local library. It could be a girl from school 20 - 30 years ago.

I was a friend to 'B' in life, and now I am a friend to 'B' in death. But this is a small part of our interaction, it will really be interesting the day I die.

The person who visits your grave the most when you're gone might be a stranger.

I’m glad you made those connections.

[kelkel]

I have no kids so no one would visit me and L
leaning towards cremation w/ ashes scattered in ocean. I see no reason to pollute landslide with headstones....nobody really cares in a few years.

G your comment made me immediatly think of this:

[GirlyGymRat]

G your comment made me immediatly think of this:

I’ve never watched this...only clips. [emoji38]

[kelkel]

I’ve never watched this...only clips. [emoji38]

Watch it. Whole things hysterical.

[Honkey_Kong]

I’ve never watched this...only clips. [emoji38]

It's one of the best movies ever made.