Just found out.....

[Theatrix]

that my ex is giving 10% of my child support money to the church. I pay the mortgage, pay for her new suv and insurance and health insurance and give her $5000. a month in cash. She is giving 10% of the cash to the church!! WTF....Be interested in knowing what you guys/gals think about that. Me, I'm fuming at the moment and going to get drunk.

[Bigen12]

that my ex is giving 10% of my child support money to the church. I pay the mortgage, pay for her new suv and insurance and health insurance and give her $5000. a month in cash. She is giving 10% of the cash to the church!! WTF....Be interested in knowing what you guys/gals think about that. Me, I'm fuming at the moment and going to get drunk.

The 5k is that by a court order, and you paying for her car and everything else?

[Theatrix]

Yea, but its child support

[Tyrone_Biggums]

you pay 60,000 a year in child support??? hope you make over 300K bro
I'm going through a divorce right now so I know how you feel.

[Bigen12]

Yea, but its child support

What state are you in?

[Tyrone_Biggums]

How many kids.....that number looks way too high unless you have 6 kids or more.......go back to court.....that amount is beyond wrong

[Theatrix]

I have four kids. I agreed to the number. Its the fact that she is giving it away that bothers me!

[Bigen12]

I have four kids. I agreed to the number. Its the fact that she is giving it away that bothers me!

Unfortunately she can do what ever she sees fit with child support,

If you don't like what she's doing, take her to court and get it lowered,

They are changing the child support laws here in Georgia this summer, and I'm looking forward to seeing the child support that I pay drop significantly...

[Papi93]

I have four kids. I agreed to the number. Its the fact that she is giving it away that bothers me!

It's better than giving it to a new boyfriend. Do you wish you had signed a pre-nup now?

[Bigen12]

It's better than giving it to a new boyfriend. Do you wish you had signed a pre-nup now?

Pre-nups don't have anything to do with child support, they only allow you to keep what you had before the marriage.

[Papi93]

that my ex is giving 10% of my child support money to the church. I pay the mortgage, pay for her new suv and insurance and health insurance and give her $5000. a month in cash. She is giving 10% of the cash to the church!! WTF....Be interested in knowing what you guys/gals think about that. Me, I'm fuming at the moment and going to get drunk.

He said that he pays the mortgage, pays for her new suv, pays for insurance, and pays for health insurance. Is this all included in child support ($5000)?

[Theatrix]

My total outlay per month is $13,000. The 5k is cash

[Theatrix]

A few Belvedere's later and I'm feeling nasty. To answer your question, pre-nup is the only way I would ever go again.

[Kale]

My total outlay per month is $13,000. The 5k is cash

So your real name is Bill Gates right ?

[Tyrone_Biggums]

My total outlay per month is $13,000. The 5k is cash

so you give her 156,000 a year?

[Theatrix]

Isn't what we all work for? The money isn't the issue. She doesn't work and she is giving my money away, that's what bothers me. Am I right in being pissed off or shouldn't I care?

[IronFreakX]

shit man..I wanna marry you lol

giving it to church??its ppl like her who keep churches going...if it werent...and they had taxes...haha...say goodbye to churches..

[TheMudMan]

You are giving her the money anyway so if she's giving it to the church so be it. I could see if the money she was giving the church was taking away from your kids then that would be a diferent story.

As someone else stated I would rather the money go to something worth while then to a boyfriend, or drug habbit.

[IronFreakX]

yeah u have a rite to be annoyed....wtf....giving money to church...just like my Gma...she gives money to poor people all the time and then complains that she has no money wtf....crazy woman

[Tyrone_Biggums]

Shit I want to Own an Insurance Agency, I didnt realise you could make 300,000+ a year doing that.....where do I sighn up?

[Papi93]

A few Belvedere's later and I'm feeling nasty. To answer your question, pre-nup is the only way I would ever go again.

I want to get married and I will learn from your life experience.

[steve0]

shit bro i would work on getting custody of ur kids

[goodcents]

Something doesn't add up here. You must be loaded (and either been madly in love or had a crappy divorce lawyer, either way you got screwed on that deal) or possibly their are some zeros that keep accidently getting added. Never heard of these amounts before.

Not flaming, just sounds odd to me (and maybe a few other people here?)

Why would you give her $5000 a month on top of that? and is it really "in cash" or a different form (check etc.)

[goodcents]

that my ex is giving 10% of my child support money to the church. I pay the mortgage, pay for her new suv and insurance and health insurance and give her $5000. a month in cash. She is giving 10% of the cash to the church!! WTF....Be interested in knowing what you guys/gals think about that. Me, I'm fuming at the moment and going to get drunk.

You say you pay for (like you're making payments?) doesn't make sense, why would you finance something like an suv w/ that kind of money? ($30-40k)
Seems like some bad business decisions

[Theatrix]

How did get to "something doesn't add up"? Trust me when I tell you that she gets $13,000 a month. There are some who happen to make $500K a year. That wasn't my intent to defend my income. The reality is that I love my children and their mother and I do what I have to to take care of them. It just bothered me that she was giving some of it away. But a few brutha's made a good point. It is for a good cause, so I will live with it.

[Theatrix]

You say you pay for (like you're making payments?) doesn't make sense, why would you finance something like an suv w/ that kind of money? ($30-40k)
Seems like some bad business decisions

It's a lease, dude!

[IronFreakX]

$500K/year??

what do u do??

[Theatrix]

I'm a dad and then I run a business.

[Tyrone_Biggums]

$500K/year??

what do u do??

He's a Columbian drug lord or a brain surgeon

[Kale]

I'm a dad and then I run a business.

Good response Bro !!!! Dont worry about the joking around, the guys are just jelous. At the end of the day the kids are the most important thing in all of this. I pay a lot for my kids as well, although not as much as you. But I have to say I would be pissed if I found out she wasnt using that mony for the kids, thats what its for, not the fvcking church. She is obviously getting lots more than she legally is entitled to. I would point that out to here and tell her if the money goes to the church then you will deduct that much extra each month from her payment.

[Anna Bollick]

Does she also pay income tax on this? Many churches stress the biblical requirement to tithe, or to give 10% of one's income. You will not be able to dissuade her from doing that, except possibly by arguing that the child support is not income, but simply money held in trust by her, to provide for your children's needs. If you simply reduce the amount (It does sound excessive, even if you make plenty) she will still feel compelled to give 10% to her church.

I doubt that you would be able to claim that she is mismanaging or misusing your child support, and get any relief from the court. The courts will probably not see compelling need or justification to interfere.

Here is another plan... get the amount of child support reduced, and put the difference into some sort of trust, for education, clothing, whatever. How old are the kids? Old enough to manage a little money without making a mess of it?

I think I would be upset, too. You are paying that preacher's car note and then some, and you don't even go to that church? But I really don't know what you can really do about it.

Love
Anna

[J.S.N.]

that's really stupid. i would take bigun's advice and get it lowered, and then take that 1300 a month and put it into some type of fund for the children. child support should be going to children IMO and not some church. what the hell does a church need 10% of your income for anyways? scotch? kiddie porn? the reverend's new caddy?

[J.S.N.]

oh shit anna beat me to it.

transgenderown3d!

[notanormalgent]

You sound like a really good guy. Your wife sounds like a good lady. Just remember, she's setting a good example for the kids. It's better that it goes to the church that to a Louis Vuitton bag.

[J.S.N.]

i don't agree with that. i don't feel like the churches have anything to offer.

[notanormalgent]

i don't agree with that. i don't feel like the churches have anything to offer.

Well, clearly you're not religious. It provides a great foundation of morality...aka "Good people."

[J.S.N.]

yeah right the bible is full of massacres and wars and shit like that.

[IBdmfkr]

There's a politics/war/religion section if you guys wanna argue about church. Think the guys just wanted advice on how he should handle the situation. I'd say, if you can live with it and she is a good mother, what's 500$ a month to you when she is already getting 13K. Big deal, hopefully they are using the money for good.

[PrairieDawg]

I think thats alittle crazy. If you're giving her enough money that she doesn't need to work and can give alot of it away she shouldnt be getting that much. The donations should be made in your name not hers IMO.

[Theatrix]

Thanks to all who responded. I guess I needed to hear others opinions and maybe calm me down a bit. Today is a new day and its the holidays. I'm not going to sweat this right now. My kids would see the stress. And to those who commented about "at least its going to a good cause", I think I can live with that thought and drop it. Again, I appreciate all the comments.