Please let me explain the conudrum that i am in. This is my second marriage. About a week after my first marriage, I started dating my current wife of almost one year now. I worked with her then and we now still work at the same company, but I now work in another department. I fell in love with her because she was always always positive and tried to be funny. She is hispanic, which I prefer and very good looking with big boobs. She likes to dance and I don't but we compromised at no dancing at all.
She cleans my clothes and cleans the house. She let's me play computer games when I want to play for hours and doesn't complain. I would be playing a game for 10 hours if I wanted and she would not complain. She likes to watch housewives and other shows and be left alone and prefers that I not talk duing the show because she has to pause it. She owns her own home and her car is paid off. She doesnt like to shop and spend money. Regardless of what I make, she lets me live with her ( Yes, I know we are married.) for only $400.00 a month. Thats it...she pays all bills in the house and I give her 400 a month only. I keep my seperate bank account. If anyone is wondering how that happened....When we were dating, I didnt want to move in and she really really wanted me to move in, so I said if I move in the only think I will pay forever is $400.00 a month.
By the way, I buy paper towels and toilet paper, shampoo and soap..ect.
Now all women reading this may think i'm some massive jerk....quite the opposite.
1. I am her b.i.t.c.h. haha. Ya, so, if she wants me to go get something, I do. Jdog, can you go get my a paper towel. Jdog, can you go get me some ice tea. Jdog, can you turn off the lights. Jdog, can you turn on the fan. I never ask her to get me anything. I feel there is a lot of value in this for a relationship... Personal fetcher...
2. I cook dinner for her and her 14 yo son every night or I go buy something to eat for all of us with my money.
3. I take her son to school every morning.
4. I do the dishes most of the time.
5. I take out the trash.
So maybe someone is wondering...whats the problem...u do a few things for your wife, have seperate bank accounts and only give her $400.00 a month.
The problem is....SEX LIFE. She wanted to get married really bad and I wanted to stay bf/gf another 10 or so years. I really feel like I am missing out on something good and it hurts my core.
You see, when we were dating she would give me oral sex every few days. About a month into our dating she swallowed while doing oral. Then it stopped. I let her know that I like what she did, but she never did it again...even after marriage. I used to kinda get mad when she was giving me oral when im lying down because when im about to cum, she moves her head towards it like she thinks she is supposed to let me finish in her mouth, but then looked at me and I kinda hear in here eyes "it's him, I don't have to let him finish in my mouth. When I brought it up a few weeks ago in kinda an angry way...she said she is "mature" now and no longer wants to do that. A little prodding over the last few months, I find out that she swallowed for 2 previous guys in the past (that she admits to...)
So here I am looking at the rest of my life. This life is certain to contain oral sex between 2 - 4 times a year. No fingering her.... No anal or anal play....no doing it with the lights on...never has a "fire" or "desire" to give me oral...only compains about her sinusus or that it hurts her mouth....I will never be able to finish in a females mouth again.
I was not a virgin before meeting her, i've bad plenty of girls spit/swallow....It's my ultimate sexual experience....and to never be able to do that again??? help me!! I feel like i got jipped.
By the way, I totally understand if my wife had no swallowed before because she hated cum in her mouth, but she swallowed for two other guys before and once for me, so it's not like it was impossible...she is just "mature" now all of the damn sudden. She is 40 and I am 34.
She thinks I love her so much and would never expect me to ever leave her. I've let her know that I am sexually unsatisfied, but I have never mentioned leaving.
I feel sooooo bad, but the prospect of such a horrible sex life for the rest of my life hurts also.
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Originally Posted by paulzane
