There is a girl in my life who I have honestly been in love with since I was in 8th or 9th grade. We dated a little in 8th grade and then in 9th, and then we dated for 3 years straight from 10th grade until we graduated, but we broke up before college b/c we were having some problems and were going to be going to school 7 hrs apart. We have been in college for two years now and we still keep well in touch and visit each other at least 2 times per semester. Well, she came and visited me this weekend and we always have a great time, but we seem to have always bickered a lot. Not fight, just bicker over stupid stuff.
Here is the deal, every time she visits, we are always very affectionate toward one another and it is almost like we are back together and we have an unreal time together, but we are both the type of people who dont handle not being able to see our significant other very well, and well, it would be hard living 7 hrs away from each other and in college. But everytime, we always get so confused b/c we just don't know what to do or how to act with each other and what we "should" do. I mean she always has one moment when she visits where she will be in tears b/c she gets so confused at all the feelings that are still there and hates being so far away and having to say goodbye. She does that, but then she is so gung hoe on us experiencing other things, or at least trying to, yet she never tries to date anybody else really, b/c she is still in love with me. If she didn't have this strong way of thinking about this, I would definately be more than happy to work out a long distance relationship with her. Does anybody have any input that could help me out? Part of me wants to be with this girl like no ther, but we always talk about how we need to experience other things and life without each other, and if it is meant to be we will get back together when the time is right, but I have dated one or 2 other people (kind forced it upon myself to date others) and all I can ever think about, even when I am with them, is her. And she says she can't even develope feelings for anybody b/c nobody compares to me. What the hell do I do?? I mean I could possibly marry this girl one day, but who knows. I really need some solid advice
Also, just curious, for those who are married and in love, how do you know when it is true love or that they are "the one"? The reason I ask is b/c she made a good point to me that we think we are just so in love , but we have never experienced anything similar to compare it to. And she wants to have something to compare it to to find out if it is real or not, which is completely understandable I guess.