Misguided and Misconceptions
Hi everyone. First I know this is an old post but it comes up high in search engine rankings so it is important that good information is embedded for others who also get Googled over here. I stumbled upon this thread while doing some of my own research and to be honest I am appalled as I read too many misconceptions and too many extremely ignorant comments.
First things first. If you do not have experience or education in something then do not offer up quaky advice, etc.
Now. HPV is NOT herpes ... get that people? NOT herpes. HPV (please google it and broaden your horizons) is also known as WARTS. One last time: HPV is NOT HERPES. HPV IS WARTS.
HPV is not curable and it is a virus that will stay with you for life. When a woman contracts it then her chances of vaginal/cervical cancer are greatly increased so make sure you are aware of that. If your lady friend(s) are under the age of 25 then there is a new vaccination that they can get that will protect them ... I don't believe from the warts altogether but from them developing into cancer. Problem is that the vaccination must be administered prior to contracting HPV or it is of no use.
HPV's physical signs such as the warts wil rear their little nasty selfs from time to time throughout your life. Each time you can go and get them lasered off but again it is simply a temporary fix until the next episode. I understand the feeling of "dirty" once getting the news or realizing what you have. The good news is that you are going into a relationship with them and not bringing them into the relationship, which can cause even more problems.
I've been around the world four times as a civilian playing baseball as well as a Marine. In my younger years, as expected, I lived up to the Marine standards and had a lot of women in a lot of unusual circumstances, places, positions, etc. I'm not sure who gave me HPV. I actually made it through the age of 32 when I had totaled over 300 chicks and was completely clean. Granted I was married from 25-32. Dating again after my divorce and living the good life I noticed something out of the ordinary but ... it went away within a week ... even scared shitless ... and never came again. In that year I was probably with another 11 ladies but then must consider that I did catch my ex-wife in the midst of screwing around so that could have been it too. Anyhow it went away and no symptoms at all after that.
After dating my current wife for two years while living in Europe and then moving back to the U.S. upon getting married it went downhill. The first summer of dating my wife .. in four months ... we ****ed over 500 times and it didn't really slow down at all until putting the ring on her finger (remember that guys). So throughout that time period there had not been one single sign of HPV. At the point of being together nearly three years I ran a stack of gear, which was something I hadn't done in over a decade. I ran a hybrid cutting stack and after I ran a clen/t3 stack to get the rest off. I do not remember when it was if it was during the clen/t3 or the cutting stack that a nasty little bump appeared. I picked at it and it got worse ... wouldn't go away. I avoided any situations in which my wife might notice. Then they exploded and I had several while the one I had picked at was infected and nasty. Ended up with two nurses and a doctor having my cock in their hands examing it.
One day she did feel something and as I hadn't said anything she flipped, which I expected her to do and she has the full right. Unfortunately what came next was me getting accused of screwing around. She searched my laptop and of course being five years old she found some "adult sites" and "adult dating sites" and memberships and she was certain I had screwed around and remains doing so today. I HAVE NEVER BEEN UNFAITHFUL TO MY WIFE! She demanded a full STD test so I went to the Doctor and they shoved a rod down my cock hole, which was pure hell and the test came back as negative for everything. HPV is NOT detectable with tests. They cut a few of the lesions off and sent it to a lab. The nurse wrote to examine for herpes virus by mistake so I had to do it all over again. The final lab came and it said definitely not herpes but was consistent with HPV ... they didn't say concretely though ... but it has to be what it is.
Her OB/Gyn told her that if I had them and she hadn't noticed them before then it was an absolute given that I had ****ed around ... I'm still going to track that bitch down and give her a session ... So my wife was totally convinced after the doctor said this. I'm sure it wasn't my wife screwing around as well. I work from home and the only time we're really apart is if one of us goes to the grocery store. Slowly my the intensity slowed and my wife's mind was occupied with other things. We were never careful but to this day she has not had one single symptom of HPV. My symptoms died down after a few months and have not been noticeable for a long time until recently.
The kicker: I'm at the end of a 6-week cycle. So the poster who said roids suppress the immune system, etc. is right on track. It is the only way to explain my situation. In a relationship for a long time with no signs of anything sinister and all of a sudden wham here they come and wife's doctor says I HAD TO HAVE contracted them in the last 3 months and that there was no other possibility. WELL WELL WELL. I might pursue legal action on that one. Regardless, I could have had this from my very first sexual encounter but not known. My wife could have had them and not known either.
My money is on me having them for years unknowingly and both cycles were the culprits behind the outbreaks.
Thankfully I think my marriage is back on track but proving my innocence has been three years of complete hell and I've contemplated both divorce and suicide as I was sick and tired of getting accused of something I am not guilty of.
Sorry for the length here, etc. but I was finally able to vent a little.
What it all boils down to is that HPV is NOT HERPES. You can unquestionably experience a breakout of warts during or after a cycle of gear because of how it affects your immune system. There is NO CURE of HPV and you'll have it until the day you die. You must cleanly and carefully manage any outbreaks.
Feel dirty? Yeah me too ... but I've had two dermatologists tell me that well over 40% of the US population has it and many do not know they have it. That gives you a very good shot at being with someone who has them. You cannot get it from touching something ,etc. It is possible that sharing a towel, etc could transmit but nowhere near as likely.
Don't dwell on it. Get rid of this breakout and forget about it until the next one. Keep managing it but move on with your life. In the end our lives are really much too short to be dwelling on such bullshit. I look at the years I have left to live and I am going to make sure I enjoy them without undue stress ... breathe and relax.