Girlfriend to gym... (FEMALE MEMBERS WEIGH IN)

[B.E.N.]

My girl is slacking on me. She has quit going to the gym on a regular basis. Any ideas on how to motivate someone is a subtle and caring way???? It is almost a deal breaker if this becomes a habit.

She used to dance for her university so she knows what it takes to keep in shape. The girl is in good shape compared to the average American terd, but workouts on a regular basis are a must in my book. The way I see it you start skipping days...then weeks...then you are not going at all...then the pounds add...then multiply...BAD NEWS.

Also, how do you convince a girl that she needs to be lifting weights rather than just doing cardio????

[RA]

Mine is the same. She will hit it for about 2 months then nothing. She doesnt like to sweat..lol

[Lexed]

tell her she is getting fat

[RA]

lol, so your single hey lexed?

tell her she is getting fat

[Lexed]

ya

[nbkandrew13]

dude some girls dont have to mine , if she even thinks shes gaining weight its off fast

[B.E.N.]

tell her she is getting fat

Easy there smokey...sensitive subject on the home front...don't make me get my rage on...

[5ifthCitizen]

has she actually gained weight or u just think she will?

some girls just aren't into the gym man. u can't make them like something just because u like it especially when it comes to staying healthy. this is america.

i would just slip an ECA/var stack into her food???

[B.E.N.]

Mine is the same. She will hit it for about 2 months then nothing. She doesnt like to sweat..lol

And she won't go with me becuase I 'will be mean to her'. This is why not every women is cut out for combat...GET IN THE DAMN TRENCH WOMEN!!!!

Seriously...who on does not love a women with those nice toned arms and legs...not just skinny but toned.

[B.E.N.]

has she actually gained weight or u just think she will?

some girls just aren't into the gym man. u can't make them like something just because u like it especially when it comes to staying healthy. this is america.

i would just slip an ECA/var stack into her food???

Not really about gaining weight (but yes that is bad) I just want her to stay toned up...anyone can stay skinny. I mean think about how easy girls have it. To stay skinny you just run and eat predominately healthy.

Us we have to work like dogs in the gym and then eat constantly to get were we think we need to be. If all I had to do was run to be stacked life would be GREAT!

No ECA stack! Just what I need...her to be more high strung!

[Lexed]

well since she was a dancer why dont u and her sign up for a dance class together and that would be her workout?

[RA]

And she won't go with me becuase I 'will be mean to her'. This is why not every women is cut out for combat...GET IN THE DAMN TRENCH WOMEN!!!!

Seriously...who on does not love a women with those nice toned arms and legs...not just skinny but toned.

Will be mean to her..lol. She probably want to gab at the gym and you are there for a serious workout, right?

[B.E.N.]

Will be mean to her..lol. She probably want to gab at the gym and you are there for a serious workout, right?

Sounds like you can commiserate with me...LOL. The gab and she goes to one of those YUPPY gyms with 50 big screen TVs and smelly candles everywhere.

And all my free weights are right at home...she does not even have to put on make up to workout...imagine that!

[PEWN]

good ol clen kool aid for her....

[QuieTSToRM33]

Just be straight up ... no need to sugar coat it

[BluEyedClubr]

My girl is slacking on me. She has quit going to the gym on a regular basis. Any ideas on how to motivate someone is a subtle and caring way???? It is almost a deal breaker if this becomes a habit.

She used to dance for her university so she knows what it takes to keep in shape. The girl is in good shape compared to the average American terd, but workouts on a regular basis are a must in my book. The way I see it you start skipping days...then weeks...then you are not going at all...then the pounds add...then multiply...BAD NEWS.

Also, how do you convince a girl that she needs to be lifting weights rather than just doing cardio????

Just be persistant with the lifting thing... why not show her articles that talk about how having muscle on your body burns calories all day long? the ABS Diet book actually breaks it down to show how lifting and cardio burn soooo many more calories than cardio alone

... i go through the same shit with my gf...

She gets mad at me when I ask her if she went to the gym today...

[IronReload04]

ya know, i wish, some where, out there, just one girl would get in a squat rack and do it properly........they would be so amazed at how fast and toned their legs and ass would get.......they, on average, just dont have the mind set to use deductive reasoning and logic

[mavsluva]

It's quite obvious that your passion and your priorities reside in the gym. Hers, on the other hand, may not. It just so happens that her passion and her priorities may reside in you being her boyfriend so you might want to keep that in mind moving forward.

I'm not a betting man, but I'm willing to bet that you don't take too many trips to the mall with her, do you? And if not, does she bust your chops about not going w/her?

The easiest way to get your significant other to exercise is to simply do it with her. You must remain calm and open to things that you may not like as that's just part of the job. But do remember that a woman likes to spend time her man so you're killing two birds with one stone here. Just make it enjoyable for the both of you and you'll end up having a healthier relationship (and body) at the end of the day.

Good luck!

[AandF6969]

It's quite obvious that your passion and your priorities reside in the gym. Hers, on the other hand, may not. It just so happens that her passion and her priorities may reside in you being her boyfriend so you might want to keep that in mind moving forward.

I think his concern is not really her working out... its about her continuing to be hot and not turning into a fat whale in 5 years...

[mavsluva]

I think his concern is not really her working out... its about her continuing to be hot and not turning into a fat whale in 5 years...

Well, wouldn't that require exercise to maintain her current "hotness" in regards to her physique?

[B.E.N.]

The easiest way to get your significant other to exercise is to simply do it with her. You must remain calm and open to things that you may not like as that's just part of the job. But do remember that a woman likes to spend time her man so you're killing two birds with one stone here. Just make it enjoyable for the both of you and you'll end up having a healthier relationship (and body) at the end of the day.

Good luck!

He went and got all Dr. Phil on us...

But good advice...probably going to go buy her some of pretty pink NIKE workout gloves and some matching outfit to go with it...

'Now don't you want to go try out my new present together?'

[AandF6969]

Well, wouldn't that require exercise to maintain her current "hotness" in regards to her physique?

Right, I thought you were implying that he was trying to get her in the gym simply because he wanted her to work out... but there is actually reason behind it. Even if he doesn't work out with her, it should be her responsibility to remain an attractive, presentable female and not a land whale. Regardless of where her passion and priorities are.

[DSM4Life]

If you don't like her the way she is now then just break up. I workout just about everyday where as my b/f doesnt ever workout. Do i care ? No. Its his life he can do what he wants. If he gets bigger i could care less, i love him for who he is not what he looks like.

[5ifthCitizen]

If you don't like her the way she is now then just break up. I workout just about everyday where as my b/f doesnt ever workout. Do i care ? No. Its his life he can do what he wants. If he gets bigger i could care less, i love him for who he is not what he looks like.

so if he was getting fatter by the day then u wouldnt care?

[DSM4Life]

so if he was getting fatter by the day then u wouldnt care?

If he got to the point where his health was at risk i would say something. If he just got fat then no i wouldn't say anything. Its his body not mine. I am not saying i wouldn't encourage him to go but if he did not want to i would drop the subject.

Don't expect someone to change for you.



What if your girl asked you to change by not going to the gym and stating she likes you with a little bit of extra weight ? You would laugh in her face , as she should to you when you ask her to go to the gym.

[B.E.N.]

If you don't like her the way she is now then just break up. I workout just about everyday where as my b/f doesnt ever workout. Do i care ? No. Its his life he can do what he wants. If he gets bigger i could care less, i love him for who he is not what he looks like.

If you don't like her the way she is now then just break up. I workout just about everyday where as my b/f doesnt ever workout. Do i care ? No. Its his life he can do what he wants. If he gets bigger i could care less, i love him for who he is not what he looks like.

Maybe you did not read the entire post...she was a dance team member before she graduated. Workouts and practice everyday.

Now she is not doing that...she knows she should be just lacking the motivation. I was merely asking for how anyone with a longterm girlfriend or wife might approach this sensitive subject.

The human body atrophies very quickly when not used and needs to see physical activity on a daily basis.

Example:
http://forums.steroid.com/showthread.php?t=316234

Same is true for females...osteoporosis would be a better example in women however.

[sphincter]

I am married and my wife used to be a dancer also (tap, jazz, ballet) to the tune af almost 20 hours a week of practice... she was in FANTASTIC shape when we met (she was 18 and is 23 now) SHe started getting big around 20 yrs old; and by big, I mean too big for my liking but still better than average. I told her simply that if she kept getting bigger at the rate she was currently, it would start to be a problem. Not that I didn't like her and that she looked bad YET but I just wanted her to know what I was thinking so it wasn't a surprise if I up and left her when she got fat and she never suspected it... She told me she appreciated this info and was a little hurt by it but recognized it was the truth. She started walking and doing some workouts after that.. We were recenl\tly married and she has begun to slack off again... I figure she'll need another pep talk soon.

Problem i have is my wife looks GREAT with a little meat on her as it fills out her chest and ass very nicely.. but there's a fine line where it affects her stomach more than I ike and ten I gotta talk to her about it. The way I see it, great and open communication is the only way to have a successful relationship and this has been very effective in getting her t owork out when she needs to.

[DSM4Life]

I am married and my wife used to be a dancer also (tap, jazz, ballet) to the tune af almost 20 hours a week of practice... she was in FANTASTIC shape when we met (she was 18 and is 23 now) SHe started getting big around 20 yrs old; and by big, I mean too big for my liking but still better than average. I told her simply that if she kept getting bigger at the rate she was currently, it would start to be a problem. Not that I didn't like her and that she looked bad YET but I just wanted her to know what I was thinking so it wasn't a surprise if I up and left her when she got fat and she never suspected it... She told me she appreciated this info and was a little hurt by it but recognized it was the truth. She started walking and doing some workouts after that.. We were recenl\tly married and she has begun to slack off again... I figure she'll need another pep talk soon.

Problem i have is my wife looks GREAT with a little meat on her as it fills out her chest and ass very nicely.. but there's a fine line where it affects her stomach more than I ike and ten I gotta talk to her about it. The way I see it, great and open communication is the only way to have a successful relationship and this has been very effective in getting her t owork out when she needs to.

Are you her partner or her father ?

[3bd]

Geeeze.... just get a new gf... that's so much easier

[getbigbig]

I agree....i would tell me EX she needed to hit the gym or we would be done. I obviously dont work out to get someone who isnt on my level. Stop being a pus and let her know whats up. If she dosent like it....find one of the other million chicks out there.

[AandF6969]

Are you her partner or her father ?

Dude, I don't know how it works with two guys in a relationship, but when a guy and a girl are in a relationship and the girl starts getting fat, the guy isn't as attracted to her anymore... and if she gets too fat, she gets to the point where he will only want to have sex with her when he doesn't feel like masturbating. So, its very important that a girl keeps herself presentable because sex is an important part of a heterosexual relationship and if you're not attracted to your girlfriend/wife, there's not going to be much sex. Its hard to get a boner when you're trying not to vomit.

And as stated above, there are a million other chicks out there who would have the courtesy and common sense to remain fukkable.

[WEBB]

lol, so your single hey lexed?

BWHAHAHAHAHHAHA....ROFLMMFAO.....Thanks Roid, that made my night man....

[DSM4Life]

Dude, I don't know how it works with two guys in a relationship, but when a guy and a girl are in a relationship and the girl starts getting fat, the guy isn't as attracted to her anymore... and if she gets too fat, she gets to the point where he will only want to have sex with her when he doesn't feel like masturbating. So, its very important that a girl keeps herself presentable because sex is an important part of a heterosexual relationship and if you're not attracted to your girlfriend/wife, there's not going to be much sex. Its hard to get a boner when you're trying not to vomit.

And as stated above, there are a million other chicks out there who would have the courtesy and common sense to remain fukkable.

First off, a relationship is a relationship.
Now that i got that out of the way lets work with your shallow post. So when we get down to the nitty gritty on what you are saying is if your wife/girlfriend doesn't remain very attractive for the entire relationship then you are either going to jump ship or have these little "fatherly talks" to her which is in turn just insulting her ?
So what happens when you marry a 10 model and have kids? Now she doesn’t have that 10 body so now she has a choice, get to the gym or start packing.
Don't get me wrong sex is important yes, but so is having common sense. A woman is not going to keep the same body forever just as you aren't.
My point is that i am in love with the person and not the body. I love him just for being him. Say he got really fat and i left him for a model. The model can't duplicate the personality of my current b/f. He’s not going to know what makes me laugh and he doesn't know what gets on my nerves. He hasn’t been through the ups and downs in my life which have made up stronger together. So why would i give all that up because he changed on the outside?
I think we are morally on two different sides of the fence here.

[B.E.N.]

First off, a relationship is a relationship.
Now that i got that out of the way lets work with your shallow post. So when we get down to the nitty gritty on what you are saying is if your wife/girlfriend doesn't remain very attractive for the entire relationship then you are either going to jump ship or have these little "fatherly talks" to her which is in turn just insulting her ?
So what happens when you marry a 10 model and have kids? Now she doesn’t have that 10 body so now she has a choice, get to the gym or start packing.
Don't get me wrong sex is important yes, but so is having common sense. A woman is not going to keep the same body forever just as you aren't.
My point is that i am in love with the person and not the body. I love him just for being him. Say he got really fat and i left him for a model. The model can't duplicate the personality of my current b/f. He’s not going to know what makes me laugh and he doesn't know what gets on my nerves. He hasn’t been through the ups and downs in my life which have made up stronger together. So why would i give all that up because he changed on the outside?
I think we are morally on two different sides of the fence here.

Damn, Gina...

Everyone needs to settle down. I was asking about this not because it is an entirely a physical thing. While that is a plus I, for one, complete understand time will get the best of each of us. This was more of an attitude and lifestyle thing. She had been, and knew how, to mantain her figure but was getting lazy and taking the easy way out.

I, me, was curious how other mature and compansionate adults would approach their partner so as to not offend or turn off, but to encourage a that partner to maintain themselves. I just think if you start to get lazy and do not take care of yourself then that attitude lends itself to other fascets of your life.

I think we can all agree there are not many drunk, methed out bodybuilders around. It takes discipline in the gym and in your lifestyle to keep yourself up.

[DSM4Life]

Damn, Gina...

Everyone needs to settle down. I was asking about this not becuase it is an entirely a physical thing. While that is a plus I, for one, complete understand time will get the best of each of us. This was more of an attitude and lifestyle thing. She had been, and knew how, to mantain her figure but was getting lazy and taking the easy way out.

I, me, just was curious how other mature and compansionate adults would approach their partner so as to not offend or turn off, but to encourage a that partner to mantain themselves. I just think if you start to get lazy and do not take care of yourself then that attitude lends itself to other fascets of your life.

I think we can all agree there are not many drunk, methed out bodybuilders around. It takes discipline in the gym and in your lifestyle to keep yourself up.

I know, my post was directed towards AandF6969.

[johnmacdan]

At my wife's biggest, I still thought she was hot. Nothing sexier than a woman who has carried your child.

First off, a relationship is a relationship.
Now that i got that out of the way lets work with your shallow post. So when we get down to the nitty gritty on what you are saying is if your wife/girlfriend doesn't remain very attractive for the entire relationship then you are either going to jump ship or have these little "fatherly talks" to her which is in turn just insulting her ?
So what happens when you marry a 10 model and have kids? Now she doesn’t have that 10 body so now she has a choice, get to the gym or start packing.
Don't get me wrong sex is important yes, but so is having common sense. A woman is not going to keep the same body forever just as you aren't.
My point is that i am in love with the person and not the body. I love him just for being him. Say he got really fat and i left him for a model. The model can't duplicate the personality of my current b/f. He’s not going to know what makes me laugh and he doesn't know what gets on my nerves. He hasn’t been through the ups and downs in my life which have made up stronger together. So why would i give all that up because he changed on the outside?
I think we are morally on two different sides of the fence here.

[sphincter]

At my wife's biggest, I still thought she was hot. Nothing sexier than a woman who has carried your child.

I can't WAIT for my wife to get pregnant.. I wanna do her when she has a big ole' belly full of my kid I don't know why but it's a wierd fascination I have had for a while now.. not just doing any prego chick.. but mine :0

And Mr. DSM... I'm not her father but I am her partner who chooses to be honest with her about what and how I'm feeling and I expect the same courtesy from her.. If I'm doing something that displeases or causes grief then I need to know so I can work with her and correct the issue.

As I said in my first post (which you must have mised while you were busy taking offense) it is all about open and honest communication. If you are feeling something you should be MOSt free to express that in your relationship with your partner.. If you can't then IMO you're doomed to fail.

My wife asked me to stop rec drugs and I did so even though I enjoyed my time doing so... Is she my mom for voicing that concern?

[DSM4Life]

I can't WAIT for my wife to get pregnant.. I wanna do her when she has a big ole' belly full of my kid I don't know why but it's a wierd fascination I have had for a while now.. not just doing any prego chick.. but mine :0

And Mr. DSM... I'm not her father but I am her partner who chooses to be honest with her about what and how I'm feeling and I expect the same courtesy from her.. If I'm doing something that displeases or causes grief then I need to know so I can work with her and correct the issue.

As I said in my first post (which you must have mised while you were busy taking offense) it is all about open and honest communication. If you are feeling something you should be MOSt free to express that in your relationship with your partner.. If you can't then IMO you're doomed to fail.

My wife asked me to stop rec drugs and I did so even though I enjoyed my time doing so... Is she my mom for voicing that concern?

I am glad to see that you could have given up such a wonderful thing for your wife.

[StoneGRMI]

Buy her some really nice clothes a little to small for her. She'll want to wear them so bad that she'll have to work out!....jk

[DontPlayByTheRules]

It's quite obvious that your passion and your priorities reside in the gym. Hers, on the other hand, may not. It just so happens that her passion and her priorities may reside in you being her boyfriend so you might want to keep that in mind moving forward.

I'm not a betting man, but I'm willing to bet that you don't take too many trips to the mall with her, do you? And if not, does she bust your chops about not going w/her?

The easiest way to get your significant other to exercise is to simply do it with her. You must remain calm and open to things that you may not like as that's just part of the job. But do remember that a woman likes to spend time her man so you're killing two birds with one stone here. Just make it enjoyable for the both of you and you'll end up having a healthier relationship (and body) at the end of the day.

Good luck!

I'm with you on the reply. I know quite a few women that think if you train at the gym, you'll end up looking like Arnold or Ronnie. If a guy wants his girlfriend to go to the gym, he needs to be there for her to help her train.

I train with the big guys which doesn't bother me at all (I enjoy intimidating guys ) I think when women see me training they get a little nervous. I want to get bigger!!