6pm Deadline for an "old friend"

[stpete]

So, a "friend" of mine that i've known for over 25 years, but really good friends for the last 5 years took a shit on me and several of my other girlfriends wednesday night. He's going through a nasty divorce with a woman that my wife and i went to high school with. He graduated 3 years before we did. Anyway, he's been drinking WAY too much in the last 3 months because of the divorce but he crossed the line this time.
When my wife and i got up yesterday morning, she checked her messages and he had sent her(my wife) a picture of his c^ck asking her if she liked it and if she wanted to meet up with him and see it in person. As it turns out, he sent the same pic and message to 4 other girlfriends of ours as well.
Well, i flew of the handle and texted him via my wife's phone asking for an explanation. Assuring him that if i didn't hear from him i would be at his house or his favorite hang out to catch up with him personally. Haven't heard anything yet. My wife has called him and left, well, rather crude messages on his voi***ail.
A friend told me this morning that Steve is going to be at a party held by another one of my friends tonight at 7pm.
I really hate to confront him in person as(depending on what he says) i'm not so sure i will be able to control myself. What pisses me off most is that he hasn't even tried to call to apologize or explain. I think my wife and i deserve that at least.

My wife tells me to stay at home and out of trouble. Should i take the advice or confront him head on?

What would you do?

[gixxerboy1]

Personally i have a temper and you dont fvck with my wife. Especially a supposed friend. I would confront him. But i also know what i would do. so i wouldnt do it at a party. The less witnesses the better

[DSM4Life]

Did you say he took a shit on you? And i thought i was kinky.

[fukngruvn]

he probably hasn't replied because (now sober) he realizes he made a big mistake and is embarrassed. definitely not a good idea to confront him at a party. if things get out of hand, YOU will look like the guilty party. if you have to confront him, like gixx said, the less witnesses the better

[jasc]

Fvcked up situation right there.. I'd give him a few more hrs to get back to u. If he's got drinking problems he's prob still passed out? maybe?..

If he's purposely ignoring you, I'd be pissed too.. Are you sure it was meant for your wife n not the wrong #?

If I was in your situation n someone did that to my wife/gf intentionally, especially a good friend, I'd drop em as soon as I saw him, but I have a bad temper when it comes to disrespecting ppl I love.

If he's a good guy n his drinking has him this far outta line, maybe kicking his ass is what he needs. He needs a good lesson. I'd pull him off to the side n beat his ass in private. Doing it in front of a group won't be very effective imo.

[HitIt]

show the police his text...

[Vettester]

Yeah, I'd confront him on it, but keep your emotions in check, you don't need to be going down to the station on assault charges.

[songdog]

Go to the police I know its hard but the law protect creeps like him.I know this 1st hand.You could end up in jail for a long time.

[JohnnyVegas]

He is crashing and his life is sh*t...let him continue to do what he is doing. Sure, you could add to his avalanche of crap, but why risk legal problems of your own? You aren't serving your wife by getting personal revenge.

[Sgt. Hartman]

Good advise reporting it to the police or letting it go, but no way that's what I would do. I wouldn't confront him at a party but I definitely wouldn't let him off the hook for texting my wife a picture of his cock, no matter how fvcked up he was or how good a friend he is....... I have very little patience for anyone who disrespects my wife.

[evander87]

Yeah, I'd confront him on it, but keep your emotions in check, you don't need to be going down to the station on assault charges.

This. He needs to know what he's done is inappropriate and wont go unnoticed but you don't need to go in there with the "intention" of a violent confrontation. It will only end bad for you.

If you do go get there early enough that he hopefully wont be drunk and you can discuss the matter with both of you sober.

[Gaspari1255]

he probably hasn't replied because (now sober) he realizes he made a big mistake and is embarrassed. definitely not a good idea to confront him at a party. if things get out of hand, YOU will look like the guilty party. if you have to confront him, like gixx said, the less witnesses the better

I agree with the first part. I've said some really mean and stupid shit to friends, girlfriends, and ex-girlfriends before when I was bombed....and was soo embarrassed about it the next day. But there is a fine line between hurtful words and sending vulgar images...

[gixxerboy1]

I agree with the first part. I've said some really mean and stupid shit to friends, girlfriends, and ex-girlfriends before when I was bombed....and was soo embarrassed about it the next day. But there is a fine line between hurtful words and sending vulgar images...

i understand about being embarrassed. but at some time you have to man up. This isnt going to go away. So if he is embarrassed and doesnt want to talk he should atleast text an apology and an explanation

[Hazard]

I agree with the first part. I've said some really mean and stupid shit to friends, girlfriends, and ex-girlfriends before when I was bombed....and was soo embarrassed about it the next day. But there is a fine line between hurtful words and sending vulgar images...

LMFAO Yeah.... i'm sure ashley loved your txt's AHAHAHAHHAHAHA

~Haz~

[Times Roman]

Normally, I'd probably tell you to let it go and dump the dumb ass as a friend. But then I thought about it again. This is a betrayal. hell with the fact he was drunk. he wasn't so drunk he couldn't operate the phone!

two things:

the friendship is obviously over

confront him quietly (sober) and with your wifes phone in your hand, ask him what the hell was he trying to pull, making a move on your wife like that? If he sincerely apologizes, i'd probably tell him, and very angrily, that he's a fukken dim wad, to go to hell, and stay the hell away from you and your wife. If he comes off cocky or biligerently, the response gets very clear. You settle it as only men can, and you beat the shit outta him.

[JAB1]

Yeah thats tough man. Its easy for me to sit here and tell you to report it to cops. To not get into confrotation because youd just be letting his downfall bring you with him, etc. However If I were in your shoes Id smash the shit out of him, especially because he was a friend just out of loss of emotional control.... That shit does not fly

[HitIt]

and after the detective gets it, go post his text to his facebook wall asking "is this the pic you meant to text my wife?"

[JP-MAN]

do not report to police.

then there is a motive if he gets hurt or goes missing.

be smart, be carefull, but most important, be very hurtfull.....

[soulstealer]

DONT go to the COPS EVER... Meet up with him...at your place... and let him know that he ****ed up... bad... maybe slap him around a bit... but no cops

[xo3et]

My old man was a drinker, he would do dumb shit. He wouldnt do anything as dumb as txt a picture of his cock but the drink sent him crazy.

All i can say is dont take it personal, he crossed a line but its a line he most likely is unaware he crossed or if he did know he is just stuck in a pit and doesnt give a fock about getting out of it.

I would confront him YES, but i wouldnt do it at a party and i would go about it in a manner where fighting wasn't the first option. You risk putting yourself in the same pit as he is in and quite possible worse if people see you beat up on a drunk guy.

Let him know your not happy and catch him when he is sober. Confronting a drunk guy will either mean he cries in your shoulder or tries swinging at his first option. Neither that you want.... Sober will be a different story

[Tigershark]

This would piss me right the hell off as well. Damn this is a hard one cause I would want to confront the bastard, but also know the ramification for loosing my temper. Especially in front of wittnesses.
Personally I would go to the party and when no one was watching slash all his tires and pour a serious amount of sugar in his gas tank. Or better yet if the music is loud enough take a screw driver and punch holes into the car door 9 or 10 times. Or better yet get a spring punch and use it on his car windows.
I would make him pay with his wallet, plus he would know...but he wouldn't know if you get my meaning.

[MickeyKnox]

Go to the police I know its hard but the law protect creeps like him.I know this 1st hand.You could end up in jail for a long time.

how much time did you do?

He is crashing and his life is sh*t...let him continue to do what he is doing. Sure, you could add to his avalanche of crap, but why risk legal problems of your own? You aren't serving your wife by getting personal revenge.

THIS ^^

[xelnaga]

You are right, sending your cock so your friends wife is aberrant behavior. I would accept nothing less than a face to face explanation and apology. If he's been drinking heavily for 3 months he may be suffering from wet brain.

[xelnaga]

He must have wet brain... Look at OP's stats :Height:


6'0

Weight:
242

Body Fat %:
About 14%

[MR-FQ320]

Your pissed, your wife's pissed, he was drunk and regrets and is embarassed about what he's done, have a quiet word with him, no cops no party, tell him he was out of order, he knows this already, if he is anything but apologetic then yeah kick his ass, if you cannot forgive then kick his ass anyway.

[stpete]

Thanks for all replies and opinions guys! My wife and the other girlfriends he sent pics to want to take it to the cops. Their reasoning is this: He is a mean drunk and apparently beat on Rene(our good friend from h.s. and the one who is divorcing him) when he drank, and the girls think that reporting this will help her in the court of law. Seeing that she's trying to take him for everything he owns this might be true. 2 of the girls just left and asked me to let them take care of it. So i guess i will.
I still feel like he needs to be straightened out. Maybe i go over for a little while and tell him no big deal, i understand you were drunk but i don't want anything to do with you. Then let the girls do their thing. I don't know. I do know one thing, my wife has seen his cock and she's fvcking sick to her stomach. And i can't get it out of my head.
Still up in the air. And yeah, Times is right. He still knew how to operate a phone. Ah hell. Game time decision.

[spywizard]

So?? how much jail time do you think you'll pull??


Conspiracy to committ a crime can carry as much time as the act.. just a thought..

Life is too short to allow idiots to be in your life, cut the strings, and ropes and just ignor him.. completely..

lost friendship?? yes, but it was pretty much gone anyway wasn't it??

[DanB]

Personally I wouldn't let it go but since he used to be a friend I wouldn't hospitalise him and if your worried about the legal side of it then use your head, sometimes a good scare can be alot more effective then any beating if done correctly ........

[HitIt]

it would satisfy me to see a guy sit in jail for a spell for sending out cock shots..have to have someone bail him out for cock shots, then have to go to court for cock shots, pay cock shot fines, ect (it would also be on his record that he's a douchebag).....i just think think i'd call his misdemeanor and not raise him a felony. i can't afford to be in the system and like my freedom too much anyway to piss it away over a dingaling. but it would def. be over as "friends"... think i'd get the wife a new number too..

[JP-MAN]

whats the charge on that?

sending a naked pic to someone is wrong, but whats the exact charge?

[xelnaga]

whats the charge on that?

sending a naked pic to someone is wrong, but whats the exact charge?

It's not illegal as long as all parties are adults. That's what my research has suggested.

[SnaX]

He is crashing and his life is sh*t...let him continue to do what he is doing. Sure, you could add to his avalanche of crap, but why risk legal problems of your own? You aren't serving your wife by getting personal revenge.

^^I agree with this. That individual is supposed to be a grown ass man. If this is how he behaves (like a boy) when his life has hardship, rather than taking the time to better himself and grow; Let him alienate himself. I'm very sure someone else out there will kick his ass very soon.

You are in the right to be upset, however you do not need to get yourself in trouble! YOU are above this.

Just DO NOT text him or leave a voice-mail with threats! I believe that's a felony sir.

[stpete]

Yeah, you guys are right. I'm going to let it go and be the bigger person here. I damn sure don't want to take the chance of him going to the police and having all my kids see me get arrested. Nor do i want to go to the joint. And i've been thinking, he hates just about everyone right now and he probably would rat me out. I heard that he's drinking from the time he wakes up til he passes out at night. I'll just let him drown in his own misery i guess.
We already blocked him from our phones and Facebook. He had ample time to apologize.

Thanks for the advice guys!!

[xelnaga]

^^ Yep! Hopefully he will sober himself up sooner rather than later. The real pain is going to hit him when he has to look back with sober eyes on all of his mistakes.

[SexySweetheart]

Stay at home and outta trouble....she sounds like a smart lady, follow her advice plz

...if not for our self, than out of respect for your wife’s wishes.
It could make things yuk between you and her/upset her if you went off on a tanjinit than got in trouble....instedad of ingnoring the looser.

Let him keep his drama to himself, no need to get all swept up in his life goin ta shit

[SexySweetheart]

This would piss me right the hell off as well. Damn this is a hard one cause I would want to confront the bastard, but also know the ramification for loosing my temper. Especially in front of wittnesses.
Personally I would go to the party and when no one was watching slash all his tires and pour a serious amount of sugar in his gas tank. Or better yet if the music is loud enough take a screw driver and punch holes into the car door 9 or 10 times. Or better yet get a spring punch and use it on his car windows.
I would make him pay with his wallet, plus he would know...but he wouldn't know if you get my meaning.

*s4ms slapps her forehead with her palm and shakes her head* oh lordy baby lol ...

[Razor]

Bitch slap his ass infront of you wife and 4 gf's he will be so embarrassed, he wont cross you again.

[JP-MAN]

alligators fix all those problems....

[JohnnyVegas]

Glad you aren't going to thrash him. Six months from now you won't care, but his life will still be a mess.

[Jessgirl]

Sorry if this is to late! If he was truly sorry he would have called by now ! You have a family and as much as you want to beat the piss out of him, he's not worth the trouble....... Drunk or not he crossed the line once if he does twice then beat the F*** out of him, just not in public.