My wife is a C**T

[West Coast All Star]

Ok. a bit of a hijack here, but there can only be on dynamite on the board. I have cornered the market.

[bedrock]

Here is what I tell a newcomer to AA, in order of importance.
1. Go to meetings, if your new, everyday.
2. Get a sponsor, now ! And work the steps with him just as it is done in the Big Book.
3. Your sobriety is number 1, you can't control ANYONE only how you react to them. You take care of your sobriety and the rest will come.
4. It gets better.

On a side note, Make an effort to educate yourself on what Al-anon is, http://www.alanon.org.za/ Then make a copy of the Al-anon meeting schedule in your area and stick it on the fridge, when she asks you about it, explain what it is and that you looked it up for her cause you thought it might help her with YOUR problem, not hers. You have to swallow your pride at first, but if she goes and sticks with it she will prolly see that she also has some issues. You both need help bro.