
Originally Posted by
Bojangles69
theres two things you need to pick up chicks, inner game(90%) outergame(10%) outergame is knowing what to say, inner game is knowing how to say it. (theres much more to it, its more how you feel inside when you say something which leaks through your body language nonverbally) but it does NOT matter what you say. its all a self-fullfilling prophecy, its a game you play with yourself that you lose, not with other women. what ever you believe deep down that will happen when you approach a girl (talking about your deep inner beliefs) THAT is what will happen. you have to create an altered ego, by altering you behavoir EVERYDAY. its not about approaching hot girls, its about approaching fat girls, ugly girls, and even guys. its about approaching everyone. its about learning to deal with rejection, about learning how to not eject from a conversation, about learning to deal with really akward situations.
you know where confidence really comes from? one place.. conquering fears. if you have any fear besides approaching girls that are easier to conquer, start there. when you conquer that fear a liberating confidence will spread to other areas of your life and give you more power to conquer other fears. fearless people are confident people. which is why a lot of serial killers have a messiah-like superiority complex. thats one extreme.
it starts with in one place, discontent, a lot of people work on being more content, but where is the motivation when your content? you need motivation, you need reason to strive forward and work on yourself and do things outside of your character and your identity. eventually a new identity will emerge and that will be who you are. and you oldself will always try to come back and make you afraid but by then it will be to late.
learning thing like this take a year minimum for YOU to notice any change, about 3-5 years to confrom to a new identity and 5-10 years to master and own that identity. so be patient. know who you are.. which is really just your perception of who you are and you acting according to your perception to perpetuate that identity, your identity really doesnt exist, its a million different pereceptions, a lot of them flawed.
if you wish to really work on this i can point you in the right direction, pm me and ill tell you what i did, because i use to be painfully shy, and girls were a something i fantasized about, and the anger and discontent is what liberated me.