Originally Posted by KAEW44
My instrutor would avoid letting guys roll with girls because many guys we had especially begginers couldnt control their weight or strength and ended up hurting the girls by mounting too hard or putting too much weight on them and some even cranking submissions on them like it was life or death situations!!
And we all know there are two types of girls that do martial arts classes, sorry to be the one to officially anounce this sexist type description but we all know it inside and i have been doing martial arts for ages and have seen it all along:
1-The girly girl, does martial arts for the phsycological satisfaction of having learnt self defense, and is too girly to really get her hands dirty, and these girls are jut easy money for martial arts schools.
2-The hardcore girl, these gilrs will open a can of whoopass on you and make u feel like the poor helpless victim, they have too much pride to ever quit, and they have that never say never attitude, and your in trouble if u treat her like she is the girly girl. These girls will learn this stuff and if u see them at club you will be the one leaving when the trouble starts not her.
The point is, some girls who i described in #2 really come there to learn this and they want to improve in the sport and learn to defend themselves, so do roll with them and if u are a huge person then do control yourself but dont by any means go real easy because u will offend them and you will stop them from feeling out what a real situation is which could really help them in the future.
After this insight was bought up to my instructor the rules changed to if a girl wants to roll with the guys then she should be the one to request it and not the other way around. This way harrasment charges are also not as common.