Originally Posted by
lovbyts
Yeah and just her filing a motion could take up to a year to get a decision. 90 days if you are lucky. What kind of working relationship do you have with her? Does she seem OK with the current situation, flexible or has she been a PITA and hinting she should have custody now that she is sober? Does she seem to REALLY have your daughters best interest in mind or more self centered still? My 1st wife tried doing the whole clean/sober acts for a while and being the GOOD reformed mom even going to church and getting baptized to show how she had turned her life around. I went to the church baptism well knowing it was all for show but played along. I listened to her whole story how she was changed and only wanted what was best for our daughter. I told her that was great and I was really happy for her and I was excited to see her turn her life around. I went on to say then it should be easy for her to understand then that I also only had our daughters best interest safety in mind and with her very recent past I needed to continue my current direction with custody and was not going to just believe what I'm being told putting my daughter at risk. With her new enlightenment and understanding it should be easy for her to understand my position. I dont think most people at the church had ever heard so many curse words and fowl language coming from a cute young woman especially after only being baptized 30 minutes prior. Maybe she was just filled with the holly spirit and speaking in tongues. hahahaha Well that answers my question and is what I figured. If she is anything like my ex was she will not give up the kid even to save a little child support because she probably knows if she is clean long enough she has a good chance of getting sympathy from the court and getting custody back. I'm sure you clearly know if the roles were reversed and she had the majority of the custody, time with your daughter you would be paying 10x what she is paying you now. She also knows this and is counting on that happening sooner than later. You are going to have to prove her unfit AGAIN in some way. Dont suggest but dont make her pay child support. Let her get behind and keep meticulous records. Keep records of when/if she is late picking your daughter up and dropping her off. This does not have to be anything more than notes in a journal of some type of detailed, simple and clear. Keep records and documentation of any problems with her work, changing jobs or whatever. All these things will matter when it comes time to fight as I'm sure you have learned and figured out in the past but sometimes a reminder is needed. The payoff MAY work but you will have to catch her in the right mind-frame and make sure you do NOT make this sound beneficial to you in any way or she wont go for it. Some how make her think it's her idea and she is really squeezing you. Of course find a way to get her to sign a modified parenting plan withe a notarized signature before giving her a dime.
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