Breaking it to the wife

Ok fellas so how did you do it? What ways did you use to tell the Mrs.? My wife know im a lifelong athlete who has always taken fitness seriously. The wife has seen this forum, and ive shown her the vast amount of knowledge this site brings. I think she suspects i might try aas in the future. Fortunately for me this website hasnt offended her, and subtle talk about aas has not invoked a nasty comment or the wifey death stare. I want to know how some of you fellas approached this subject.


My approach will be as so:

Stating the amount of research i have performed, my wife knows i put many many hours into any new venture i set into whether it be engine rebuilds, performance parts, supplements, or a new career path. She knows i will put forth an exhausting amount of effort into my research.

Pros and cons of an aas cycle and my plans to combat them.

What to expect such as possibly mood swings, size increase, libido increase, decrease, then back to normal.

Explain to her that i am making an informed decision which ive mulled over in the brain many times.

Lastly i guess id ask tell her: In the future when i reach a certain goal, in due time, i plan to run a cycle of aas. i want you to know i have been using the past "x" amount of time to research what i intend to do, in doing so i believe i have built a solid foundation of knowledge about the good and bad of aas.

Then id ask: With you being shown what ive said....do you feel comfortable with me making an educated and informed decision in introducing aas into our home and my body?


Thats the best i have in my head now! Any Married fellas or guys in LTR's let me know how you told the ol lady about it. Young dudes i know you all have a good heart but please no stories about how you told your sophomore college gf of 3 months you wanted to juice HAHA

I didn't tell her, one of my retarded buddies mentioned something about how jacked I was last summer to her and that I must be on juice. I then had to fess up because bold faced lying is worse than not telling her. She is ok with it now, but your approach looks like a good plan. As long as I am not too much of an asshole, she is fine with me looking better and railing her constantly.

I just told my wife. She has known for a while I'm going to use. Dosent like it but won't stop me if I do. The approach your taking is probably the best but this is the wrong forum for it.

Me and my wife both researched. I'm on TRT tho and she loves it lol. She pins for me.

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Originally Posted by fitnesstrainer

I just told my wife. She has known for a while I'm going to use. Dosent like it but won't stop me if I do. The approach your taking is probably the best but this is the wrong forum for it.

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i wasnt sure which forum was best suited for an answer, i saw a similiar discussion in this forum last week.


Hey MODERATOR sorry if its the wrong forum please move to appropriate section.




Thanks for the input fellas. Yea Zempey i hear ya! I lied once and ill never do it again! Its not worth the hoops you jump through to regain trust..not to mention women NEVER forget that shit.

No right or wrong here, bud - we're all different

I just got my daily spike from my woman while she was cooking dinner < doesn't mean it will work for anyone else

I have been doing AAS, on and off, for more than 20 years. I also have had several girlfriends through the years and now have a family. Because I have gone through this many times I have to say it has more to do with your woman than your approach. Just like anything, her attitude and opinions will be based on her own thoughts and not necessarily how you bring them up. I have had women break up with me because of it, but a majority of them did not mind and in fact was happy with the effects overall. If your wife has seen you on this site then she probably has a good idea that you have an interest in them. Also, if you bring her into the decision making process it could go either way. She may not want to contribute to any decision that could cause you any problems and might disagree with them. But if you tell her you want to do them, she may feel as though you are not including her in the decision which causes some women to be frustrated. Like I said earlier, it really has more to do with what type of woman you have and you know her more than anyone. Therefore whatever plan you have is probably going to be the best direction compared to our opinions, since we do not know her or her personality. But, I can say that once you get it off your chest and she agrees you will be a lot happier because it would suck to have to hide something. Just do what you think is right and it will probably work out fine. Also, show her the thread on testosterone and although some experience some negative sides they are relatively mild and easily reversible and when comparing it to the benefits she will probably be fine with it. Good luck!

My 2 cents as a female...I think you've got a good solid plan. Personally, I wouldn't keep my husband from "experimenting" if he throughly researched and was making an informed decision.
I'm sort of in the same boat, only worse. He has no idea I am currently "experimenting" and started with a cycle of var 5 weeks ago. Nor does he know I plan to compete this year.
I figure, I have a long way to go and as the competition gets closer and my body really shows the change, it will be an easier sell.
It also helps that he's away from home for 3 months at a time for work :)

my woman knows I inject due to TRT. beyond that, she doesn't question all the vials and powders she sees. She's been watching me take supplements for over 25 years, all the powders, caps, scales, liquids. And crazy diets.

She also knows I was injecting peptides. 3x a day. for along time. Ghrp, those types

She also knows I inject TB500 when I'm hurt.

I don't really hide too much from her. But the other part of the silent agreement, since needles makes her squeamish, is she stopped asking questions years ago.

She can't keep up with all the shit I do. So the aas is just a tree in the forest to her, and she doesn't think anything of it too much, I suppose

I watched "bigger stronger faster" in front of my gf numerous times. I talked about my curiosity w/ steroids multiple times. After that I just outright told her I wanted to try steroids. Her only requests were that I get a blood test before and after my cycle, which I did, and that I do my first injection right in front of her.

I injected right in front of her my first time. My hand was shaking so bad, it was like I had parkinsons, and I was sweating profusely lol.

http://forums.steroid.com/anabolic-s...periences.html

I wrote that a few days a go op for first timers and what to expect,

You seem like a responsible guy and my wife understands that and I'm sure yours will as well, something like this needs to be taken seriously and when they are how serious your taking it, it gives them a self if re assurance that you are doing everything possible to be safe

No disrespect but if you have to figure that out, youve lost already. My wife knows its my body, i do what i want. Or she knows where the front door is.that being said, she sees nothing, and doesnt ask. Im responsible with it bc i have a lil one running around.

Dont tell her. Telling has the potential to screw you over big time.

If she wants to divorce you she will just need to state you are a steroid user. Roid rage attacks and drug usage will follow.

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Dont tell her. Telling has the potential to screw you over big time. If she wants to divorce you she will just need to state you are a steroid user. Roid rage attacks and drug usage will follow.

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One sad truth

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Originally Posted by Mr.BB

Dont tell her. Telling has the potential to screw you over big time.

If she wants to divorce you she will just need to state you are a steroid user. Roid rage attacks and drug usage will follow.

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if your wife is bitch enough to do that you deserve it just to have married her...
that is the sad truth...

OP, only you know your wife.
the best advice is to first of all know what you are doing and why you do it.
once you are knowledgeable about your steroids use then you can explain to her.
if needed print several studies to support your claim(there is plenty...).

if she knows that its important to you and that it is not dangerous. and if she loves you at least a minimum youll be fine.

you should never have married her if.you cannot trust her with something so little...
cause seriously everyone is using and no one cares...

Hey everyone thank you for you input! So I talked to the wife and she said she doesn't mind. At first she was leary but after I explained my research and told her that I still wished to do more. She eased up. When I mentioned that my body wasn't ready for aas and it would be in the far future she said it sounded good and to just keep her posted as to when I choose to start. So I'm good!

Just start now ! You're in the clear hahaa

"Far future" HA, IT'S 2015! That's far enough into the future for me, and Emmet brown.

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Hey everyone thank you for you input! So I talked to the wife and she said she doesn't mind. At first she was leary but after I explained my research and told her that I still wished to do more. She eased up. When I mentioned that my body wasn't ready for aas and it would be in the far future she said it sounded good and to just keep her posted as to when I choose to start. So I'm good!

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smart man identifying the right road to take. some guys just can just flat out tell their wife how it's gonna be. some need her to sign off on things. for some it's better to hide it behind her back and address if/when need. glad it worked out

Lol well to be specific I told her fall or winter. Idk why I said far future it'll be here sooner than I think!

Haydenz trust me I'd like to! But I need some more time I want to drop BF to around 12% and finish getting these natty gains I've been blessed with the last bit. I'm sitting at 5'9 182 lbs 14-17% BF.

Asking forgiveness is easier than asking permission! Lol

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Asking forgiveness is easier than asking permission! Lol

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Ever marry a pistol toting redheaded country girl? Haha

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Ever marry a pistol toting redheaded country girl? Haha

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I can top that. How about a pistol toting (Glock 30SF) Asian female from the Philippines. If you know or have dated a Filipino you will know what I'm talking about.

Ha, thats one of my favorite saying.
"Asking forgiveness is easier than asking permission! Lol"

Also: If you cant be good, dont get caught.

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I told my wife upfront about what I am doing and we sat down so I could answer all her questions. At the end of the day she said I got to do what I got to do. And honestly, not being honest with my wife would feel like a huge betrayal for me personally and being honest is just so much easier. She is also a hard core neuroscientist so I wanted her input :)

Im not married, but it's your body DO WHATEVER THE **** YOU WAAAANA DO :-P ;-). (Hodgetwins) :-)

Personally, I don't share steroid information about me to anyone offline. Regardless of how close a relationship it is. No brothers, sisters, girlfriends, wives or parents. Not their business and if the shit hits the fan in that relationship, you can kiss any rights you might of thought you had away, including children...

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Personally, I don't share steroid information about me to anyone offline. Regardless of how close a relationship it is. No brothers, sisters, girlfriends, wives or parents. Not their business and if the shit hits the fan in that relationship, you can kiss any rights you might of thought you had away, including children...

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Hate to tell you this, I think your DLB just started juicing. I hate spreading rumors, but something is just off.