a sticky women-triangle, any thoughts?

[Timm1704]

i have been single for over a year, i guess ive been wrapped up with training so much, and enjoying being single (im a bouncer also, so i do meet women often). anyway, since february, when i started working in a new place, i have been wanting to get to know a particular customer who was in my first 2 saturdays, eyeing me up. she is stunning, and i couldnt believe my luck. being me, i never approached her, but after the 2nd saturday night in a row of her attention, i decided i would definately do something about it next time i saw her. well, 6 weeks passed and she never came in, when one saturday, she just appeared, and again, spent her night in there eyeing me up. on this night, i had already arranged to go on a date with another female customer, and didnt want to piss her off by going and chatting up this other one. the date never worked out really, and again, this phantom-like girl wasnt to be seen for several weeks. this saturday, she was in again, and i thought "**** it, something needs to be done". and done it was: i gave her my number. she got texting me, and i discovered she is nearly 30 and has 2 kids. im 21, which doesnt bother her, and we arranged to go out for a drink next week. normally i would not have persued the girl, due to her having 2 kids and being at a different place than me in life, but, i just cant seem to let it go. im very mature for a 21 year old, but have alot of things i want to do, and it doesnt involve sticking around here for a long time, i plan on moving to the states in the next year. this woman is one of the most beautiful things ive seen in my life, TV or otherwise, and i may never get another chance to get to know one quite like this again.

also, whilst this has been going on, i met a lovely girl, she is 20, no kids, a model (get in!) and we have been spending time together for the last few days. she has stayed over at mine, spent the whole day with me and some friends, and we get on well. this though, has gone alittle deeper than i had intended, as she has literally only been split up from her fiance, who she was with for 18 months, for 2 weeks. we were just planning on getting to know each other. she is really nice, although seems alittle possesive already, which puts me off slightly.

'the model' asked me last night what is going on between us, friends, seeing each other, whatever. i said more than friends, and that i wanted to just go with the flow for awhile. my main reason for doing this is because after being in a relationship-type scenario for the past few days, im now unsure if its what i actually want. the other is, i dont want to commit to anything incase i really click with 'the phantom' who has the kids.

im not sure why im posting this, and, if you managed to read all this crap, and have any opinions on the matter, id be happy to hear them. i somehow feel like im doing something wrong by going for a drink with the phantom after getting kind of involved with 'the model'. i also am rather nervous about going out with the 30 year old, as she might just think im a kid when we go for the drink. plus, i know the kid situation will be far different from what im used too

[taiboxa]

dood they dont call me The Sage for nothing
GO W/ THE MODEL
i assure u greater happiness in this choice.
so be it.

u are just infatuated w/ the 30yr old and it will diet out

[Timm1704]

dood they dont call me The Sage for nothing
GO W/ THE MODEL
i assure u greater happiness in this choice.
so be it.

u are just infatuated w/ the 30yr old and it will diet out

yeah i know i should forget the 30 year old. im gonna go on the date, but part of me really hope we just dont click, for simplicities sake. another part hopes that we get on great

[cfiler]

Go with the model.

[taiboxa]

yeah i know i should forget the 30 year old. im gonna go on the date, but part of me really hope we just dont click, for simplicities sake. another part hopes that we get on great

or u could **** up the relationship w/ the model.. date the 30yr old tilll the infatuation wears off and gains some nice regrets in the process...?

[Timm1704]

i never regret anything, and the model is nice, but if im unsure if i want to have a relationship with her, she cant be what im looking for

[Katelette81]

Sounds like you're being fairly upfront withteh model, saying you want to get to know each other etc. I would be very weary of her for the fact that shes fresh, and I mean raw, out of a serious relationship. There could be a lot of underlying issues there that may get taekn out on you if you're not careful. Trust your instincts about her being possessive, your intuition is there for a reason so you should depend on it to let you know whats up with this chick. It's nice that you get along etc. but seems like you've spent a lot of tiem together already... maybe too much/> I dunno, I dont really kmow the situation.

As for the Milf, sounds iek you're really in to her. And I think that unless you're positive you'll be leaving you should hang out with her and get to know her. You never know what'll happen and you may just end up making a really great connection in the long run... don't rule it out jsut because she has kids... you're obviously attracted to her, and if you get alond well then why wouldn't you want to spend time with her?

Hope this helps, but def. beware of the model... she sounds nice, but again too fresh out of a relationship unless you're just going to use her.. which I don't think you would do.. i could be worng.. I dunno.,.

[Pooks]

Get them both pregnant.
than run off to the states.

[IamtheChitt]

Since you are a bouncer and are probably going to run into both of them, I would let them both know you are interested in them but are not in a committed relationship. Before my current girlfriend i would date 2 or 3 girls at a time. It all works out if you make sure they know what the deal is up front. Thats how i met my girlfriend. Eventually i got to the point where the other girls faded away and i was left with just one girl. I miss college already.... lol

[slob]

i'd go for both

[Homeguard]

Notch 'em on the bed post bro'. You're off to the states so why give a shit?

[Gra]

[Gra]

The model seems possesive after only a few days? Thats not a good sign. Go for the 30 year old. More experienced

[Timm1704]

wow thanks guys, some interesting points, and i just knew that someone would suggest making them both pregnant then doing a runner. to katelette, no i have no intentions of using anybody, but, i did believe that i wanted a serious relationship, i even told the model this when we first started textin about a week and a half ago(before we had actually met), as she asked what i was looking for right now. BUT after afew days spent with the model im not sure if thats what i want. this says to me that she isnt what im looking for, but, the milf might be. i was/am very sceptical about the model and her current mental state after the breakup with her ex, and havent really given much away with her, in an effort to stop either of us getting any feelings. bad as this sounds, ive changed so much in the last year im not sure i can develop feelings, or give a shit in general lol. she does show the early signs of being a possesive girlfriend, also, the female bouncer i work with knows her and her ex, and has told me that she was possesive and manipulative with him

[Gra]

she does show the early signs of being a possesive girlfriend, also, the female bouncer i work with knows her and her ex, and has told me that she was possesive and manipulative with him

Then she probably will be with you to.

[n4529359]

yeah thats alarm bells right there , it may be a good insite into how she may treat u

[mwolffey]

ditch the model bro... you will be the rebound guy, im telling you...id go with the older chick now, just because i love older women...lol....but keep the model as a friend, but give her time cause it will end up bad

[mwolffey]

wow thanks guys, some interesting points, and i just knew that someone would suggest making them both pregnant then doing a runner. to katelette, no i have no intentions of using anybody, but, i did believe that i wanted a serious relationship, i even told the model this when we first started textin about a week and a half ago(before we had actually met), as she asked what i was looking for right now. BUT after afew days spent with the model im not sure if thats what i want. this says to me that she isnt what im looking for, but, the milf might be. i was/am very sceptical about the model and her current mental state after the breakup with her ex, and havent really given much away with her, in an effort to stop either of us getting any feelings. bad as this sounds, ive changed so much in the last year im not sure i can develop feelings, or give a shit in general lol. she does show the early signs of being a possesive girlfriend, also, the female bouncer i work with knows her and her ex, and has told me that she was possesive and manipulative with him

i feel you on not being able to have feelings bro

[Timm1704]

weird aint it? i used to be one to develop feelings for girls too quick, now, i just cant imagine it lol