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  1. 02-20-2011, 08:28 PM #1
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    Friend need advice.

    Yeah need some advice guys/girls between me and what used to be a good friend of mine. I known him for over 10 years we were good pals went places races car shows, Vigina hunting and all the good stuff that pals do. We used to workout together in the summer but due to work i had to change my hours, anyways during this he started working out with this other guy at the gym and now it seems like they're like a couple they go everywhere together and what not.
    I am just a little curious as to how to handle this do i confront him and ask him what the deal is or do i do nothing. We used to go to the Auto show together for longest this time he went with this other guy and didn't even call to invite wtf. It just feels like he doesn't want to hangout anymore, so what now.
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    ok so you saw this guy as a best friend/brother correct? Not in a sexual manner?
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    eddie, you do post some strange shite
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    He's been one of my best friends, i wouldn't say my best friend brother type of friend and no never in a sexual manner we both use to go hunting for girls.
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    It comes naturally.
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    Do you make the effort to invite him places? Phones work both ways last time I checked.

    Maybe he had homosexual feelings for you and you didn't realize it. This could be his rebound guy to make you jealous
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    I dont know wat to say.Sounds like a girl thing.Not being a wise guy either.
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    Quote Originally Posted by stack_it View Post
    Do you make the effort to invite him places? Phones work both ways last time I checked.

    Maybe he had homosexual feelings for you and you didn't realize it. This could be his rebound guy to make you jealous
    Sounds like it's working
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    eddie i think i speak for everyone here in saying your man card has been revoked. Sorry dude
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    Quote Originally Posted by chi View Post
    eddie i think i speak for everyone here in saying your man card has been revoked. Sorry dude
    Thank you
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    Quote Originally Posted by stack_it View Post
    Do you make the effort to invite him places? Phones work both ways last time I checked.

    Maybe he had homosexual feelings for you and you didn't realize it. This could be his rebound guy to make you jealous
    u do realize that SB have same feelings for u
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    Quote Originally Posted by chi View Post
    eddie i think i speak for everyone here in saying your man card has been revoked. Sorry dude
    hahaha

    I noticed years ago that a good friends of mine and i didn't hang out as often as we used to when i was working 14 hour days.. so i made a point of going camping or something like that at least once a year just to keep in touch.. facebook makes things much easier nowadays though.. but i must reiterate, phones work both ways..
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    Quote Originally Posted by Eddie_m63 View Post
    Yeah need some advice guys/girls between me and what used to be a good friend of mine. I known him for over 10 years we were good pals went places races car shows, Vigina hunting and all the good stuff that pals do. We used to workout together in the summer but due to work i had to change my hours, anyways during this he started working out with this other guy at the gym and now it seems like they're like a couple they go everywhere together and what not.
    I am just a little curious as to how to handle this do i confront him and ask him what the deal is or do i do nothing. We used to go to the Auto show together for longest this time he went with this other guy and didn't even call to invite wtf. It just feels like he doesn't want to hangout anymore, so what now.
    I am speechless.....

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    Sounds to me like when you changed your schedule, he started seeing other people then you were dropped like a hot potato. This happens in life. People change paths. And to expect your friend to pick up where you left off, is expecting a lot unless you had a DEEP bond which you assumed was there, yet perhaps not really.

    So...move on and find some new friends. It hurts when you can't pick up where you left off. But life continues and is constantly moving forward. Thinking of what you could have with him prevents you from finding someone new.

    After all, why on earth would you want to be with someone who does not want to be with you? I have never understood this. Let people go when they want to go. Leaves the door open for someone better to come along. Someone even BETTER!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Eddie_m63 View Post
    Yeah need some advice guys/girls between me and what used to be a good friend of mine. I known him for over 10 years we were good pals went places races car shows, Vigina hunting and all the good stuff that pals do. We used to workout together in the summer but due to work i had to change my hours, anyways during this he started working out with this other guy at the gym and now it seems like they're like a couple they go everywhere together and what not.
    I am just a little curious as to how to handle this do i confront him and ask him what the deal is or do i do nothing. We used to go to the Auto show together for longest this time he went with this other guy and didn't even call to invite wtf. It just feels like he doesn't want to hangout anymore, so what now.
    first of all, I wouldn't bring it up. Things change mate. Doesn't diminish your relationship. Friendships sometimes are cyclical. If you bring it up, that is perceived as a negative, restrictive, and your pal may resent it. Instead, it is OK for you to see if he wants to go do something. I've had friends that way, and they really don't mean anything by it. they just get lazy, and hang with whoever is most convenient. So bring something up, and say you are going on a cool harley ride, and see if he wants to go with. if he doesn't, don't be a ***** and not go. Do that a couple of times. I'm the type where I don't listen so much what people say, but instead pay attention to what they do. If he declines several times, then just give the friendship a rest. If you are uncomfortable with initiating an activity, then you are just as guilty. Friendships, just like other relationships, involve risk taking. sometimes you gotta stick your neck out there and risk getting embarrassed.
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    Maybe you should invite him over and have a candle light dinner surprise ready.
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    UUUUUUUUUUUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM sounds like something a girl would complain about not a guy. Im sure we all have lost good friends over time due to work and changes in life. This kinda crap happens. You will make a new friend. I would say stop crying about it but then again im heartless.
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    Quote Originally Posted by army_cobra View Post
    UUUUUUUUUUUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM sounds like something a girl would complain about not a guy. Im sure we all have lost good friends over time due to work and changes in life. This kinda crap happens. You will make a new friend. I would say stop crying about it but then again im heartless.
    this is a typical 'eddie' post and im willing to bet that avi is a characterture of himself
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    Quote Originally Posted by army_cobra View Post
    UUUUUUUUUUUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM sounds like something a girl would complain about not a guy. Im sure we all have lost good friends over time due to work and changes in life. This kinda crap happens. You will make a new friend. I would say stop crying about it but then again im heartless.
    Maybe i am complaining because i am a cool guy that everybody likes and it never happened before. Who wouldn't want to hang out with me? But after reading your posts i realize i made a big deal out of this little thing. Some of you are right that communication works both ways, by the way i always been invited by others and i rarely grab the phone to invite people over, i'll give him a call see if he wants to go to the strip club.
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    lol everyone stay calm and remember this day it was eddies coming out day
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    Quote Originally Posted by dec11 View Post
    eddie, you do post some strange shite
    ^ x 139
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    Quote Originally Posted by Eddie_m63 View Post
    i'll give him a call see if he wants to go to the strip club.
    Now your just over maculating to try to get some of the sand out of your vagina. lol
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    but honestly, props eddie for being what seems to be a sincere, genuine, maybe gay person. kidding about the maybe gay. props for shootin' straight from the heart.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bruary17 View Post
    but honestly, props eddie for being what seems to be a sincere, genuine, maybe gay person. kidding about the maybe gay. props for shootin' straight from the heart.


    yeah theres no maybe hes full blown gay hahaha

    but i know how it feels bro trust me i move around alot iv been in florida for 4 years this july iv moved 7 times since iv been here and before coming here i had a friend that kinda friend you could call up from jail and say bail me out and he would be flat broke but pawned his other car to get you out type of thing

    even when i was in michgian i moved around alot haha so it made hanging out with him made crazy i got him to start working out last year now he does it everyday damn near so me and him are going to get together in july and see whos done there best work in the gym and theres a good chance it will become a once a year thing to do
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    lol funniest thing i have read all day its like man love story..

    I think you need to remove the BestFreindsForever wrist band and move on theres plenty of other males out there....

    I was laughing the whole time i posted funniest lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by calgarian View Post
    u do realize that SB have same feelings for u
    you like penis in and around your mouth. shut up
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    You know that comedic quote- "Beer, it's not just for breakfast". How about- "Bromance, it's not just for gays"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Standby View Post
    I like penis in and around your mouth. shut up
    ummm i didnt need to know that stack already know i think
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    Quote Originally Posted by chi View Post
    eddie i think i speak for everyone here in saying your man card has been revoked. Sorry dude
    fukkin incredible!!! you guys kill me!!
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    Eddie I feel your pain. And if your real lucky maybe Bojangles will chime in and give you a few (27 pages) of pointers.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Shol'va View Post
    Eddie I feel your pain. And if your real lucky maybe Bojangles will chime in and give you a few (27 pages) of pointers.
    27 pages? that is only a paragraph, dont you know?!
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