Anyone feel stuck in their life?

[Razor]

This feeling has been growing on for me for a while, I dont know if it has to do with my turning 30 and still not married..no kids.. I guess I have been having a hard time finding the meaning in life. I think I have seen it all, done it all pretty much. In the end I guess it comes down to finding the right person to grow old with. The life of work, workout eat and sleep is starting to grow old on me. I guess I need to go snowboarding more, some fresh mountain air might do me some good, but I spend my nights on the computer and on the forum with you guys, which I am very grateful for, but is this all there is? I am going to turn 30 and I look back on my life and I guess I am happy with the things I have done but looking forward to the future it looks like it is going to be a lot of the same mundane stuff as I am doing right now. I just dont see the "oh my 30's are great" I dont get that feeling.
I cant be with my gf this weekend do to circumstances out of my control. And my buddy txt me and said if I want to go out for a drink...so go to another crowded bar and try to impress the ladies which I don't really care about. I dont know if its California or everywhere, but its just so hard to get ahead here. So expensive, and the friends you meet end up moving or loosing touch with. it sucks. Sometimes I feel a slave to the gym, like if miss a workout or cardio session I am going to regret that later. Probably one of the reasons I am more liberal with my diet than most members here cause eating good (not the healthiest) all the time makes me feel good. I had a pop tart today and I felt like a kid again. Times goes I guess.

I guess I wish I could look to the horizon and see something great coming.

[Eddie_m63]

If it makes you feel better I'll be 32 in April and still single with no wife and no kids...like one of my friends said you can **** as many girls as you want but at the end of the day there's still an empty bed.

[Razor]

I consider even having a gf still being single...cause anything can happen at anytime and its over..so yea I'm single as well
Same thing at wedding the flowers are about to be tossed, they ask for all the single ladies

[lovbyts]

Start to travel while you can. Once you are married or tied down with a significant other you may loose the opportunity. If you start to travel it will open your eyes to the world in ways you never though possible and you wont feel so stuck. I wish I had done a lot more and especially when I was younger. I mean go visit other countries. I dont know anyone and have never heard of anyone who has traveled who said they wished they didnt.

Dont settle for what the majority has, the feeling/wanting of family, not yet. Not until you get more experience.

[FONZY007]

I'm 30 and have 4 kids and awesome wife, I wouldnt change a thing, but when younger had more time to explore places like lovbyts has stated...

[Razor]

I'm 30 and have 4 kids and awesome wife, I wouldnt change a thing, but when younger had more time to explore places like lovbyts has stated...

I envy what you have

[lovbyts]

I envy what you have

Most everyone envy's what someone else has, the grass is always greener on the other side.
Really, nothing wrong with having a family, significant other, someone you love and loves you but right now is the perfect opportunity to get out and see the world or at least part of it. Dont make BIG plans, just pick a place and go. Not some place that is just like home but some place different. I fell in love with Asia/Thailand my first trip. Not because of the women, not by any means but because it opened my eyes to a whole new world and people. It changed my life forever.

[Razor]

Most everyone envy's what someone else has, the grass is always greener on the other side.
Really, nothing wrong with having a family, significant other, someone you love and loves you but right now is the perfect opportunity to get out and see the world or at least part of it. Dont make BIG plans, just pick a place and go. Not some place that is just like home but some place different. I fell in love with Asia/Thailand my first trip. Not because of the women, not by any means but because it opened my eyes to a whole new world and people. It changed my life forever.

It just costs to much money to do something like that

[lovbyts]

It just costs to much money to do something like that

LOL, that is a drop in the bucket compared to a relationship and especially getting married or having kids. Honestly going on 2 or 3 weeks vacation to some place like Thailand, Philippines or many other places cost about the same a 1 or 2 months of serous dating.

Dont pass it up due to the cost because your reasoning is ass backwards. Travel (not typical resort vacationing) is invaluable when it comes to life experiences and how it can open your mind. Trust us old guys when we say you will never regret it if you do it but you will if you dont.

[Dr Pepper]

Have you considered moving to another country or even state seeing as the US has so many and making a fresh start?

I have felt the same as you and I'm just waiting about another 12 months till I finish my study and then I'm going to move overseas to work somewhere differant for a couple of years. Most likely the US. I think it will help me grow and mature more especially being on my own knowing nobody. And as the wise man Lovbyts said better to do it now when you have the freedom...

[Razor]

Born in Texas, Lived in Hawaii, and been over to the sandbox with the military a few times. Been to London, Paris and a few other places. After my divorce decided to start anew and move to California. Been great the past 2 years, my brother even followed me out there. But my best friend just moved away and my brother is thinking about moving his gf from Texas out here and I am tired of being here. If I was to travel, I know one guy that might be able to go with me from here, other than that it would be by myself, I dont know how fun that would be. Is it?

[FONZY007]

I envy what you have

But lost the body I had when I meet her! Shit haven't been to the gym in 3 months

[Dr Pepper]

Born in Texas, Lived in Hawaii, and been over to the sandbox with the military a few times. Been to London, Paris and a few other places. After my divorce decided to start anew and move to California. Been great the past 2 years, my brother even followed me out there. But my best friend just moved away and my brother is thinking about moving his gf from Texas out here and I am tired of being here. If I was to travel, I know one guy that might be able to go with me from here, other than that it would be by myself, I dont know how fun that would be. Is it?

I dunno brother. Maybe the best thing to do would be to go by yourself. Forget about everyone else for a while and just concentrate on yourself... What line of work are you in? Would it be easy to find work overseas somewhere?

[Razor]

I dunno brother. Maybe the best thing to do would be to go by yourself. Forget about everyone else for a while and just concentrate on yourself... What line of work are you in? Would it be easy to find work overseas somewhere?

I would not have to work while I travel. I saved tons of money when I was younger. Where would I go? The world seems so dangerous when you cant carry a gun and are not sitting in a tank.

[wmaousley]

I just turned 30 last month and got very depressed for about a day then got over it.

[lovbyts]

I dunno brother. Maybe the best thing to do would be to go by yourself. Forget about everyone else for a while and just concentrate on yourself... What line of work are you in? Would it be easy to find work overseas somewhere?

Agreed, go by yourself. I have alwasy traveled with friend be it wife or friends and going by myself was the best experience I could have ever done.

None of the places you mention with the exception of Afghanistan count as traveling or having a real experience and even Afghanistan you were mostly under orders and control. Honestly, if there is one thing I would emphasize to most anyone especially in your situation it's get out, go somewhere, especially somewhere different.

LOL no need to carry a gun unless you are stupid. Dont put yourself in danger. Dont go out and get drunk/stupid around strangers. I was told to not go many of the places I went in Philippines especially alone but as long as you are away of your surroundings I think you are safe for the most part. I have also never felt so comfortable and free as when I was in these places I should not be.

I LOVE the day markets even those that most of the upper class Filipinos wont go. I loved being around real people, real culture. It's amazing seeing how happy people with so little can be. I made many friends. I went home for lunch with one taxi driver and meet his family. I'm not the outgoing, risk taking kind of guy but in these places I'm a different person.

[Razor]

Maybe I really need to get focused and win a couple competition around here. IDK
If I take off and go travel I have to leave my gf behind cause she cant come with me.
Hence why I feel so stuck all the time
My mom told me I have "golden hancuffs" I think she is right

[Razor]

Agreed, go by yourself. I have alwasy traveled with friend be it wife or friends and going by myself was the best experience I could have ever done.

None of the places you mention with the exception of Afghanistan count as traveling or having a real experience and even Afghanistan you were mostly under orders and control. Honestly, if there is one thing I would emphasize to most anyone especially in your situation it's get out, go somewhere, especially somewhere different.

Yes Iraq and Afghan do not count. You seem to know what you are talking about..where should I go?

[lovbyts]

Yes Iraq and Afghan do not count. You seem to know what you are talking about..where should I go?

Everyone is different so that's a hard question to answer. I had done a bit of the typical travels around your age, Hawaii, Mexico, Caribbean, cruises and a few of the islands but for me and I know many who felt the same my first trip to Thailand was life changing. I really cant explain it but it's the first time it made me sick to come home. The best I can explain it was how a kid would feel home sick. How someone just has a longing to get home. That's how I felt when I had to leave, like I was leaving home. I feel pretty much the same way about Philippines.

Dont go someplace where you have all your creature comforts. Get out as far from the big city as possible but also spend time there. I love walking the city. I can walk for hours just looking at things and people. I dont mean around malls or the nice/clean parts of city, touristy areas but were real people are. Do spend time in the resort areas also and enjoy people and the culture it has to offer, that's all part of it. If I could, if I had the freedom of time, age and health I would love to spend a couple weeks or more back packing across parts of Asia. There are many groups that do this as well as internet forums of people who are doing, who have done it or going to and sharing information.

My #1 best Mexico vacation was not in Cancun spring break (it was fun) or my other visits to Cancun, visiting pyramids, Cabo where I have a time share or other resort destinations. My best trip was on a cruise where a buddy and I got back 1hr late to our cruise ship in Cozumel and our ship was on it's way to Belize. We were told to wait for the return in 3 and it was impossible for us to make it to Belize unless we flew. We got to the mainland and took several cross country local buses until we reached the Belize border and then another bus to the main city where we meet up with our ship only hours after it had docked. We had zero fund $$$ by the time we made it and the border crossing guard let us pass even though we were $4.50 short. It was my first adventure and by far the best in Mexico. After that every trip I make sure to get off the beaten path and visit areas most people dont even just walking the back streets or town. I would not advise it in Mexico at the current time due to the drug situation.

I do the same thing in Asian countries and love it. People are great, friendly and real. I have walked 1/2 from where I was staying to a gas station to get a morning espresso (needed my fix) and on the way back was invited to sit and talk with some locals along side the road and have a drink of local spirits. Yes there are a lot of crooks, bad guys out there but if you are good at being able to tell the good from the bad you will do fine. I have also found that the few bad ones are not very bad if you stand your ground but at the same time do not try to intimidate them or make them loose face. You can respectfully stand up to someone without making them look bad or making yourself look weak. A little respect goes a long way.

Like I said, for me it was/is Asian countries. If I went to some place like Australia I would want to do a walkabout. I hope you can figure out something. Other than the GF it's sounds like the perfect opportunity for you. You are not so young you are going to do STUPID things and no one is going to take advantage of your youth. You are not to old to get out and enjoy it all and dont have the physical limitations some of us have. I'm still not letting it stop my, only slow me down a little.

Your mom is probably right about the golden handcuffs. Use it in your advantage instead of letting it hold you back.

DAMN did I really just write all that? LOL You can see I'm a little passionate about the subject.

[Gym_]

Anyone feel stuck in their life?

Lately yes.. hopefully the HRT will fix that for me

[slfmade]

My priorities have changed so much in the past 5 years. 5 Years ago I wanted a lamborghini, a huge business, making millions a year, with a huge house.

Now...I'm tired of being young, I'm tired of having all the stress. It's exhausting! I turn 30 in May and I'm selling my business, moving back to the south, and spending my days fishing. I can't wait. I'm ready for the simple life again, spending time with the people that are important to me, and saying the hell with the rest. I look forward to not having to plan out my days anymore...just doing whatever without the stress of life.

I used to be worried about turning 30 because I thought when I got to 30 my chances of being single for the rest of my life would increase. Fortunately for me, I have BrownGirl and our relationship is spotless. I will say that having a person you know you're going to spend the rest of your life with helps a lot, but at the same time I wouldn't go out and try to persue it. Let it come to you. From what I can tell...you seem to let relationships stress you out a lot. STOP THAT!

As some have said....I think it would help you out a lot to take some time alone on a vacation or whatever and just chill out.

[FONZY007]

Whatever you decide razr we are here for you brother... Shit I would love to have a cruiser and just ride, but again I have a bad back and don't know how long that will last.. Also have you talked to your Gf about all these feelings?

[slfmade]

Whatever you decide razr we are here for you brother... Shit I would love to have a cruiser and just ride, but again I have a bad back and don't know how long that will last.. Also have you talked to your Gf about all these feelings?

Probably too soon for that. They've only been together a couple of weeks. No need to freak her out just yet.

[lovbyts]

Whatever you decide razr we are here for you brother... Shit I would love to have a cruiser and just ride, but again I have a bad back and don't know how long that will last.. Also have you talked to your Gf about all these feelings?

I also have a bad back, 2 surgeries, L3, L4 & L5/S1. You know what funny? Mine feels better when I ride my quads or jet skis so I would not be afraid of riding a bike if I was you, just try not to crash. LOL BTW I still crash a lot but so far so good.

[slfmade]

I also have a bad back, 2 surgeries, L3, L4 & L5/S1. You know what funny? Mine feels better when I ride my quads or jet skis so I would not be afraid of riding a bike if I was you, just try not to crash. LOL BTW I still crash a lot but so far so good.

Check your pm's tomorrow. I just found out Friday that the disc between L5,S1 is completely gone. Complete Bone and Bone! They said I would need to eventually get surgery...sooner than later. I don't want to hijack razr's thread, plus I'm about to go to bed. But tomorrow I'll pm you with some questions.

[FONZY007]

I also have a bad back, 2 surgeries, L3, L4 & L5/S1. You know what funny? Mine feels better when I ride my quads or jet skis so I would not be afraid of riding a bike if I was you, just try not to crash. LOL BTW I still crash a lot but so far so good.

Lol mine is my L5 is missing a corner which helps the L5 and L4 interlock so if I bend wrong I actually feel it move and bam my back is out.. I have a ninja that I flipped over about 6 months back fixing it now, I did about 1200 bucks damage ugh

[Honkey_Kong]

Razr, I feel sometimes stuck in my life too. Between my job, univ and just going to the gym, I don't have much time for too much else. But when I feel stuck in my life, I either call up my dad, my brother or a couple friends and make plans to go hunting, fishing or even a round of golf. You know just something something that I enjoy and feel relaxed afterwards from. What works for you probably will be different from me or anybody else.

[xo3et]

For me to feel my life stucks... I would need a Life..

I have spent the best part of the last 10years of my life ever competing in Boxing or working overseas. My friends have started to marry (Which ive missed both so far due to work) and i have no real direction. I have no idea what job to do back home and If I spend more than 2weeks at home i go focking Bananas with the bullshit of everyday life.

All this said. I did have a good point in my life about 5years ago I had 12mths at home building upon a life with my GF and had some great hobbies. That was lost when i had a fisty cuffs with her brother and i took a career change.


But hey Ho, live and learn. Fu^k it, i'm off to the gym.

[Bryan2]

Everyone soul searches,

best advice I can give to you as Im going through a very similar path as you.....

write down everything you want to experience/see in life. Then go do it.

You will be incredibly surprised on how writing it down makes you actually go out and do it.

[lovbyts]

Everyone soul searches,

best advice I can give to you as Im going through a very similar path as you.....

write down everything you want to experience/see in life. Then go do it.

You will be incredibly surprised on how writing it down makes you actually go out and do it.

Once you are over 40 it's called a bucket list. LOL
I remember when I put down having a 3some, 2 girls + me. Now my list has a 5some on it, 4 girls + me since the others have been crossed out.

[DSM4Life]

Start to travel while you can. Once you are married or tied down with a significant other you may loose the opportunity. If you start to travel it will open your eyes to the world in ways you never though possible and you wont feel so stuck. I wish I had done a lot more and especially when I was younger. I mean go visit other countries. I dont know anyone and have never heard of anyone who has traveled who said they wished they didnt.

Dont settle for what the majority has, the feeling/wanting of family, not yet. Not until you get more experience.

I've gone to the Jersey shore, does that count?

[Armykid93]

I feel like my life is finally starting haha i'm pretty excited

[Razor]

I feel like my life is finally starting haha i'm pretty excited

Yea I remember when I was a fresh boot off to boot camp. I was scared shitless but it was rewarding.

[bjpennnn]

hey man, I just broke up with the girl of my dreams. I have always been a player but this one made a true gentleman out of me, i honestly was ready to marry her. A week before vday too...I was thinking about what made me so happy while i was with her. Days before I broke up with her i spent the weekend with my parents and i told them that this was the happiest i had ever been in my life. When we broke up a few days later and i was feeling a million different emotions, i felt really down. Then i asked myself what really changed? I still had all the other awesome things going on for me in my life I was just without an amazing girl. I had been feeling a little like what you are talking about...but you have to realize happiness is a state of mind man.

You need to change your perspective of how you are looking at your life. Try coming from the perspective of thankfulness. Thankful for the experiences you have had, thankful for your health, thankful for your girl, thankful for your family. And at the end of the day is there really anything more important then those?

Life is a journey man...the lows make the ups feel that much better. And to tell you the truth when ever i am struggling emotionally or with anything that is when i feel the most alive. Good luck bro, I hope you find what you are searching for<3

[glacierlakes]

Everyone feels like that some (or most) of the time, depending on your personality. I think we all have set very high expectations for what we want (and expect) from life. Just as none of us are promised tomorrow, we're not promised happiness either. Or love. Or enlightenment. Or fulfillment. That said, we're not promised a life of boredom or misery. Life is neutral. It's that bright, clean white on the walls of your apartment or house. Paint some shit on yours if you're sick of staring at a blank wall. I also think this is the point in your life where you're seeking to attain a deeper understanding of yourself and why you're alive. I'm not calling you shallow, so please don't interpret it as such, but there's more to life than spending all of your time making yourself more physically attractive and only associating with "beautiful" people. Volunteer your time, man. Go spend an afternoon with the seniors at the nursing home. Volunteer at the VA and be a buddy for a fellow soldier in need. Volunteer at a soup kitchen. Do something to help the greater good instead of just focusing on yourself. Break free from your comfort zones and help out your fellow man.

[Julz_W]

Best bet is to find something you like and just dive into that - you'll find you're going to develop relationships and interesting things will come of it.

I jumped a plane to move O/S and am now starting to really miss my gym - but there are new opportunities that have come from my moving here and I'm now stuck trying to figure out wtf to do. Generally speaking, more things come as a result of getting involved with something you enjoy. Find something new for you and see where it takes you.

+1 to the advice from Glacier - you'll feel more grounded and thankful if you help out those less fortunate which is always a bonus.

[Razor]

hey man, I just broke up with the girl of my dreams. I have always been a player but this one made a true gentleman out of me, i honestly was ready to marry her. A week before vday too...I was thinking about what made me so happy while i was with her. Days before I broke up with her i spent the weekend with my parents and i told them that this was the happiest i had ever been in my life. When we broke up a few days later and i was feeling a million different emotions, i felt really down. Then i asked myself what really changed? I still had all the other awesome things going on for me in my life I was just without an amazing girl. I had been feeling a little like what you are talking about...but you have to realize happiness is a state of mind man.

You need to change your perspective of how you are looking at your life. Try coming from the perspective of thankfulness. Thankful for the experiences you have had, thankful for your health, thankful for your girl, thankful for your family. And at the end of the day is there really anything more important then those?

Life is a journey man...the lows make the ups feel that much better. And to tell you the truth when ever i am struggling emotionally or with anything that is when i feel the most alive. Good luck bro, I hope you find what you are searching for<3

Thanks man, and really sorry to hear about your breakup. The most important things in life are what you mentioned. I hope I can find something that truly inspires me to new heights.

[cyounger100]

If it makes you feel better I'll be 32 in April and still single with no wife and no kids...like one of my friends said you can **** as many girls as you want but at the end of the day there's still an empty bed.

im 31 not married 2 kids same age 2 different woman you guys are all lucky trust me

[tcw]

I had lunch with an old bud of mine today. He's been through hell and is still kickin. He got depressed a few years ago...even talked about taking his life. Found out later...that he was Chemically depressed.

Apparently, the Mind and Brain are just like any other organ. It breaks down...and can make you very ill. Just like your appendix can break down...so can you mind. There's is nothing to be ashamed of...as its not your fault.

Peaks and valleys dude...this is what life's about. Accept it.

Life is not easy....If you are able to accept the fact that life is not easy...then life becomes "easier." Its when we think its supposed to be easy that we get ourselves in trouble. Its never easy....EVER. Even when things are great and the monies rolling in...you're in perfect health, etc, you STILL have to be dam straight sharp as a knife..because someone's always lookin to Con you or Troll your arse.

Thats just the way it is.

Always remember, that tomorrow is another day...and you never know what a day may bring.

Never give up...never give up!