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Yes is me ......again....I'm the one that met the girl from Canada.......
I was supposed to get married in December but now we chaged it to March.......
I'm having some doubts about the way she is and how she gets mad.....How can I tell her that I don't think we should get married.........?
"body piercing & body jewelry expert"
I fuking told you way back then, but nnnoooo, you didn't want to hear itI would run like you never ran before. Don't fuk up your whole life
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Originally Posted by goodcents
I fuking told you way back then, but nnnoooo, you didn't want to hear it
yea I remember you.....
what should I do...
"body piercing & body jewelry expert"
It's so hard always being rightI have been there done that
"body piercing & body jewelry expert"
yea I remember you.....
what should I do...
Run! btw, welcome back to sanity
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It's so hard always being right
I still want wife and kids but with some one that I'm sure about......
Junior Member
well you have two choices...
- you tell her
- you marry her
If you tell her, the way she'll be acting should tell you if you made the right choice...
If you marry her because you don't want to hurt her... thats not the right decision... its not forbiten to express yourself.
"Gone but not forgotten" 10/11/07
Seriously, man. You are wanting us to help you dictate one of the biggest decisions of your life. Yet, we know nothing about her except for the fact that she gets mad a lot. If you want a woman that does not get mad, then you had better plan on being single forever.
Marriage is teamwork. Marriage is compromise. If you can't committ to either one, then do her a favor as well and call off all bets.
Anabolic Member
Maybe you need to be upfront with her if you feel that way. It is not fair to either one of you if you are holding back how you really feel. Just my.02 cents.
"body piercing & body jewelry expert"
Btw, I'm 33 and don't want to ever get married and can't stand snot nosed kids
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Honesty is the best policey..
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I know about marriage being a teamwork but she has a bad temper....I know that females get mad but damn....she is something else.....
"body piercing & body jewelry expert"
Best advice yetI just can't do it though
uuummm hot bltches
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[QUOTE=mavsluva]Seriously, man. You are wanting us to help you dictate one of the biggest decisions of your life. Yet, we know nothing about her except for the fact that she gets mad a lot. If you want a woman that does not get mad, then you had better plan on being single forever.
"body piercing & body jewelry expert"
rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnnnnnn nnnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"Gone but not forgotten" 10/11/07
Believe it or not, females get mad for a reason. If she's mad at you all of the time, then maybe it's time to look at yourself.
"body piercing & body jewelry expert"
No they don't, they were just put on this earth for our amusement
"body piercing & body jewelry expert"
Life is one big fuk fest, don't mess it up by staying with just one chic
Cycle King/AR-Hall of Famer/RETIRED
This is true ieven if the reson is only in there fvcked up head.
Bro you need to realy think about this. But is 2 guess it the chance is she is not right for you.
Anabolic Member
If your having doubts NOW, think about in 3 years???
Anabolic Member
Yeah it will be cheaper in the long run to call it off now. Divorces are expensive. Friend of mine just lost the house and the car.
Anabolic Member
MAJOR! What do you expect from a girl you met online?? The online dating world is so popular because it's a giant front. You can spoon feed people little bits about yourself without having to get into the nitty gritty. A lot of people idealize their perfect mate while talking online because they don;t have to see or deal with them on a daily basis. If you're already finding things about this girl that you don't like without even seeing her on a usual basis, you got some serious thinking (and growing up!) to do!
No offense here bro, just don't wanna see you making a life chaning decision that you'll regret!
p.s. Just TELL her. If you had been dating her for like 5 years and you wanted to push the wedding back, I could see where she might be like "What am i doing with this guy if I give him 5 years of my life and he wants to hold off marrying me". But shit, havent you only KNOWN this girl for a couple months?? If she gives you shit for not wanting to marry her after only some online conversation and a couple trips tp see her...RUN! RUN! RUN LIKE HELL!!
Last edited by Phreak101; 11-28-2006 at 11:41 AM.
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why should you get married?
Do you have a better life in the beed then??.
To married for me is just a game for the gallery , nothing more and nothing les!!.
It`s Only Papper work..!
Dont get married!!.
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I am A Nice girl from Russia , and I whant to get married to morro with a rich man , enyone?
I promise to not get lazy & fat in a soffa on 4 week after i have become Amerikan citizen !!.
Last edited by The OutLord; 11-28-2006 at 11:48 AM.
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Run! btw, welcome back to sanity
lol...
Banned
That's the problem - very few couples can look at the big picture..
It took me months to make my boyfriend understand!
Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference
Life is one big fuk fest, don't mess it up by staying with just one chicwatch out you might lose these
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Ok Ok.....People often learn from their mistakes.....I learned my lesson....(I think...) I'm the type of person that I don't talk shit back but after it builds up I eplode.
She is always telling me (u dont' miss me) (I don't have to lie)....if I tell her (I luv you) she responds (sure u do)
I'm like WTF......
Test Is Best!
sounds like she is a attention whore
Anabolic Member
Sounds like Major (no pun intended) self-esteem issues. SHe purposely dogs herself to you to make you confirm your feelings over and over again because she doesn't believe it about herself.
RUN! RUN!
"Gone but not forgotten" 10/11/07
So she gets mad at you and you're passive aggressive about it. You let it build up and then you one day explode. Didn't I mention that marriage, and life for that matter, is all about compromising and teamwork? Are the two of you competing for an award, or are you actually considering spending the rest of your lives together?
I know that you're receiving a ton of crap about this matter, so I will attempt to sympathize with you. Two people come together for a common goal. This common goal requires both parties to swallow their pride in the best interest of the goal. If one or both parties is not doing his/her part, then it's up to the other party to step in and be the better person to allow the goal to continue. That would be you in this case. The question is, are you willing to do so, and if so, do you really want to do it?
Female Member
dont do it if ur having doubts then u dont need to marry her the wright girl will come shes not the one
Female Member
She clearly has self- esteem issues. If you love her, suggest to her that maybe you guys go to counseling. If you just don't want to get married, you just have to flat out say that. If you DO want to get married, you just want her to get some issues resolved, suggest counseling and be supportive.
p.s. keep in mind you might have some issues to, not just her like others have said
Last edited by prncezzml; 11-28-2006 at 01:01 PM.
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Yeah it sounds like she has some self esteem problems. Now we all go fishing for compliments from time to time but if she seriously doesnt think you love her that could be a huge problem. I dont really know the situation but it sounds like you need to make a personal decision.
"Gone but not forgotten" 10/11/07
For whatever it's worth, Major, I think we all want to see you succeed in whatever choice that you make. I think you've already discovered that love does not come pain-free. My wife and I have a wonderful marriage and we've established different ways to better communicate when we're both in a competitive, angry mode. We separate into different rooms of our house and we take about 15 minutes to write down whatever's bothering us. We then exchange what we've written and respond to it accordingly. In our responses to each other, we include the things that we love about each other. What we often find is that we both come back to reality and our animosity, anger, or whatever you want to call it, quickly subsides.
You can either work together on living a happy life, or work against each other and live a miserable life. But what you need to do right now is set aside your frustration and ask yourself if this is for you or not. You are potentially establishing your future with this woman, and if you can't communicate with her today before being married, then it'll only get worse during marriage.
I wish you the best of luck.
Grade A Beef
Just dont do it!! Sometimes its hard but just be straight...if your having doubts now, that will get worse after marriage
National Level Bodybuilder/Hall of Famer/RETIRED
Couples counseling with a therapist or the pastor of your Church. It'll give both of you a place where you can be honest about your feelings with someone to moderate so it doesn't explode into an argument.
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"Gone but not forgotten" 10/11/07
I 2nd Carlos' suggestion.
Anabolic Member
Look her in the eyes and say it to her face.
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she's in Canada...
Female Member
Wait, you two don't even live together???
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