overwhelemed... need some advice

[viking88]

so im about to graduate college and i just started working for a software company.. pay is good and all that so im pretty satisfied with that aspect of life.

so my deal is when i went to college i was still living at home because the school was pretty close to my house so i didnt have to live on campus or anything like that, basically i had the same lifestyle as i did in high school, however that has all changed. im on my own now, have bills to pay, work all the time, it just hit me all at once. so overwhelmed i dont even know what to do with myself. i miss being young and the innocence of it. im so damn stressed all the time and its just really getting me down. also its hard to stick to a diet and train with all this stuff going on, i dont know how you guys do it!!!

i mean in high school and college somewhat i just had all the time in the world to do what i wanted when i wanted. sorry for ranting but this whole "growing up" has really punched me in the face


am i just over reacting or this normal

[DanB]

Welcome to the real world and the rest of your life, your life only begins when you move out and start making money

You will be fine

[songdog]

Wat your parents never taught you responsablity.Maybe you needed to go in the miltary for a few years.

[JD250]

Call your parents and apologize for whatever crap you gave them and then thank them for all the sacrifices they made and then quit whining like a little girl and get your ass to work.

[lovbyts]

Agree with all the above. Welcome to life and dont worry, 5 years from now you will think this part was a walk in the park and you will wish it was as easy as it is now. It doesnt get any easier.

I moved out and got married all at once and shortly there after had a family. Talk about a change.... and bought a house before the kid was born. Started divorce just after the kid turned 2 and had full custody before she was 3. Want to talk about change and having to grow up?

[Flier]

Not your fault.
Sounds like your parents could have done a better job transitioning you.
Not their fault either, just circumstances.
At least you have a job. Now you need to start budgeting, and managing your time. Once you manage, it´s fun and rewarding.

[ironbeck]

lol.............There is no substitute for time...

[BokBok]

I sort of understand where you are coming from, but as it was mentioned a couple of posts up, it actually is fun and rewarding standing on your own 2 feet. I prefer life so much more now than I did when I was living with my folks or studying.

Maybe write a list of stuff you have to do then prioritise it until you get the hang of your new life? Hell, I'm 33 and I'm still writing "to do" lists...

[DSM4Life]

Now you can walk around naked and jack off while making your morning eggs.

[awms]

Don't listen to most of these people I think they forget what it is like to a young adult on their own for the first time....your not unlike most people at your age (Im in a similar boat at 25). Its a bit of a shock when you realize how much it really cost to support your self and its even worse when you don't enjoy your job? you basically work a shitty job just to pay the bills. Some times its not even a money issue but an emotional one...when your young you can go to your parents for advice but when you live on your own your basically on your own. Do you enjoy what you do? if not I would say look for a job that you do enjoy but don't leave the one you have until you find a new job! also call your parents up if you feel stressed...even though you don't live with them you can still get advice. Another thing to not forget is your need a social life! if you sit in and feel sorry for your self it will only make you feel worse so call up friends and hang out! as for the gym you just have to time block....if you know you have saturday and sunday off then work out on those days, if you cant eat at work fit in shakes or bars in between meals but it really comes down to time blocking what is important to you.

[awms]

I would recommend buy some self help books on time blocking and dealing with stress...although im sure your parents did a great job raising you and you seem very smart they seem to have sheltered you from the "real world" which is what most parents try to do so your not alone....there are lots of good books about this which could help you deal with it all.

[DCI]

I know what you have been saying and we all get like this I agree with AWMS on this one. It's tough but it will get better the best way to think about it in my opinon is to just relax and take a step back and see the positives in everything rather than the negative it is much easier to be negative.

[gurupimp6969]

now you can walk around naked and jack off while making your morning eggs.

hahahahahahahahah!

[JD250]

I should apologize for my previous post, it was meant to be a little humorous, I should've used a couple smilies. Don't sweat it bro, ask your parents for advice, it will help that relationship(not that its bad) and give you some much needed support, we've all been there bro, you'll be fine.

[Bryan2]

Are you coding?

What language and what type of software are you writing?

Welcome to life bro. And also its just money dude seems like a big deal when you dwell on it but trust me it really doesn't mean much. Just think if you lost your job tmrw, got in a giant car accident that left you with a shit load of medical bills with literally no money in the bank worrying about a place to live. Sounds pretty ****ed up! but you know what......you would still make it through it just fine and look back eventually, probably learn a bunch of stuff and be just fine after a while.

The above situation is probably a shit load worse than the situation your in now and you would still make it through it just fine. People can go through all kinds of gnarly shit. I'm sure you've met certain people that have insane stories and they talk about it and are totally fine in a different place in life. Its all perspective bro your situation is not even bad at all. And even if it was a billion times worse like the story I wrote out above you would still make it out ok in the end eventually because its do or die and no one really gives up because its hard........unless your a *****

[lovbyts]

Don't listen to most of these people I think they forget what it is like to a young adult on their own for the first time....your not unlike most people at your age (Im in a similar boat at 25). Its a bit of a shock when you realize how much it really cost to support your self and its even worse when you don't enjoy your job? you basically work a shitty job just to pay the bills. Some times its not even a money issue but an emotional one...when your young you can go to your parents for advice but when you live on your own your basically on your own. Do you enjoy what you do? if not I would say look for a job that you do enjoy but don't leave the one you have until you find a new job! also call your parents up if you feel stressed...even though you don't live with them you can still get advice. Another thing to not forget is your need a social life! if you sit in and feel sorry for your self it will only make you feel worse so call up friends and hang out! as for the gym you just have to time block....if you know you have saturday and sunday off then work out on those days, if you cant eat at work fit in shakes or bars in between meals but it really comes down to time blocking what is important to you.

I think you got it wrong, most of us remember perfectly well and that's why we say apologize to your parents for whatever grief you gave them and say thank you as well as build your relationship with them more asking for advice and guidance.

He/you will still find time to have fun and be young, we all did and still do it's just not the free ride like it use to be or that we though would never really end. Life happens and you also need to be prepared as much as possible for what might happens and start planning for the future such as retirement because it comes a lot faster than you think.