Originally Posted by
GirlyGymRat
Hi. Just my .02. She needs to handle this. There is an art to letting guys down as to not offend him and maintain a biz relationship. But she needs to be firm. She can't leave the impression that she could be interested later. For example, I appreciate our biz relationship but i am unwilling to jeopardize my personal relationship with "your name". I am committed to "your name". I am sure you will come to understand the feelings I have for "your name" once you find that someone that makes me feel as special as "your name". Keep looking and you will find her when you least expect it.
I always end with a big smile and move straight to biz. If he says anything in response that he is interested she needs to say, no. I value what I have with "your name" and I love him. What could be possibly say after that?? :)
As far as her not blurting it out the details could be for several reasons. ESP if u the jealous type or a hot head, etc... Don't get caught up on this minor detail. However deleting text lends me to think that she felt them sketchy. The only texts i delete r the ones i dont want others to see. But forgive and move on.
thinking out loud here. i am not so sure this other dude is the problem, but just a symptom. You two need to work on your relationship. After less than 2 years shouldn't be stale. Relationships need to be cared for and nurtured unless u think this has run its course. If not, go after it and with gusto!!!
Only my thoughts. Wish u the best. :)