All you dudes who are unmotivated or sad because your girl friend left

[J-Dogg]

It takes a VERY smart person to learn from someone else’s mistakes. But please take a lesson learned from old Uncle – J,

A year ago, I was with a girl for a period of 6 years. I really loved her, I got along great with her family, mom, grandma, everyone, brothers, sisters the whole family. They all thought of me as this amazing guy,I had so much going for me at such a young age.

Her Step dad worked in construction, and when I was 23 (I’m 28 now) I started buying houses. I own 5 right now, and when I first started I use to always think to myself “God if I could work on these houses as good as him, they would come out perfect and get done so fast”. I looked at his ability to do quality work and having the knowledge to do it and was just in awe.

2 years later, I owned a construction company. I was better than him, and he was working for me. I started from nothing and my sales are 2nd only to one other company that was handed down through the family and has been established for 45 years. My company is working on it’s 3rd year.

I almost, or am on the brink of losing ALL of this over a girl. Last year my girl friend left me and it tore me apart. I lost my motivation; I did not feel like working. I went through a year of being depressed, sad, and drinking too much, sleeping around and living a wreck less life. I was the coolest guy in the bar every night, the drunkest guy at every party. I always got the best girl, my friends were always joking that I had a different hottie every month, and they were all 21 years old and blonde.

Prior to that, I was with the same girl for 6 years, She was pretty yes, and I never once cheated on her. The last year I’ve cheated on every girl whenever I could.

My life changed, I tried to become something I thought would make me happy. I was not working hard and developing my career and that’s what really makes me happy.

Right now, I’m sitting in front of a stack of bills for the last year, I’m comparing the past due bills to my pathetic bank balance. Banks don’t lend money easy, and equity is not that easy to extract. I’m almost to the point I have to walk away from a few houses. It’s not because of the economy, it’s because I let a girl leaving get me so depressed that I got behind.
Don’t make the same mistake. Don’t let a break up change who you are, you have to march on, life goes on and you’ll get over it. Don’t let every part of your life fall apart because a person did not want to be a part of it anymore. Keep your dignity, and keep your pride, keep moving forward!

[Swifto]

It takes a VERY smart person to learn from someone else’s mistakes. But please take a lesson learned from old Uncle – J,

A year ago, I was with a girl for a period of 6 years. I really loved her, I got along great with her family, mom, grandma, everyone, brothers, sisters the whole family. They all thought of me as this amazing guy,I had so much going for me at such a young age.

Her Step dad worked in construction, and when I was 23 (I’m 28 now) I started buying houses. I own 5 right now, and when I first started I use to always think to myself “God if I could work on these houses as good as him, they would come out perfect and get done so fast”. I looked at his ability to do quality work and having the knowledge to do it and was just in awe.

2 years later, I owned a construction company. I was better than him, and he was working for me. I started from nothing and my sales are 2nd only to one other company that was handed down through the family and has been established for 45 years. My company is working on it’s 3rd year.

I almost, or am on the brink of losing ALL of this over a girl. Last year my girl friend left me and it tore me apart. I lost my motivation; I did not feel like working. I went through a year of being depressed, sad, and drinking too much, sleeping around and living a wreck less life. I was the coolest guy in the bar every night, the drunkest guy at every party. I always got the best girl, my friends were always joking that I had a different hottie every month, and they were all 21 years old and blonde.

Prior to that, I was with the same girl for 6 years, She was pretty yes, and I never once cheated on her. The last year I’ve cheated on every girl whenever I could.

My life changed, I tried to become something I thought would make me happy. I was not working hard and developing my career and that’s what really makes me happy.

Right now, I’m sitting in front of a stack of bills for the last year, I’m comparing the past due bills to my pathetic bank balance. Banks don’t lend money easy, and equity is not that easy to extract. I’m almost to the point I have to walk away from a few houses. It’s not because of the economy, it’s because I let a girl leaving get me so depressed that I got behind.
Don’t make the same mistake. Don’t let a break up change who you are, you have to march on, life goes on and you’ll get over it. Don’t let every part of your life fall apart because a person did not want to be a part of it anymore. Keep your dignity, and keep your pride, keep moving forward!

I needed this. Your absolutely correct.

I've had a few problems myself recently and been very unhappy, but things werent like yours.

I wish you the best of luck and thank you for sharing this. I'm sure it will help some people out, that are in your position or maybe in my position.

[DSM4Life]

I needed this. Your absolutely correct.

I've had a few problems myself recently and been very unhappy, but things werent like yours.

I wish you the best of luck and thank you for sharing this. I'm sure it will help some people out, that are in your position or maybe in my position.

[gst528i]

Nice thread. Hope u get it together if you havent already.

[ghettoboyd]

its kind of interesting how we all react differently after we have our hearts broken.ive had my share and to be honest it has made me a better person.after the initial depression of it all i found myself to be extreamly motivated to be succesfull at watever i choose at the time......to all that have lost there motivation: get back to it.get in the best shape of your life so when you see that person again thay will wish thay never broke up with you.

[bodybuilder1107]

almost the same thing that happened to me but i dont have an hour so im not even going there but anyways good luck man i owna business too and want to get into the housing market but even at 28 thats still alot i hope i have that at 28, stay strong brother

[higherdesire]

Jpimp, I admire the courage and the pride I saw in the parts where you started and developed a successful company, and hate the part where you got away from that drive. No doubt you will overcome. Thanks for sharing, but I am loking forward to the successful ending more. Go get em pimp.

[Edgar]

keep fvcking those 21 year old blondes or there will be more to regret, you will be saying and I stoped ****ing the 21 year old blondes. wtf is wrong with me!!!! good luck bro, I hope you pull through. I think you will!!!

[Flagg]

It takes a VERY smart person to learn from someone else’s mistakes. But please take a lesson learned from old Uncle – J,

A year ago, I was with a girl for a period of 6 years. I really loved her, I got along great with her family, mom, grandma, everyone, brothers, sisters the whole family. They all thought of me as this amazing guy,I had so much going for me at such a young age.

Her Step dad worked in construction, and when I was 23 (I’m 28 now) I started buying houses. I own 5 right now, and when I first started I use to always think to myself “God if I could work on these houses as good as him, they would come out perfect and get done so fast”. I looked at his ability to do quality work and having the knowledge to do it and was just in awe.

2 years later, I owned a construction company. I was better than him, and he was working for me. I started from nothing and my sales are 2nd only to one other company that was handed down through the family and has been established for 45 years. My company is working on it’s 3rd year.

I almost, or am on the brink of losing ALL of this over a girl. Last year my girl friend left me and it tore me apart. I lost my motivation; I did not feel like working. I went through a year of being depressed, sad, and drinking too much, sleeping around and living a wreck less life. I was the coolest guy in the bar every night, the drunkest guy at every party. I always got the best girl, my friends were always joking that I had a different hottie every month, and they were all 21 years old and blonde.

Prior to that, I was with the same girl for 6 years, She was pretty yes, and I never once cheated on her. The last year I’ve cheated on every girl whenever I could.

My life changed, I tried to become something I thought would make me happy. I was not working hard and developing my career and that’s what really makes me happy.

Right now, I’m sitting in front of a stack of bills for the last year, I’m comparing the past due bills to my pathetic bank balance. Banks don’t lend money easy, and equity is not that easy to extract. I’m almost to the point I have to walk away from a few houses. It’s not because of the economy, it’s because I let a girl leaving get me so depressed that I got behind.
Don’t make the same mistake. Don’t let a break up change who you are, you have to march on, life goes on and you’ll get over it. Don’t let every part of your life fall apart because a person did not want to be a part of it anymore. Keep your dignity, and keep your pride, keep moving forward!

I think this was a very noble statement you just made, mate. The fact that you have acknowledged that you're life has felt less than nothing the last year is the first step to you regaining you again. It's a horrible feeling when you feel like you cant be motivated to do anything because of loss, but re-read this:
Her Step dad worked in construction, and when I was 23 (I’m 28 now) I started buying houses. I own 5 right now, and when I first started I use to always think to myself “God if I could work on these houses as good as him, they would come out perfect and get done so fast”. I looked at his ability to do quality work and having the knowledge to do it and was just in awe.

2 years later, I owned a construction company. I was better than him, and he was working for me. I started from nothing and my sales are 2nd only to one other company that was handed down through the family and has been established for 45 years. My company is working on it’s 3rd year.

You did that, you did all that with hard work and graft. I say go get your company back and kick ass again.

[warchild]

thanx for the post man, best of 2009 for ya bro

[spywizard]

congrats..

[bigt10]

Good thread. Thats to bad itll get better just keep working.

I find the one think you cant take away is the weights.

Even if the girl sucks, the job sucks, your day sucks, the weather sucks, someone leaves you, you lose your job, lose money, the one think you can always do is go have a good workout.

The one thing that is always there is the gym and you can always feel motivated to workout. So i always feel it necessary to keep training. In times when you have nothing its all you can have.

[football2007]

What is interesting is after it is all over you can look back and say, "Wow, I let a girl take control of my life like this and it drug me down."

No girl is worth all of that.

[xo3et]

I love to say id never let a girl bring me down but i havent been in this situation. I have seen friends go exactly the same way as you J.

Its a new year dude, forget the past and DEFINATLY stop drinking. Booze is the root of all evil and im probably right in saying it was as much a cause to your behaviour than the split with the GF.

Onwards and upwards once again for you dude. You done it before and you shall do it again

good Luck...