Why be gay ?
I got this question from a friend today and I have to admit I do get it quite often. Kind of an odd question since it insinuates that being gay is a choice but I answered it. I used an analogy that helped him give him just a small glimpse of the “gay lifestyle.”
For all of you guys out there that have wives and girlfriends or have ever had a significant other you can easily relate to this. Picture this:
You have a women/man in your life that you care about. They make you feel good about yourself and you return the favor. Not as a chore but because just making the other person feel good makes you feel good. When you see the other person smile or giggle you can’t help but break out in laughter yourself enjoying the moment together. Now take this person and enter into “my world.”
Imagine people looking at your two and thinking, ewww that’s disgusting. Having people staring at you two when you get “too close” to each other in public. You might even see them whisper to their friends then turn your way and give you a look. Ok, I know what you are thinking, you are saying F them. We are happy with each other so who cares. Well imagine you two are walking home from a movie and you decide to hold hands. Someone sees that that doesn’t like it and attacks you two. So now you are fearful not so much for yourself but for your partner. You no longer hold hands, kiss , or show any affection in public because you don’t want to see anything happen to who you are with. On top of that some of your friends stop being your friend just because you two are together. Maybe even your parents look down on you now in disappointment.
Why am I typing this? I just want other people to see where I am coming from. Do I want peoples pity ? No. I want to be left alone like everyone else. I want to be able to hug the person I love without having to worry about being followed at home that night because someone wants to harm me for who I am. I don’t want to have to look over my shoulder before I give a kiss to the person I love. I don’t want to have to lie to people that I work with telling him I have a girlfriend because I know my job could be in jeopardy if it got out. These are the things I deal with on a daily basis.
So what can others do to help? Absolutely nothing. If you see gay people in public and can’t say anything nice then just turn away. If you feel the need to make a comment, go ahead but make it to yourself and not out loud where others can hear it.
Treat people the way you would want others to treat your family members.
Now how can anyone say I would choose to have a life like this? If I had the choice to be as happy with a girl as I am with another guy I would hands down take the girl in a second. I know this will never happen but am just reiterating the fact that I am what I am and there is nothing I can do about it.
Thanks for reading.