Well, first haven;t been on the site for a long time, been busy this summer, but still been working out as much as possible. Just finished a nice summer cutter about 2 months ago, with good results, and also plannning on bulking this summer if not right now after this shit to get my head back together.
But here it goes, .....Just looking for some insight or advice and thought maybe someone here has gone through a similar thing. To explain, started seeing an amazing girl about 6 months ago, started seeing her after she had just gotten out of a serious 3 year relationship in which she was engaged and supposed to get married later in this year. Knew I was taking a risk, as usually stay away from anyone with baggage unless it is only for a good time and I don;t really like the person other then for fun of course meaning sex.
Life up until this girl, hate to say it has been one conguest after another, girls didn;t mean a damn thing to me and never met anyone that I could say I loved. But alas met this girl, with my usuall intentions of lets get this girl into bed as quickly as possible, but after meeting this girl for the first time, felt something different with her for once said to myself, this girl is perfect for me, she is beautiful, have dated hotter but something inside me said this could be the one that people always talk about. Can;t explain it....
So jump ahead couple months, things are great, just everything is going perfect, really started to fall in love with this girl. Have met her family who just love me and have introduced her to my family and done the dinner things and what not. Normally I dont; do this, cause before never seen anything that I wanted a relationship with. So here is the major thing, my father who has been very sick and terminaly ill, goes into the hospital and she is there by myside for two days straight, didn;t sleep, unitl my father passes away. Was like an angel to me, wouldn;t have made it through without her. She says things like why didn;t we hang out with your father more and I was glad I could help you.
So fast forward to about 3 weeks ago, things have taken a downward slide, her ****ing ex comes back onto the scene, think cause he is jealous of me and her being happy once. This guy is a peice of work, has a drinking problem and her family hates him and doesn;t talk to her (the girl I am crazy about). She says she has feelings for him and that she talked to him and he has seemed to change. Of course I am dissapointed and ****ing angry but play it cool. Contirue to talk to her but have stepped back.
Well last week, said to her "that I can;t do this anymore, worrying about this shit of her maybe going back to her ex, that I still care for her and like her, but know she needs some time and space to figure stuff out and that I need to move on".
So been talking to her sister, getting the gossip, and her sisters tells me that she apolgized for acting how she has, and that she doesn;t want her ex cause she knows he will never change. Good news for me, but she also says that she doesn;t want anything at the moment and needs some time.
Now that it sounds like she doens;t want her ex back, but wants time, how to I give her time and space. What exactly do I do, call her once a week and just have a freindly talk with her, don;t ask about her ex, and also dont; really ask for anything (as in like to hang out or go out and do somehting).
I know she was crazy about me before and she told me that she really liked me, and literally asked me once what should I do (as in go with you or him) I said that is not up to me you need to decided that. Also that she wished her ex was more like me, whatever that means.
So what should I do or how should I go about getting her slowly back, keeping her interested, but also not being pushy or smothering? .....any help????????? Cause do love this girl still.....
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Originally Posted by ShnouzedUp
