Why My Life Sucks by CDP

[cherrydrpepper]

Just feeling down and wondering if anyone else out there has the balls to admit they are too among other things. So what is so bad about my life hmm.. Im alone a lot. I mean a lot like 5 out of 7 days a week. I go to work I hate my job and its a very clique-y hostile environment. Its hostile to the tune of someone will start working there and be like a normal nice human being and a week later they are avoiding eye contact and not saying hi to you in the hall like someone got to them and said this list ok to talk to this list of people not ok. I moved for the job so no lifting bros no good best friends. Been doing long distance with gf hating it. Can't seem to leave said gf for different reasons one shes my friend and I care about her two it would be hard to get as good as her if i gave her up. Have to live in same town as paranoid schizophrenic mother (if you don't have a family member whos really truly crazy you might not understand, but when you grow up you don't want to live within a hundred miles of them), haven't been to an AA meeting in forever, really close to a drink, seem to be getting hammered about once a week totally blackout shit faced. Oh and coming off cycle so got to love that. Can't seem to get motivated to put in job applications even though its my ticket out only myself to blame for that. My fking credit card is maxxed out and I cant even figure out why im not snorting blow or fking hookers on the weekend. Aggravated rotator cuff for 3rd time in a couple of years to point could not move arm, just starting to get back to normal, and lifts will be pathetic for a while. Have to live in a town where ive made enough enemies have to watch my back anytime I go out small hick sister fking town. Live across from young couple guy is cool girl is one of those girls who thinks having a big rack and a butter face means when I say hi she should pretend to not have heard me. Fk im sure im leaving something out but those are the shittiest. Oh and then I make a post like this and someone will say something asstarded like well you don't have cancer or something and thats supposed to cheer me up. Show me picture of guy who lost his dik in a fishing accident or something i might start to feel grateful.

[RA]

My life has ran in cycles. I just came out of maybe the worst one. I could go into it but I would be here all night. I just stuck it out and kept going after what I wanted. I know a lot of successful people. You know what they have in common? Certainly not an over abundance of brains lol. They are all persistant. They drive $150,000 cars but would bug you over $5 for 6 months till you paid up. I know there isnt anything that I can say thats just going to cheer you up. I know life is shit right now. Ive been there. Just avoid the assholes and stay persistant. Youll get there.

[xelnaga]

Good thread. Anyone that wants to gripe should add to it.

My life sucks as well. Ive come to embrace it. Around 6 years ago I got busted by the DEA, my girlfriend of 6 years left me, my life long friend promptly asked her out- so he was gone and my whole life crumbled before my eyes. I was top of my class at very good east coast college- one of my former roommates sent the dean the news paper clippings, I was expelled. My conservative law abiding family was too shocked to even comprehend what had taken place. Every day from that point on something got added to my shit pile. One day I decided to drive to the shooting range to put a slug into the side of my head. I rented a 45 and didnt have enough money to buy a box of 50 shells, so I asked the guy if I could just buy the pack of 10 they sell. He took one look at me, took the 45, and gave me my ID back.

Anyway from that day forward I decided to live deliberately. Every morning I wake up and decide to move forward.

This too shall pass.

[xelnaga]

I should add that I started donating my time at retirement communities and found jobs working with kids- service jobs keep you focused on helping others, and are a good way to get your attention off of yourself.

[frank13]

I'm in the same boat i work alone i go to gym alone I'm alone all the time unless i go out on a Friday or Saturday night i work a incredibly hard job that does not pay enough and self loathing has become my new favorite pastime. well at least you don't have cancer or something lol (cancer may be a relief at this point)

[JohnnyVegas]

Show me picture of guy who lost his dik in a fishing accident or something i might start to feel grateful.

I hate people giving me the "it will get better" line, so I will avoid it. Everything is cyclical. Maybe you can kick start the cycle by making a change. Move to another town, or change your relationship with your girlfriend. Look for jobs wherever your girl is and maybe to can do both things at once.

He took one look at me, took the 45, and gave me my ID back.

What is his address, so we can send him a thank you card. Seriously, that was a turning point.

[xelnaga]

Thanks JV!

[RA]

I should add that I started donating my time at retirement communities and found jobs working with kids- service jobs keep you focused on helping others, and are a good way to get your attention off of yourself.

Best medicine really. Working with younger kids is awesome. I do a lot of coaching and its so fun. I miss it in the off season.

[JD250]

At least you don't have cancer.....and your penis doesn't have teeth like this guys.

[RA]

OMG WTF is that????

[cherrydrpepper]

I hate to sound stupid, but have you guys or maybe not personal but someone you know ever really changed their work ethic when it comes to employment/work? I ask because i've always been a middle of the pack worker.. wanting to make sure I had time to hang with friends and live my life. But lately I am noticing the people who end up giving their life to work sometimes it was a good play and they do get the $$ to go with it, the respect, etc. Its wierd and maybe its cause im 30 but I always thought those people were giving up the good stuff, but lately I notice other than gym what is so great in my personal life that an extra hour at work wouldn't have been the answer to a better future.

[Hazard]

fvck..... everyone has hard times. Thats not to say that your's are any less trouble than others but you just hafta move forward. I'm going through hard times myself right now.... I wont go into details.... many know already. Not much I can do about it.... i just try to focus on my daughter, my training, and whats going to make me happy.

~Haz~

[xelnaga]

I hate to sound stupid, but have you guys or maybe not personal but someone you know ever really changed their work ethic when it comes to employment/work? I ask because i've always been a middle of the pack worker.. wanting to make sure I had time to hang with friends and live my life. But lately I am noticing the people who end up giving their life to work sometimes it was a good play and they do get the $$ to go with it, the respect, etc. Its wierd and maybe its cause im 30 but I always thought those people were giving up the good stuff, but lately I notice other than gym what is so great in my personal life that an extra hour at work wouldn't have been the answer to a better future.

YES! When i worked at crap jobs I put in crap effort/ and crap time. When I started working with kids- I worked 7 days a week. I left my phone on for weekend calls. Because I knew my work made a difference.

[JD250]

Do something you love and you'll never work another day in your life.........keep your chin up bro, we all have been there before and I can assure that this will pass and soon you'll look back at it as nothing more than a rough spot in your life.

[RA]

Just depends on what you want bro. I have a sis that decided she wanted to make more money so after having 3 kids she went to law school and makes a shitload of money just helping people online. Another sis was a teacher and decided that wasnt enough so she went to medical school. She has 3 houses and including one in Aspen but she also lives and breathes medicine and works mad hours. I know what you mean about balancing the two but money=freedom.

[lovbyts]

I dont think there are very many here who was born with a silver spoon in their mouth so to speak and hasnt had life throw them more than one curve. Life is about learning lessons and making choices. If you dont like the way things are going change it. Sure it seems easy for people who have $$$ but they have their own problems I'm sure. If you think it's impossible try going to a 3rd world country and see how much people sacrifice to go to school and get an education alone.

I could post a long rant just about the last 1yr of all the sh*t that has happened to me but what good will it do? I have managed to turn most of it into a positive one way or another and those that arent I'm still working on it.

Take a walk in the city and you will see a lot of people who have it a lot worse than you if you open your eyes.

[marcus300]

Just feeling down and wondering if anyone else out there has the balls to admit they are too among other things. So what is so bad about my life hmm.. Im alone a lot. I mean a lot like 5 out of 7 days a week. I go to work I hate my job and its a very clique-y hostile environment. Its hostile to the tune of someone will start working there and be like a normal nice human being and a week later they are avoiding eye contact and not saying hi to you in the hall like someone got to them and said this list ok to talk to this list of people not ok. I moved for the job so no lifting bros no good best friends. Been doing long distance with gf hating it. Can't seem to leave said gf for different reasons one shes my friend and I care about her two it would be hard to get as good as her if i gave her up. Have to live in same town as paranoid schizophrenic mother (if you don't have a family member whos really truly crazy you might not understand, but when you grow up you don't want to live within a hundred miles of them), haven't been to an AA meeting in forever, really close to a drink, seem to be getting hammered about once a week totally blackout shit faced. Oh and coming off cycle so got to love that. Can't seem to get motivated to put in job applications even though its my ticket out only myself to blame for that. My fking credit card is maxxed out and I cant even figure out why im not snorting blow or fking hookers on the weekend. Aggravated rotator cuff for 3rd time in a couple of years to point could not move arm, just starting to get back to normal, and lifts will be pathetic for a while. Have to live in a town where ive made enough enemies have to watch my back anytime I go out small hick sister fking town. Live across from young couple guy is cool girl is one of those girls who thinks having a big rack and a butter face means when I say hi she should pretend to not have heard me. Fk im sure im leaving something out but those are the shittiest. Oh and then I make a post like this and someone will say something asstarded like well you don't have cancer or something and thats supposed to cheer me up. Show me picture of guy who lost his dik in a fishing accident or something i might start to feel grateful.

I am going to be blunt in my reply but I am trying to help you so hang in there

The issues you talk about are nothing to other peoples misery or upset, your living a dream life to what some have to go through or deal with. Life is a journey so there are many ups & downs you have to go through and at times your will feel like everything is against you. You have to focus on the positives in your life and steer away from the negatives. If your life is going in circles and your repeating mistakes over again or you feel your in a rut then YOU have to make a change what will break the cycle you keep repeating otherwise you will carry on repeating and feeling the same. There is only one person who can CHANGE this and thats you, make positive steps to change and get out of your circle your in.

You may think everything is against you and your life is dull and sad but just think of people in a worse position than you. I know, no matter what anyone says things what are effecting you will seem more important than anyone else but for one day why don't you go and volunteer at a cancer hospice especially in the children's ward and I guarantee your views on your life will change. Yes the day will be sad and you will no doubt cry many times but your own life will start to change. You never know volunteering may be something you keep up on doing to help less fortunate people than yourself.

Your problems/issues you write about are nothing and if these minor problems are effecting you in this way your in for some serious pain & upset when the major life problems hit you!!! Make positive steps to change this circle your in otherwise you will be posting a similar thread in years to come.

[awms]

You are not going to want to hear this but you need to! Never feel sorry for you self! EVER! successful people dont feel sorry for them sefls...you have two options in life 1# think about all dwell on all the negative things in you life, and 2# thank god every day for your health, buck up, and start to change your life for the better....what sounds better? No your life might not be glamorous right now but so what? If you are not happy with your job then go look for a new one that you will enjoy, If you dont like the city you live in then move....will it be easy? no of course not but if you spent as much time thinking about how you are going to make your life better rather then dwelling on all the bad thing you will always live a shit life.

Pray about it man! and then be open for opportunities! My old man always said to me "God doesnt give us things he gives us opportunities"...you have to be out looking to make your life better every day, you have to stay positive and be around positive people! stop this pitty party! its no good for you and yeah it would be easy to drink your self silly but what would that accomplish? thats like throwing gas on a fire...you think it will make you feel better?

Dont worry things will get better but only if you want them to...do you?

[Times Roman]

i spent last night writhing in pain post op. everyone's life sucks from time to time.

[JAB1]

I noticed you said that you havent been to AA in a while and your drinking. THAT is the biggest issue . Get into a program and find a good sponsor, and things will get better. Every day you drink or dont commit to your program you are letting yourself down and this is eating you up inside. Thats the problem with admitting you have a problem, and why most people live in denial. Once you face it you either make the right choices or you conciously dont, and that creates a sense of lowered self worth, etc. I have seen this my whole life and there is one option for a better life for you...SOBRIETY. You desrerve peace of mind, and all the friends/money/whatever wont give it to you if your actions are eating away at you soul.

[Razor]

Im addicted to performance enhancing drugs and prescribed psychotropic medication..my life sucks

[SexySweetheart]

i agree with everyone.
and mind set will def change everything for you hell if your at the bottom, all you have left is sh!t to get better or wollow in it lol
aknowledging it sucks and seeing it for all it is ...a first step ~ done (your def doin that)
next step lay it all out with bullett points on each changable issue and list ways some one else in the situation could change it (sometimes our problems are easyer to solve if we approch them as someone else prob/more objective) ...than do it!

every small change adds up to one big step in the right direction

forget about yesterday, and focus on the today stuff you choose to do




may sound corney but ...burn a cd of self hypnosis for possitive thinking/listen to as you sleep ~ helps pull you out of negitive thought process and focus on possitive/possibilities/motovate for change

[grumpee]

Besides finally reaching my body building goals this year my life sucks. No reason bitching about it because it does nothing but keep you negative and down.

My wife of 15 years is on her way out with my daughter

I have not made money since spring of 2009

I have had to sell my diesel trucks, bassboats and quads

I had to file chapter 7 and had all my remaining assets seized

Girls tell me I intimidate them and look like a player etc ( wtf?)

it is what it is and all I can do is put a smile on my face and keep a postive attitude. Lost everything but im in the best shape of my life and physically feel great so who cares. Things could be worse

[JuicyJ]

I rented a 45 and didnt have enough money to buy a box of 50 shells, so I asked the guy if I could just buy the pack of 10 they sell. He took one look at me, took the 45, and gave me my ID back.

Anyway from that day forward I decided to live deliberately. Every morning I wake up and decide to move forward.

This too shall pass.

wow, that is crazy. I'm happy to see that you are pushing on!

[Honkey_Kong]

Im addicted to performance enhancing drugs and prescribed psychotropic medication..my life sucks

^^I'm pretty most of the people on this site enjoy indulging in some PEDs.

My life is awesome minus working too much. I mean shit, it can always be better, but it can get a lot worse too. But you all who think your life is shit have to look at it like this. Every second that passes is one second to your life that you can't get back. If your job sucks, get a different one. If you hate your wife, get divorced. Figure out what makes you happen and pursue that.

For me, I'm content and happy just from living by myself, playing guitar, working out, watching football and baseball and hanging out with friends and my family. Nobody lives a perfect life every day, but everybody is capable of being happy.

[Hazard]

^^I'm pretty most of the people on this site enjoy indulging in some PEDs.

My life is awesome minus working too much. I mean shit, it can always be better, but it can get a lot worse too. But you all who think your life is shit have to look at it like this. Every second that passes is one second to your life that you can't get back. If your job sucks, get a different one. If you hate your wife, get divorced. Figure out what makes you happen and pursue that.

For me, I'm content and happy just from living by myself, playing guitar, working out, watching the patriots lose the superbowl and baseball and hanging out with friends and my family. Nobody lives a perfect life every day, but everybody is capable of being happy.

^^^^ Fixed

~Haz~

[Honkey_Kong]

^^^^ Fixed

~Haz~

The Patriots are going to be even better next year. This last year was just a rebuilding year and we still won the AFC. And we have all year now to watch the Red Sox stomp on the Yankees.

[Razor]

Every second that passes is one second to your life that you can't get back. .

Or every passing second is another chance to turn it around.

[Honkey_Kong]

Or every passing second is another chance to turn it around.

That's true too.

[tcw]

Sounds about Par for the Course.....

Besides finally reaching my body building goals this year my life sucks. No reason bitching about it because it does nothing but keep you negative and down.

My wife of 15 years is on her way out with my daughter

I have not made money since spring of 2009

I have had to sell my diesel trucks, bassboats and quads

I had to file chapter 7 and had all my remaining assets seized

Girls tell me I intimidate them and look like a player etc ( wtf?)

it is what it is and all I can do is put a smile on my face and keep a postive attitude. Lost everything but im in the best shape of my life and physically feel great so who cares. Things could be worse

[Hazard]

The Patriots are going to be even better next year. This last year was just a rebuilding year and we still won the AFC. And we have all year now to watch the Red Sox stomp on the Yankees.

I'm not worried about football..... wont be for sometime now. It's the lack of pitching the yanks have that scares me..... oh well. You guys always beat us durring the regular season so I wont get too excited over wins or loss's to the sox. I get pissed when the playoffs hit and we lose to you haha

~Haz~

[Toefl101]

Hay man felt like I had to reply and give you my experience because a year ago I was in a vary dark place. Everything in my life seemed to go wrong, I lost my best friend and mentor to a car accident, I started to hate everyone and everything around me, secluded myself from the world, and felt sorry for myself. I became severely depressed to the point where I even considered suicide.... It was the darkest time in my life and I knew if I kept on that road that I would not make it. So I took a step back to evaluate everything, took myself out of the situation went on vacation to clear my head. I realized that I should not feel sorry for myself that I should feel angry that I could let my life get to this point. Everything from that point on was done to fix this problem I cant really tell you how I got here because I myself don't know. Im happy and have been for a while. Yes I still go through periods where I feel like S#$%, there are times where I dont want to get up in the morning but I just say to myself never again and make sure to keep myself motivated on a certain thing I want to obtain in life and focus on it. The worst thing you can do is feel bad and sorry for yourself you have to realize that life is a certain way because you make it that way, nobody has control over your life besides you. Just keep moving forward things can only get better when they are at their worse. Dont tell yourself ohh at least I dont have cancer or things like that which really dont solve the problem but cover it up you have to face it head on, deal with it of course your life could be worse it always could no matter who you are. Ive typed this post twice now trying to put into words whats in my head and what I went through this really is just a shortening of the full story which was much longer and worse. Anyway hope this helped even a bit.

[cherrydrpepper]

Without getting sappy want to say thanks everyone and you guys (and girls) inspire me. You know sometimes all the bad stuff in life its like you get so turned around you dont even know who you are anymore. Feelings get lost and its like my heart went from red and full of life and passion to just stone cold gray. I had a happy thought at work, thinking about my lifting buddy and all the crazy shit we used to get into, and we're still friends but I only get to see him once in a while. Ive got to set goals and get back to that place cause life is just too short and I dont want to be sitting around laughing and smiling to myself about what used to be instead of what is. But you know thats enough pity party going to put one foot in front of the other starting with some deadlifts tonight and sober outing to the club.

[BrownGirl]

Without getting sappy want to say thanks everyone and you guys (and girls) inspire me. You know sometimes all the bad stuff in life its like you get so turned around you dont even know who you are anymore. Feelings get lost and its like my heart went from red and full of life and passion to just stone cold gray. I had a happy thought at work, thinking about my lifting buddy and all the crazy shit we used to get into, and we're still friends but I only get to see him once in a while. Ive got to set goals and get back to that place cause life is just too short and I dont want to be sitting around laughing and smiling to myself about what used to be instead of what is. But you know thats enough pity party going to put one foot in front of the other starting with some deadlifts tonight and sober outing to the club.

Kudos to you CDP!!! That's the spirit...Keep your chin up! Good luck to you buddy....Don't let life get you down!

[alexISthrowed]

What happened to the the hostile latina you work with?

[lovbyts]

You know if it's girl problems that are messing with your head a lot maybe DSM could give you some advise.

[Honkey_Kong]

I'm not worried about football..... wont be for sometime now. It's the lack of pitching the yanks have that scares me..... oh well. You guys always beat us durring the regular season so I wont get too excited over wins or loss's to the sox. I get pissed when the playoffs hit and we lose to you haha

~Haz~

I'm really only scared about who is getting the closer spot. I wished we kept Wakefield as a setup guy. And I'm a little nervous about September. That's when we fall apart.

[manmanman]

I feel like having a tell aswell

I'm 20, almost 21.this is being my 3rd year out of school. I work a horrible job that abuses staff and is just a shit place to be a part of. I try to save but end up goin out on my nights off and wasting money. I always hear or see someone I know getting closer and closer to what they want.

I know I need to save better, and drinking is a issue which is why I've been trying to go sober, it's hard when you put up with tons of shit at work and want to relax with a few, but sleep is better.


My main question is: how do you know what you want?

I am unsure which path I want to take, it could be from fear or my heart doesn't go in one direction?

[manmanman]

Plus to make it worse,

Im unable to get my lisence till I'm
21, and I'm not a citizen in this country.

You wouldnt believe how easy it is for people from halfway across the world to get citizenship here but when it comes to a neighboring country its a different story lol.

[Honkey_Kong]

Plus to make it worse,

Im unable to get my lisence till I'm
21, and I'm not a citizen in this country.

You wouldnt believe how easy it is for people from halfway across the world to get citizenship here but when it comes to a neighboring country its a different story lol.

You know what you should do, is this weekend go out in to the hills or someplace secluded with a notebook and pen. Go for a long hike by yourself and think about what you want in life and how you can accomplish it. Then write everything down including the method in a notebook. When you come back, start to focus on the prescription you wrote for yourself on that hike. Trust me, this works.