my ex of two years was killed

[hoss827]

the other night in a drunk driiving incident, i just found out....I'm tottally wasted right now and numb insdie and dunno how to cope.....I was hoping someone here could help.......I shouldnt be drinking...I should be at the gym training legs..andr achel should be at home with her family, and nieces for easter.....making them laugh and loving them......where was god

[soccer#3]

sorry to hear that, its always hard gettin over something like this.. give it time
keep ur head up and remember the good die young

[oldman]

Bro I am sorry to hear about your loss but you should not ask God where He was in this... He is in the same place he always is. Life is full of horrible losses people die each day and so many we feel that it was way too soon. If you are a believer then you know that God puts us all here for a reason and we either follow his plan or we don't.. but when it is time to leave this earth not much we can do.. blame the drunk idiot that hit her not God..

Again sorry bro this is sad sad news.


~Old

[hoss827]

thank you both....oldman you're right.....he lived. I hope he has to live with this for the rest of his life.

[Polska]

R.i.p.

[Kale]

Hoss I lost my daughter to cancer when she was just three and a half yours old so I do have some idea about what you are feeling. Try and think about the good things you did together, and remember, she is in a better place now, and you will see her again one day. Drinking wont help bro it will just make it worse. The pain will ease over time, but you will never forget, and you wont want to forget anyway !!!!

[oldman]

thank you both....oldman you're right.....he lived. I hope he has to live with this for the rest of his life.

gosh that is worse brother.. Man all I can say is be strong for her family and other friends.. Keep in mind the good times and great things about her. Don't let it consume your life it is tragic and should the loss should be mourned but this horrible thing reminds us we all have a very short time here and we need to make the most out of things and be good to family and friends.

Good luck Hoss.


~Old

[LX-1]

that sucks bro......you'll pull through.

[hoss827]

Hoss I lost my daughter to cancer when she was just three and a half yours old so I do have some idea about what you are feeling. Try and think about the good things you did together, and remember, she is in a better place now, and you will see her again one day. Drinking wont help bro it will just make it worse. The pain will ease over time, but you will never forget, and you wont want to forget anyway !!!!

I am sorry to hear about that loss bro....that is terrible that it had to happen at such a young age.......if you need to talk ever, let me know and i'll understand..

[Kale]

I am sorry to hear about that loss bro....that is terrible that it had to happen at such a young age.......if you need to talk ever, let me know and i'll understand..

Thanks Hoss but your the one that needs the support now not me. Keep your head up bro and let me know if you want to talk as well. The only thing that will heal this is time.

[hoss827]

gosh that is worse brother.. Man all I can say is be strong for her family and other friends.. Keep in mind the good times and great things about her. Don't let it consume your life it is tragic and should the loss should be mourned but this horrible thing reminds us we all have a very short time here and we need to make the most out of things and be good to family and friends.

Good luck Hoss.


~Old

I just dont understand this weekend....i have friday and monday off and it was supposed to be great......Rachel was killed, then last night a close friends grandfather passed away and her whole family is going thru a tough time so i'm trying to be strong and comfort and help the both of them......things have just been crazy..I'll be strong bro....thank you for your supprot

[Neo]

Sorry to hear about your loss, bro. Horrible things happen from time to time. Hit me up if you need someone to talk to....

[kif]

Bro sorry to hear about your girl. I'll keep you in my prayers. I had a good friend killed by a drunk driver last may. Stay strong bro.

[Myka]

I hope your friends will rest in peace...

but I need to know...are you still unable to select your own avatar...cause if someone else is doing that...I find that inappropriate to say the least

[spencer]

sorry mate

[powerliftmike]

"When you are born you are crying and everyone is smiling, make sure when you die everyone is crying and you are smiling"

[Kale]

Hoss I wrote this for my daughter but I thought it applies to you as well.



Don't think of her as gone away
Her journey's just begun
Life holds so many facets
This earth is only one
Just think of her as resting
From the sorrows and the tears
In a place of warmth and comfort
Where there are no days and years
Think how she must be wishing
That we could know today
How nothing but our sadness
Can really pass away
And think of her as living
In the hearts of those she touched
For nothing loved is ever lost
And she was loved so much

[hoss827]

I hope your friends will rest in peace...

but I need to know...are you still unable to select your own avatar...cause if someone else is doing that...I find that inappropriate to say the least

Neo...thanks for the support bro, we've always helped one another out.....

Kif, I am sorry to hear for your loss man.....may your friend RIP..

New Kid....neos changing it, its OK.....he means well

Mike..thats a great quote.......i'll be sure and remember that. Everyone thank you for the support.....I'm going to crash out and get some sleep..wake up sober, eat my meals, and hopefully find a gym thats open to train legs.......training always takes my mind off of these things.......Thanks so much..

[Temptation]

Hoss I lost my daughter to cancer when she was just three and a half yours old so I do have some idea about what you are feeling. Try and think about the good things you did together, and remember, she is in a better place now, and you will see her again one day. Drinking wont help bro it will just make it worse. The pain will ease over time, but you will never forget, and you wont want to forget anyway !!!!

OMG I just want to cry reading that!!! I am SO SORRY!!!

Hoss... I am so sorry for you loss -- keep your memories of her close to your heart and she will never be far. See if her family needs anything... their pain must be too great for words. (as is yours), again -- sorry

[hoss827]

Hoss I wrote this for my daughter but I thought it applies to you as well.



Don't think of her as gone away
Her journey's just begun
Life holds so many facets
This earth is only one
Just think of her as resting
From the sorrows and the tears
In a place of warmth and comfort
Where there are no days and years
Think how she must be wishing
That we could know today
How nothing but our sadness
Can really pass away
And think of her as living
In the hearts of those she touched
For nothing loved is ever lost
And she was loved so much

it does.....thank you for sharing that with me bro...it touched me..

[Myka]

Hoss I wrote this for my daughter but I thought it applies to you as well.



Don't think of her as gone away
Her journey's just begun
Life holds so many facets
This earth is only one
Just think of her as resting
From the sorrows and the tears
In a place of warmth and comfort
Where there are no days and years
Think how she must be wishing
That we could know today
How nothing but our sadness
Can really pass awayAnd think of her as living
In the hearts of those she touched
For nothing loved is ever lost
And she was loved so much

the entire poem is beautiful...but the bold is my favorite

[hoss827]

OMG I just want to cry reading that!!! I am SO SORRY!!!

Hoss... I am so sorry for you loss -- keep your memories of her close to your heart and she will never be far. See if her family needs anything... their pain must be too great for words. (as is yours), again -- sorry

It was very sad.....bro, are you going to try for another daughter?

I'll never forget the memories that we had together and all of the good times....Her mother passed years ago..and I cant even imagine what her father is feeling losing both his wife and his daughter now....but at least shes with her mother......

[NYGIANTS21]

Sorry about your loss. times are tough right now for you but you must remain strong, she would not want you to drink your sorrows away. Sorry again for your loss......

[Bigen12]

Sorry about your loss. times are tough right now for you but you must remain strong, she would not want you to drink your sorrows away. Sorry again for your loss......

Agreed,

I posted a thread several weeks back about my good friend loosing his wife. He was very tempted by the bottle, but he's taken one day at a time, and is doing well.

[biggerisbetter2006]

God bless her. I am very sorry to hear of ur loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Kale]

It was very sad.....bro, are you going to try for another daughter?

I'll never forget the memories that we had together and all of the good times....Her mother passed years ago..and I cant even imagine what her father is feeling losing both his wife and his daughter now....but at least shes with her mother......

No mate, I had had a vasectomy at the time, I had it reversed but my wife had a couple of miscarrriages so it wasnt meant to be. I have four other kids so thats enough for me although they have all pretty much grown up now

[Pooks]

I'm sorry for your loss bro.. but thank you for changing your anavar.. i suppose that is her.. she was a beutiful lady and the world will miss her.

[needmorestrength]

Hoss I wrote this for my daughter but I thought it applies to you as well.



Don't think of her as gone away
Her journey's just begun
Life holds so many facets
This earth is only one
Just think of her as resting
From the sorrows and the tears
In a place of warmth and comfort
Where there are no days and years
Think how she must be wishing
That we could know today
How nothing but our sadness
Can really pass away
And think of her as living
In the hearts of those she touched
For nothing loved is ever lost
And she was loved so much

And I am sitting here crying!! My brother lost his beautiful daughter at the age of 4.. It changes a person forever!!!!
Hoss sorry for you loss, I suggest praying for strength for you and their families!!!!

[hoss827]

I just woke up....sober, finally..and now I'm looking at this from an entirely different perspective on how to deal with it...I'm looking at drinking as running away from the problem at hand, which is coping with her death....I can run away as far and as many times as I like but my problem is still going to be waiting for me when I get home (sober up..) so i'm going to have to deal with this like a man and accept it, as hard as that may be....Thanks to everyone for the support..it means more than you know

[hoss827]

I'm sorry for your loss bro.. but thank you for changing your anavar.. i suppose that is her.. she was a beutiful lady and the world will miss her.

yeah bro....thats her, thank you

[kloter1]

hoss, dam man im real sorry to hear what happend. not only did a very young soul leave this place but it was by a drunk driver no less. jesus that is horrible. i know this is going to be very hard to deal with but dont get to depressed man. keep your head up buddy.

[big L 17]

i am so sorry to hear that.it makes you stop and think everyday how gratfulle are lifes are i hope u stay strong its very hard.

[1819]

yo hoss. tuesday night a friend of mine for over 30 years lost his 18 year old son to a drunk driver. didnt really know what to say to him to make him feel any better. im sure there is nothing in my vocabulary. the same would apply to you. just know that if there was something i could say, i would. i wish you all the best.

[taiboxa]

"When you are born you are crying and everyone is smiling, make sure when you die everyone is crying and you are smiling"

best quote ever one of my favs..

[2bshredded]

Hey Hoos,
Some really god folks on this site, I wish you well and will say a prayer for her.

[QuieTSToRM33]

hey bro ...... stay strong ......... there's nothing like losing a close friend ... i've been there ... its tough ....... just make sure u stay positive and ull be able to pull through this

[chest6]

Stay strong hoss...no reason a beautiful girl like that had to go...no one knows why bad things happen to good people. I've lost a friend before so I somewhat know how you are feeling. If you need to talk you know where to get me..I'll be here

[firmechicano831]

Hoss I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I think that she would like for you to be strong and stop the drinking to forget your pain. Maybe talking to someone or crying will help you ease the pain. Try talking to her picture at night and taking sometime off work.

[The Shredder]

Totally sorry to hear this, My roomate from college just watched his friend die into front of him over spring break cause he got hit by a drunk driver. I hope you don't mind me asking but us that her in your avatar?

[Gra]

Sorry for your loss. I would try to stop drinking, might feel easier to deal with things. But it`s not the right way to deal with it.