anybody run a cycle and not tell their wife?

[lovbyts]

Always feel out the wife's feelings BEFORE staring anything like this. Dont go into not knowing how she will react. It's pretty much also a consensus that always be prepared for the worse. If sh*t ever hit's the fan be assured she will use it against you especially in court so always be prepared to protect yourself and be willing to dispose of things on a moments notice. It can be a catch 22 situation for sure.

[hankdiesel]

Hey guys. As I stated in another thread...I am thinking about running a test (longer ester) with proper AI and PCT.

If I run this cycle I am not sure that it is something that I will tell my wife. What do you guys do? Do you tell your wife? If so, how did they take it? Is it even possible to run a cycle without them noticing the changes?

I'm not even sure I could, in good concience, put something into my body without her being okay with it. She may, or may not, react poorly.

thanks in advance,


Tim

My girlfriend knows I do it. I could lie and try to hide it but why? I compete in open NPC shows and there is always dudes in the show (not in my class) who are well over 200lbs and hard as hell. Clearly they are not natural so why are they aloud to compete? Like I said, I tell her I "take stuff." But, all the little details she will never know. It's just not necessary. I have told her I see a doctor and I use the stuff in the healthiest manner possible. Both are true.

Now in your case it's up to you. I don't go around tell people "I'm on roids." They are those who actually do this. If you tell your wife, will she tell her girlfriends? Or even worse, will she be so concerned for your health that she tells her mother or confide in someone else? This would be a problem. Everyone would look at you and say "that guy is on steroids." This would be said about you well after your cycle is over. Possibly you could tell her you are thinking about doing it and tell her they are not as harmful as the media makes them out to be. Tell her testosterone is doctor prescribed and a lot of steroids are FDA approved. See what her reaction is. You either tell her and take them or don't tell her and take them.

[ironbeck]

Just man up and be honest dude, if she is cool she won't have a problem with it as long as you have done your homework. If she's not cool with it it, well then you choose to either make a stand or tuck your tail and do what your told. Guess it depends on your person and hers, just the fact that you asked for advise about it on the forum means your scared of her. My wife would rather me not, but she is pro involved anyway and gives me my shots. If you did every thing your wife wanted, you would become a dog with a dic....bow wow...lol

[bob87]

A couple g's your in the big leagues. I haven't spent 500 bucks yet and got pleny to cycle with and more

No I'm in Australia it's bullshit the price you will pay for a cycle say using 40mls or more.

[Honkey_Kong]

If you wife doesn't ever find out that you're on roids, you're doing something wrong.

That being said, there is good reason not to tell your wife, it can come back to bite you in a divorce. But part of marriage is an honest relationship where there is communication. If you don't tell your wife you're distancing yourself from her.

Personally, I wouldn't even make the decision to do a cycle without her being okay with it.

[DGHGM]

My girl thinks the only reason I want to get big is so I can leave her for some super model or some dumb shit. If she doesn't stay cool with aas then all those chicks that check me out everywhere are goin to start to interviewed to take her position which should be either on top of me on her knees in front of either worshipping me or what y'all thought of the first or working to help pay the bills. Am I right or am I right. But seriously if you can't make yourself happy doin what you want to do cause she gives you hell you can traid her in for a newer ride with less miles its your choice.

Sometimes I wish I could "like" someones reply like on facebook cos some responses deserve to be liked.

[swm1972]

Well. As many have pointed out this can come back to bite you in the ass down the road. Think child custody case. Think visitation. Think pissed off spouse that wants to see you in such misery she would perform CPR to keep your ass alive so she could torment you for another day. There is always a chance you can find yourself in that position. Don't think not me. I thought that after 14 years of marriage and was wrong. I wasn't using steroids at the time. But the vindictive bs always has the possibility of rearing it's ugly head.

I didn't tell my wife. (second marriage, first woman in my life worth the time of day) I actually struggled with this in the days before our big day. I knew I should discuss this shit with her. But never could find the words. She read me like a book guys. Seriously. She knew something was up and thought I was having second thoughts about her. I never told her. And then one day she walks up to me and says.....

"I found that black case on the top shelf. I just wanted you to know that." and then turned around and walked away.

At that point I had some explaining to do. And in hind site I wish I had told her and been upfront. She took it all remarkably well. We don't discuss doses. Cycle length. Etc. I am always on because of hrt. I didn't tell her about that either. Was embarrassed to tell her to be honest. She was so into me from the first days of our relationship. Loved having a big muscular man in her life. She loved every aspect of me. I didn't want to ruin it by telling her my balls didn't work like a mans should.

[chickenwing1]

I didn't tell my wife about my first cycle. But I told her I was thinking of trying one. Told her all the good about it. Such as a better sex life! She was all for that. Lol

[big88sub]

Wow a lot of personal stuff surfacing here. This is good I think. I mean if you can't talk to you significant other about your feeling let's spill our guts to complete strangers from.all around the world. I'm not bein a dick it's just kinda funny.

[adamjames]

do what i did, be a man and dont tell her

[ironbeck]

@Big88sub u r being a dic I don't see any personal info, just personal experiences. Maybe its just better to keep stuff bottled up like a real "man"

[V-ROID]

Just slowly and methodically start mentioning the benefits about roids and the overall health they can help you achieve. My wife thought I was on when I wasn't so I had to make her an honest woman and do it up. She was a gym queen when I met her so she doesn't mind that I use responsibly. But when you look in the drawer and see all of the stuff that goes along with it I can see how it would look overboard... Ease her into it like you are easing into it.

[ironbeck]

Good post Vegan....

[Firestorm#1]

I told mine she did like it at first. She gives me the shots. I told her it was alot safer then prohormons. She gives me the test or test with deca. I am about to start tren annd make it myself. I told her amd she is fine with it. Just be open and up front. If she finds out after the fact you maybe in trouble.

[swm1972]

Wow a lot of personal stuff surfacing here. This is good I think. I mean if you can't talk to you significant other about your feeling let's spill our guts to complete strangers from.all around the world. I'm not bein a dick it's just kinda funny.

Yeah bro. But you don't know me and what you think doesn't matter to me. Her opinion does. That's the difference. Not trying to be a dock either, but the aspect of being anonymous makes me feel more open to share. I had testicular cancer as a child. Was always embarrassed by that. I didn't want to look her in the eye and tell her one of my balls was a plastic filler. Would u?

[Psychoeric210]

This is a good thread....and I'm done with vokka.......good morning?

[Coolhand5599]

My wife shoots me, but she thinks it's just test that the Dr. Gave me. She would kill me if she knew it was anything else

[gixxerboy1]

i was doing stuff when i meet my wife. She never asked when we were dating but she knew. She doesnt really ask or talk about it now but she knows.

Every girl i ever been with knows. I know some hide it. I never have.

[OnTheSauce]

Every girl i ever been with knows. I know some hide it. I never have.

same

[devestating]

its easier to ask for forgiveness then it is for permission...

[gixxerboy1]

its easier to ask for forgiveness then it is for permission...

and you are supposed to be married to the other person and have trust with them. if i found out my wife was hiding a big secret from me i would be pissed too and have trust issues after.

[SexySweetheart]

x2 gixx

also it’s scary to hear that the man you’re in love with is using, when/if you don’t know the fact about the stuff...
without being educated about the stuff...thoughts of myths pop in a gals head/worries of legal issues/ money issues / health issues/ premisqueus sex issues and knowing that your now in trusted with a large secret you prob can’t/wont share with any one

if you tell her, please take the time to ease her mind, assure her you have proof advice on tap 24/7 and you will be ok...be understanding of her questions, if she has no questions I would probably be surprised~ and a tad worried lol. Don’t be surprised if the topic resurfaces, sometimes we need reassurance or just need to vocalize what runs through our girly mind

[gixxerboy1]

^^^ it think it a lot has to do where you are from too. The pa/nj/ny area its pretty common. So it not a shock for girls. Hell alot of them look for juice heads. My niece is dating one. So they may not know alot of details about them but they arent concerned either. Its pretty accepted

[jasc]

Education my friend... The general public listens to the media spew shit about AAS and thinks they are some evil, dangerous drug that will make you rage n destroy your health... This is the hurdle you need to overcome.

At first my gf hated the idea of AAS because of all the bad publicity shes heard her whole life. After she saw the amount of research I put in and how passionate I was she decided to open up her mind a little bit. I showed her loads of research on safe usage and how if used properly, they are not that bad. She didn't understand 99% of the info, but it eased her mind and calmed that fear. Another one of the big steps was having her watch Bigger Stronger Faster, excellent documentary, I highly recommend it. It helped her to understand everything better and the dr. testimonies and facts helped reinforce that they weren't that bad..

After a few weeks on cycle she saw my mood increase and my sex drive go through the roof. Now she gets excited to pin me and looks forward to my cycles.

Honesty is key in a marriage. Even if you hide it well, it'll eventually surface and when it does, prepare for hell.

[timmynim]

thanks guys...lots of good stories here.

i think i will tell her first....but I may make it sound a little more doctor suggested.

[Igifuno]

My wife knows, and we used to talk about it. My last two cycles she has known but we don't really talk about it. But I agree it's best to be forthright with your spouse.

[Scabtree]

My wife told me in all honesty that if I ever did steroids, she would leave me...

I'll keep you posted.

[Bonaparte]

My wife told me in all honesty that if I ever did steroids, she would leave me...

I'll keep you posted.

And you're using AAS? Brillant...

[DGHGM]

thanks guys...lots of good stories here.

i think i will tell her first....but I may make it sound a little more doctor suggested.

Let her see you researching it. That's how I came to an agreement with my missus. She walked in while I was on these forums and had another AAS site open and I just left it up on the screen. She asked if I was thinking of using steroids again and I said I was and was researching the latest info and reviewing my old notes to see if it was something I wanted to do again. "What do you think?" I ask. "Just don't let me see it" was her reply. Which PRETTY MUCH means "**** yeah I loved it when you were on AAS before but I feel like I should have some moral objection to it so I'm going to sound cranky but really I can't wait to get ****ed 3 times a day" ha ha ha! Women are funny creatures.

[Misery13]

Just my first two wives.

[kolaking]

Been married 20 years and she doesn't like it much because she thinks it will mess up my natty test or some other long term problem, she just cares for my health. On the other hand she knows that I'm pretty tenacious about aquiring the knowledge I need to do it as safe as I can. Bottom line is that she knows that I'm going to do it anyway and she can't stop me. In a twist, about 4 years ago she became interested in dropping weight and hardening up and asked what could she take, put her on some Primo for a little while with clen/t3 and she loved it. She stopped because she was tired of waking up in the middle of the night wet between the legs for no reason, I'm like WTF why don't you just wake me up and I'll take care of it...also Her clit was swollen up to the size of a Live Oak accorn and she was worried she would start growing a "Click". But i can understand a lot of women are really freaked out about anything illegal also, my wife isn't exactly a school teacher

[UFO]

If you tell your wife, will she tell her girlfriends? Or even worse, will she be so concerned for your health that she tells her mother or confide in someone else? This would be a problem.)

Man this shit is EXACTLY what happend to me. I told my girl just so that I could avoid sneaking around and all that bullshit and she was fine with it. But for some reason when she had a concern goes and tells her ****ing mother whos a nurse, who then tells my girls sis and so on. Now I got the moms rolling up to me saying oh your looking big how are the steroids going. Shits whack but **** it what can I do.

[swm1972]

Man this shit is EXACTLY what happend to me. I told my girl just so that I could avoid sneaking around and all that bullshit and she was fine with it. But for some reason when she had a concern goes and tells her ****ing mother whos a nurse, who then tells my girls sis and so on. Now I got the moms rolling up to me saying oh your looking big how are the steroids going. Shits whack but **** it what can I do.

I'd call her out on that shit. You confided in her and she blabs to whoever she choses? That's bs. I'd seriously consider how much more you share with her in the future. And I'd tell her that.

[Simon1972]

go on gut instinct- if you feel you can tell your wife, then wake up and dont- nobody sets off to split up and if you are doing an illegal activity and your spouse knows it- its out there and you will lose out of it.

if your spouse has skeletons in the closet then you have a trade off, but its not worth the risk-

women turn into vipers when relationships go sour- and they will- she might blab and she might try to hurt you....if your spouse is trustworthy- im sure she will approach you in her own waay and find out by herself- when she does , you can cross that bridge and say its prescribed and all legal- but never leave yourself open.

[timmynim]

...so I left the forum open for her to find...she built up a slow angy burn. I told her my plans (to research and suppliment test). She went to bed and when I went to go talk about it....she went ballistic. I am in the process of giving her space to cool down.

...I will see what the morning brings.

[big88sub]

Good luck man

[SexySweetheart]

TIM... if she ever needs to vent to a chick about all the thoughts running through her head with finding this out... or has questions of gals that have spouces that use you could always direct her to the site as a new member and Im sure of a few gals that would support her, as she enters your new world of using <3

[Sgt. Hartman]

A wise man once said "If people can't tell your on steroids then your doing them wrong".

I thought I was keeping my first cycle a secret from my wife until the subject of steroids randomly came up one day, I think it was b/c of a news story or something on tv. She made a comment about me being on steroids and I was like wtf why would you say/think that? Her response was basically that she's not stupid but I was stupid for thinking she wouldn't be able to tell.

[adamjames]

A wise man once said "If people can't tell your on steroids then your doing them wrong".

I thought I was keeping my first cycle a secret from my wife until the subject of steroids randomly came up one day, I think it was b/c of a news story or something on tv. She made a comment about me being on steroids and I was like wtf why would you say/think that? Her response was basically that she's not stupid but I was stupid for thinking she wouldn't be able to tell.

that sounds cringeworthy mate, once you start lying its hard to stop lol

[swm1972]

...so I left the forum open for her to find...she built up a slow angy burn. I told her my plans (to research and suppliment test). She went to bed and when I went to go talk about it....she went ballistic. I am in the process of giving her space to cool down.

...I will see what the morning brings.

Well. That's one way to handle it. This way you tipped your hand before actually doing the deed. If she went ballistic on you just for educating yourself on the subject I suspect her reaction if she caught you using would have been much worse. Think divorce. Atleast now you know where she stands on the matter. I figured my wife would be like yours, and she had never been more calm about anything when she found my stash. I completely figured my wife wrong.