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  1. 12-15-2010, 12:19 PM #1
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    Are you ever ashamed of or embarrased by your body?

    Alot of out of shape guys will say yes right off the bat. Having spent 15 years of my life 70lbs overweight, I know the feeling, but that's actually not what i'm referring to.

    Maybe it's just me, I have a complex or something, but I get really uncomfortable and anxious if I have to take my shirt off (even if i'm wearing a tight wife beater underneath or something) in front of dudes that I know... mainly people who knew me before I got into (relatively) good shape.

    I get the idea that they're thinking 'look at this guy, he thinks he's tough' or 'he thinks he's badass now' etc. Let me say up front that I do NOT feel this way about myself, I don't walk around like a tough guy - quite the contrary, any of you who know me know that i'm pretty self depricating.

    Just wondering if any of you experience these feelings, ever... or if it's because I came from being fat and am simply not 'comfortable' with my 'new' body yet?
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    I was always the skinny kid. Not that I am big now, but still a good 50-60 lbs bigger than I was in high school. Sometimes compliments make me a little nervous, and my closest friends do give me hell about thinking im something now that I'm bigger
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    I always know Im not in as good of shape as I can be and I know I shouldnt eat half the things I do so in the end its my fault.
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    i do all the time when the 300 lbs girls tell me after taking my cloths off...ur skinny but i love muscles....(sure kp chime in with an insult)
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    About 5 years ago i was a fat (fattish) teenager, and then the gym got me addicted to weightlifting and trying to accomplish the perfect body!! but i am NEVER EVER comfortable with taking my t shirt off in front of friends etc, in my college house and we're all getting ready, i go into the bathroom to change t shirts and that. even though im proably in better shape than any of them, i still dont feel comfortable, i sometimes think i dont know when i will feel comfortable, probably only when i have a six pack to be honest!!

    Its just a thing some of us have i think, its tough
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    Who gives a fvck what people think ?

    Take your shirt off with pride.
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    I maybe a female but I feel ya. I was a 100lbs overweight and still have problems showing my new body. I still do cardio in a hoodie and weights in a big tee. It totally doesn't help being a female and hearing jealous comments from other females like......your too skinny, or your obsessed. It actually prevents me from being "one of the girls" I've turned into "one of the boys"
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    Quote Originally Posted by gettingthere View Post
    About 5 years ago i was a fat (fattish) teenager, and then the gym got me addicted to weightlifting and trying to accomplish the perfect body!! but i am NEVER EVER comfortable with taking my t shirt off in front of friends etc, in my college house and we're all getting ready, i go into the bathroom to change t shirts and that. even though im proably in better shape than any of them, i still dont feel comfortable, i sometimes think i dont know when i will feel comfortable, probably only when i have a six pack to be honest!!

    Its just a thing some of us have i think, its tough
    start ****ing whores....u will be out of this complex in no time
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    Quote Originally Posted by calgarian View Post
    start ****ing whores....u will be out of this complex in no time
    Since going back to college i seem to be doing pretty damn well with this cal, and the complex is definatly not as bad as it used to be!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by gettingthere View Post
    Since going back to college i seem to be doing pretty damn well with this cal, and the complex is definatly not as bad as it used to be!!
    do a 3 some with 2 females its will speed up the process
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    I think its the same way with penis envy. Some guys feel like theirs is smaller so rather than feel embarrassed, they use the stall to whiz in instead of standing proudly by the guy next to him at the urinal. Its just an inhibition we all need to overcome. Personally I always stand at the urinal to whiz which is probably why the other guys use the stall....
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    I got laid more when I was fat than here lately when I've dropped almost 100 pounds... I liked that fat fugger dammit.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coldstarrynite View Post
    I maybe a female but I feel ya. I was a 100lbs overweight and still have problems showing my new body. I still do cardio in a hoodie and weights in a big tee. It totally doesn't help being a female and hearing jealous comments from other females like......your too skinny, or your obsessed. It actually prevents me from being "one of the girls" I've turned into "one of the boys"
    Post some pics in our forum..
    Im sure it will be a good first step
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    Quote Originally Posted by calgarian View Post
    do a 3 some with 2 females its will speed up the process
    You know this is Ireland right? lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by Shol'va View Post
    I think its the same way with penis envy. Some guys feel like theirs is smaller so rather than feel embarrassed, they use the stall to whiz in instead of standing proudly by the guy next to him at the urinal. Its just an inhibition we all need to overcome. Personally I always stand at the urinal to whiz which is probably why the other guys use the stall....
    I pee in the stall, because I can't pee at the urinal. I have shy penis syndrome or some shit
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    Quote Originally Posted by gettingthere View Post
    You know this is Ireland right? lol
    Do they behead you in Ireland for that or something?
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    nope. I'm not as lean as i would like now. So im not out whipping my shirt off. But otherwise i dont care. Hell when i used to go to clubs i would take my shirt off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by D3m3nt3d View Post
    Do they behead you in Ireland for that or something?
    read my mind
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    Quote Originally Posted by gbrice75 View Post
    Maybe it's just me, I have a complex or something, but I get really uncomfortable and anxious if I have to take my shirt off (even if i'm wearing a tight wife beater underneath or something) in front of dudes that I know... mainly people who knew me before I got into (relatively) good shape.
    I'm the same way.

    Hell... I don't even take my shirt off at the beach.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Narkissos View Post
    I'm the same way.

    Hell... I don't even take my shirt off at the beach.
    wtf is your problem bro, don't you compete?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Narkissos View Post
    I'm the same way.

    Hell... I don't even take my shirt off at the beach.
    i wouldnt be if i was you.....show off
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    Quote Originally Posted by D3m3nt3d View Post
    Do they behead you in Ireland for that or something?
    No lol but girls here are less up for 3somes as they might be in other countries, most of them are old fashioned lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by gettingthere View Post
    No lol but girls here are less up for 3somes as they might be in other countries, most of them are old fashioned lol
    do they shave their armpits and kitty?
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    I'm like this in a way. I'm not embarrassed to take my shirt off at all but I feel like when I do I constantly being judged and critiqued by tge people around me. I'm only 185lbsand by no means huge. I'm lean but not ripped. I feel like people try to find all the flaws on me to make themselves feel better about there body. I don't let it stop mr from being me tho. I just tell myself I'm retarded and go about my business.


    Only comment that gets me is the steroid comment. I play flag football and last week I burnt this guy down field and caught a td pass. Then instead of being a good sport I see him look at his buddy and say "that's what steroids do."
    I ran up to him and looked down at his stomach and said "you sure it ain't all those big macs and sodas that got ya beat." he just kinda looked at me like he couldn't believe I heard him lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gettingthere View Post
    No lol but girls here are less up for 3somes as they might be in other countries, most of them are old fashioned lol
    Ever heard of chloroform? Just cause they don't remember it doesn't mean it didn't happen....
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    Shoot, I still wont even post pics here with my shirt off...
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    Quote Originally Posted by stack_it View Post
    I'm like this in a way. I'm not embarrassed to take my shirt off at all but I feel like when I do I constantly being judged and critiqued by tge people around me. I'm only 185lbsand by no means huge. I'm lean but not ripped. I feel like people try to find all the flaws on me to make themselves feel better about there body. I don't let it stop mr from being me tho. I just tell myself I'm retarded and go about my business.


    Only comment that gets me is the steroid comment. I play flag football and last week I burnt this guy down field and caught a td pass. Then instead of being a good sport I see him look at his buddy and say "that's what steroids do."
    I ran up to him and looked down at his stomach and said "you sure it ain't all those big macs and sodas that got ya beat." he just kinda looked at me like he couldn't believe I heard him lol.
    i say u have a roid rage
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    Quote Originally Posted by stack_it View Post
    Ever heard of chloroform? Just cause they don't remember it doesn't mean it didn't happen....
    either that or cpl of fatties
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    Quote Originally Posted by calgarian View Post
    i say u have a roid rage
    Those are strong signs of roid rage
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    Quote Originally Posted by D3m3nt3d View Post
    wtf is your problem bro, don't you compete?
    Man, I'm retired now... but even when I was competing, I never took my shirt off in public. LOL

    My friends always used to give me shit about it too, seeing that I stand onstage in front hundreds of screaming ppl.

    But, onstage, you can't see shit LOL. It's like the phantom zone.

    So, it never bothered me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Brewster View Post
    I feel smaller then people view me
    but I love my self
    Same here Brewster. My nickname at work is "Captain Muscles" and to be honest I do not see it. Everyone tells me I'm a big guy and I feel I could be bigger. I was always the skinny kid in high school who could not make the football team and got picked on. Now at 39 I am the guy everyone turns to for fitness advice and get compliments on my physique. I have a beautiful girlfriend who loves me for me and tells me I am hot and sexy. She also says what makes me more so is the fact I do not view myself that way and I only feel sexy around here.
    Yet still when I look in the mirror I sometimes see that skinny kid from high school.
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    Quote Originally Posted by calgarian View Post
    either that or cpl of fatties
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    Those are strong signs of roid rage
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    I never take my shirt off... but I am a F fatso... so that is understandable.
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    Nope; it's the pint of beer sitting on a coaster on your gut that gives it away.
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    Ever heard of chloroform? Just cause they don't remember it doesn't mean it didn't happen....


    you know why i'm laughing
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    Yies; clothes are the way to go for me as well. I don't foresee myself ever being quite comfortable without them.
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