Career/life changes

[EDCG19]

So, my life went into a different direction this year and a different path. I lost my job and I am no longer an engineer. I am also doing good on money which will last for a while but there is one problem, I am not able to find another engineering job right now and I don't know how long this will continue but I do have a plan and basically will have to move home

[diesel101]

Do what you have to do to survive brother.

[redz]

I’m back in car sales now it’s actually not too bad I’ll take this over and either become sales manager in a few months or move on to something else. Just be positive and do everything you can that is in your control.

[EDCG19]

Do what you have to do to survive brother.

Yup, That's what im doing right now. Have a backup plan already but shit really went down and fell apart just like they wanted..

[EDCG19]

I’m back in car sales now it’s actually not too bad I’ll take this over and either become sales manager in a few months or move on to something else. Just be positive and do everything you can that is in your control.

Yea, thats what im doing now and am basically at square one again good thing is i have a backup plan in case i need to move back but so far money is good so no reason to quit trying

[guitarzan]

What kind of engineer are you

[EDCG19]

What's everyone so scared of? I'll rebuild after this and I'm not done yet, frankly once I rebuild I'll never be the punching bag again, I guess im one of those guys you can just punch until he snaps one day but should have fought back day one

What do, keep working and trying to rebuild what i have built and failed at because of others. How many of you been through a career breakdown before?

[Charlie67]

What's everyone so scared of? I'll rebuild after this and I'm not done yet, frankly once I rebuild I'll never be the punching bag again, I guess im one of those guys you can just punch until he snaps one day but should have fought back day one

What do, keep working and trying to rebuild what i have built and failed at because of others. How many of you been through a career breakdown before?

I have. It was the best thing that ever happened to me.... In retrospect. At the time, it was terrifying.

I worked for a small family owned design company... I was happy as hell, and life was great. Had a new wife and a baby... I felt like a grown up. In the span of about 2 years a bunch of India based company's popped up doing a crappier versions of our work, but at about a quarter of price. Before you know it, I was on unemployment with a resume that held no value in the Midwest, sitting on a bachelor's degree in F'ing history (facepalm), trying to pay the mortgage on a house we just built.. for no money down that we couldn't afford.

I would have stayed at that job forever, I was so happy. But thankfully, I got a lower paying job in a cool place. They helped me get back into school, and I was able to move around within the company, and grow.

I'm not nearly thankful enough for being laid off back then.

No one here will be able to tell you what to do... It's up to you to keep moving and to seize opportunities as they arrive, weather that's in your engineering field, or somewhere unexpected.

I truly wish you the best of luck,
C-

[Proximal]

I've made major changes a couple of times.

Choose your goals & work towards them. I'm more guilty as the next person in terms of letting other's opinions affect me, but not in choices as these.

I've read your posts for months. You clearly have the drive & discipline.

Once I was married, this changed, but prior?

F-everyone. It's you, it's your life.

[< <Samson> >]

I have had 3 major career changes so far

With what I do now - I am at the most pay, but also I also deal with the highest of stress of the previous 2


Currently I am considering another full on career change - it’s just not as easy to do as it once was when I had no one aside from myself depending on me


Best advice - figure it out < I know, it’s not helpful worth a shit

[BG]

I paid my bills off, bought a house with the last 10G and moved to Florida. Had to live off CC's for 3 months but we eventually got jobs and life is good.

There was nothing left for me where I grew up, it was time to move on and start fresh........maybe its time for you. Go somewhere there is lots of work......Florida is booming, 300,000+ people moving here a year.

[Charlie67]

......Florida is booming, 300,000+ people moving here a year.

No way... Bears, lions, snakes, alligators.... Everything there is deadly. Hell no, lol.

The nice thing about the upper Midwest, very few things are trying to kill you.

But I'm happy you're happy

[BG]

No way... Bears, lions, snakes, alligators.... Everything there is deadly. Hell no, lol.

The nice thing about the upper Midwest, very few things are trying to kill you.

But I'm happy you're happy

Yes it does have its share of......um......not so friendly animals for sure. Weather is great, houses are cheap and lots of work

[Obs]

No way... Bears, lions, snakes, alligators.... Everything there is deadly. Hell no, lol.

The nice thing about the upper Midwest, very few things are trying to kill you.

But I'm happy you're happy

I am the deadliest creature in the midwest.

[Mooseman33]

BG you are new to florida, we call where you live the fucking jungle man.

you guys are the creators of "florida man"

fucking live PD has a blast in that area.

[diesel101]

I am the deadliest creature in the midwest.

or at least one of the top 2 anyway

[< <Samson> >]

Florida is the only place I’d live on the east coast - I grew up in NY & just came back from CT < fuck all that

West Coast 4 life now - life’s just easier out here

[GirlyGymRat]

Everyone’s been between jobs and doesn’t feel good. And there’s opportunities....go seek them!

It will work out!

[Obs]

Everyone’s been between jobs and doesn’t feel good. And there’s opportunities....go seek them!

It will work out!

Agree

Good things do not come to those who wait.

Good things come to those who attack life relentlessly.

[diesel101]

I am not the norm when it comes to this, I have only had 1 full time job my whole life been here for 31 years now. I live 3 miles from where I was born and raised.

[BG]

BG you are new to florida, we call where you live the fucking jungle man.

you guys are the creators of "florida man"

fucking live PD has a blast in that area.

I know, during the day the place is great, drive one town away on a weekend night and its the wild west. So happy I bought where I did, Im in an estate area, no gates but nice. My father in-law wouldnt spend as much money, he ended up in Holiday, middle of the "ghetto" lol.

[BG]

Florida is the only place I’d live on the east coast - I grew up in NY & just came back from CT < fuck all that

West Coast 4 life now - life’s just easier out here

where in NY

[BG]

Agree

Good things do not come to those who wait.

Good things come to those who attack life relentlessly.

Ive come to find out theres a fine line, you have to be aggressive but also have patience. Thats what makes life so hard.

[Obs]

Ive come to find out theres a fine line, you have to be aggressive but also have patience. Thats what makes life so hard.

I dont do patience.
Can't.
I am dedicated but never had patience.

[BG]

Same here my friend, I’m learning slowly and it wasn’t because I wanted to. You would be surprised on how much it helps.

I dont do patience.
Can't.
I am dedicated but never had patience.

[< <Samson> >]

where in NY

Brooklyn

Not aching to go back any time soon

[BG]

Brooklyn

Not aching to go back any time soon

oh ok........things are making more sense now.

[EDCG19]

New job kind of sucks but I'm still going at it. More than likely will move back home in a few months to rebuild what I let go
Still training and putting in the work

[GirlyGymRat]

New job kind of sucks but I'm still going at it. More than likely will move back home in a few months to rebuild what I let go
Still training and putting in the work

What’s wrong?

[BG]

Just grind for now, better opportunities will come around.

New job kind of sucks but I'm still going at it. More than likely will move back home in a few months to rebuild what I let go
Still training and putting in the work

[i_SLAM_cougars]

Thinking about taking on a less time consuming job. It’s a bit of a paycut, but work has really been getting in the way of my lifting lately.

[RaginCajun]

[GirlyGymRat]

Thinking about taking on a less time consuming job. It’s a bit of a paycut, but work has really been getting in the way of my lifting lately.

I’m looking at change cuz some situations can’t be changed without making a move!

[< <Samson> >]

My prob is kinda the opposite, I have every opportunity in front of me rn - but, watching my son grow up seems to still have 1st importance

[Krb367]

So, my life went into a different direction this year and a different path. I lost my job and I am no longer an engineer. I am also doing good on money which will last for a while but there is one problem, I am not able to find another engineering job right now and I don't know how long this will continue but I do have a plan and basically will have to move home

I had to move back in with my mom when I was 30 with my daughter who was 5 at the time when I got laid off.

Gotta keep moving forward bro. I’m 33 now, married with two beautiful little girls and obviously working again. Made a temporary career change until I was able to get back doing what I was doing prior. Got to love the fucking oil field lol

[EDCG19]

Out of losing my job and the worst thing that still hurts is losing her. She was there for me when she found out and she wanted to see me when she found out i lose my job but still the worst pain out of all of this so far is losing her

[GirlyGymRat]

Out of losing my job and the worst thing that still hurts is losing her. She was there for me when she found out and she wanted to see me when she found out i lose my job but still the worst pain out of all of this so far is losing her

I’m so sorry...Who did you lose?

[EDCG19]

I’m so sorry...Who did you lose?

Someone who was important to me but thats all gone now and my job so it doesnt matter anymore. Truth is thats the only thing i miss not the job or anything else i have had, i just miss her everyday
most pain i have ever been in i think, i wish i was different with her but i cant change who i am

[GirlyGymRat]

.....but i cant change who i am

The only person you can change is you!

it’s never too late so decide to start now [emoji4]

[< <Samson> >]

Only thing we can say is, shit happens - then move forward

Sure calcifies us though as time passes